I don't know about the provider, but I would never fake it... I can usually tell if a woman enjoys my DATY 'cause, I do other things that ensure the trip. As for me, when I drop the load, you are going to know how well I fared... no questions needed. Now the notion of wanting to improve is a good one, but customer service being what it is today and the lack of civility among the people's of this planet, you are asking for a bit much... Is NQNS (no quit, no spit) a form of what you would deem custserv? The average provider while very professional usually does not even thank you for coming over.

Read in Playboy years ago, you can never start too soft or too slow.

Teasing is pleasing.

Pay attention to what they say and how they react. While certain things are generally pleasing, each woman is unique. Pay attention to what the woman you are with is responding to.

Then practice.

I always ask if there is something specail I

can do for her .... and if there is anything she can maybe teach me so I can improve ..... but usually I leave them speachless ...

lickerguy wrote:

"The best businesses ask for feedback after a transaction, always looking for ways to improve."

This is why, against my own best instincts I like and value my reviews.  I read between the lines of even my best reviews for clues on how to improve.  But, part of the nature of being an escort is that the time we spend together is supposed to be transitory.  That's why I'm not comfortable with this sort of approach in terms of e-mail or phone conversations after the experience.

In terms of communicating immediately after the session, well, I still kind of balk at that.  It's like "Hey, that was great. Now, why don't you critique my performance.  Then, I'll critique yours.  Wanna?"  

I do understand what you are saying and I do think that most of us are always looking for feedback subtle or otherwise.  We want you to be having what you want to have and good communication is key.  But sometimes words ruin things.  They take away the mystery and the hands on physical process of getting to know someone.  But perhaps that is not how an escort should be thinking.  It's just that I don't want to deconstruct the unique experience we just had together.  

Ah, perhaps I didn't communicate so well in my original post?

I appreciate everyone's input, but wonder if maybe I didn't express myself clearly.

I'm approaching this with sincerity and humility -- the only way that seems reasonable to me when asking advice.  My intention is not to be negative, but rather upbuilding and encouraging.

As such, I'm sure we've all at one time or another said (or been told) things such as, "That feels great!" or "It is amazing how you do that!" or similar such genuine compliments.  Sometimes body language or other wordless audible expressions communicate clearly.  These voluntary responses surely must be valuable to the listener. They provide assurance that you're pressing the right buttons and your efforts are being appreciated.

My thought about asking advice later is merely an extension of that.  In the tender warm glow afterward, what would be more natural than asking with a warm smile, "Did you enjoy yourself?"  Following an affirmative response, perhaps one could ask, "What did you like best?"  It seems to me the reply to that question would naturally be encouraging and affirming since it focuses on the best and highest.  If that were the case, surely it might be safe to ask, "Got any advice on how I could improve even more?"

Naturally every one of us is different, so we could expect differing opinions on things. But perhaps if we meet again, and if we could remember the conversation, we might take each other's preferences into account. And if we repeatedly, from several people, hear the same input regarding highlights, we can be confident we are achieving excellence in that area. On the other hand, if we repeatedly hear the same possible area for improvement, if we sincerely want excellence, we would apply ourselves in that area.

I have to agree with greatrush’s response that said something to the effect that customer service "implies that someone cares." Probably there are some people in our circle who don't care about anything except their own selfish gratification. However I've read enough here to know that for many, many of you that is not how it is - you care about how you treat each other. As I read the posts, I sense a desire for greater civility and consideration, and for excellence.  For certain excellence is rewarded.

Regarding the question from greatrush about whether NQNS is a form of what I would deem customer service, I wasn’t particularly meaning that we insist on things that aren’t offered.  I am more interested in the excellence of what is offered.

Salivate’s post touched on a pertinent aspect.  It is likely that more comfortable communication results in repeated contact. Perhaps it often takes a few sessions for people to more naturally “open up.”  Yet the best salesmen have learned skills to put people at ease and help them feel comfortable quite soon. Very soon you begin to feel like they are someone you can rely on, someone who has your best interests in mind, someone whose advice will be sincere.  Couldn’t all of us learn enough of these skills that by the end of a session we all can “open up” comfortably? Isn’t this part of the pursuit of excellence?

I like SolaLove’s attitude. I predict this one will go far, regardless of her field of activity!  Ah, yeah, that alphabet soup....

I agree with hrnyguy that both male and female are part of the equation. That is why in my original post I applied the pursuit of excellence to both.

I’m sure the experience Mathesar described was wonderful!  Not only did he observe, he learned and applied it.  The pursuit of excellence in fulfillment!

I don’t entirely agree with SirPrize’s comment that if you have to ask, you weren’t so great. People vary in how much or how clearly they communicate. Sometimes you simply have to ask to make sure you understand.  On the other hand, if I wasn’t so great, an honest question and its honest answer will point me in the right direction.  I do agree 100% with his comments that one needs to pay attention to others’ responses.  I also agree that people vary, and that starting softly and slowly as well as teasing is good. Couldn’t this be the kind of helpful advice one might receive in the warm glow afterward, if one asked.

As far as spinner39, until I reach the pinnacle he’s achieved, I’ll do like he does and continue to ask if there is any thing special I can do, or how I might improve. I still consider myself to be a student of life and hopefully always will be.  I’m still pursuing excellence...maybe someday I’ll achieve it?

I also appreciate LilyJune’s comments and MrSelfDestruct’s thoughts. I don’t think we want to deconstruct the wonderful experience.  Maybe we simply need to find more gracious ways of communicating in the spirit of encouraging each other to greater and higher excellence.

To each of you, thanks! May you ever be a lover of excellence...and may excellence be your reward!