Don't ask , don't tell
I have a provider who told me she's still married and living with hubby and kids. She's doing it for the money cuz kids are expensive and she wants to maintain her lifestyle. Hubby knows what she is doing. And then she clarified that they both swing. Does that turn you off or does it really matter as long as the provider satisfy your needs? I'm still wondering though what kind of hubby is that ... swinging means hubby and you are doing it together with other couple (free sex), while being a provider seems to be a different thing. I just have mixed feelings about it. Hmmm.... what are your thoughts, gents?
Each and every provider whom I have seen has reached my hotel room door by means of a path through life that is unique to her.
Banging some other dudes wife has always seemed a bit taboo for me for some reason. Being a typical male myself I can't fathom letting countless other guys screw my wife, it just seems odd for some reason.
Can't say that it's ever stopped me from doing it though.
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Do you like making the payments on another dudes custom Harley!?
Somehow knowing the provider has a SO "creeps-me-out" a bit
Heck you've already broken that commandment by coveting her ass!!!!
Cutehunkie,
I know you asked the gents for comments, but I am a provider in Altanta Georgia and I need to comment. Your question is a fair and interesting question and deserves some feedback, but I need to comment on the replies.
My name is Julie Wild and I am a Sex Coach. I have been happily married for many years. I love what I do and enjoy meeting upscale, kind and caring gentlemen. I require screening, so I do not see everyone who calls.
My husband is very supportive with my career decision, he does not have a motorcycle, in fact he is a well known professional and that is why I don't use facial pictures on my site, because I often accompany him to social events.
I do not see anything wrong with my career choice and neither does he. I guess the difference between how I see life and some of the other hobbyist who replied here is, when I see a client, I learn something, I experience something and I leave our session with more " life knowledge" than when I arrived.
Many providers feel they give up something with each client, so they leave a session with less of themselves then when they arrived.
To me, this is not about money, this is about enjoying life and doing what you love to do. Some people like being a doctor, helping people.( they also make a lot of money) Some people want to be a stock broker and make people financially better, I want to be a Sex Coach ( provider) and make people feel better. Many men I work with never experience intimacy except when they are with me.
There are several providers who are married and their husbands have real jobs and they have happy, well balanced marriages, so please don't think all married providers are doing this just for the money or that their husbands push them.
If you have comments, please feel free to e mail me directly,
Thanks,
Julie Wild
[email protected]
I was expecting some repsonses from ladies that would be attempting to, as they say, "church it up" (trying to spin something so it doesn't look bad, etc..).
But I must say that your post was well written, lucid and intelligent. My guess is that your and your husbands healthy, balanced outlook on this is the exception not the norm.
BTW - if you look in person anything like your cartoons, your husband is craaaaaazy for sharing you! I'd be boinking ya all day long myself 
Once again you are a voice of reason and a level head in an otherwise crazy silly hobby.
I for one love your site and your posts.
hope to meet you soon!
xoxo
Brooke
Don't ask , don't tell
Only if she can't give her all during our sessions and is saving it for dear old hubby!
As far as I'm concerned, as long as my attentions don't break up a relationship where children are being raised, I've done nothing wrong. With a provider, it's generally just the opposite. My contributions help her, and her SO, raise her children.
/Zin
and two of em are bad"
1.The husband is an abusive pimp---bad
2.They are a happily married couple in a loving and co-equal relationship and he is totally cool with what she does---good.
3. He pretends to be cool about it but is actually a closet psycho who will one day go berserk and murder his wife and whatever unfortunate client she happens to be with at the time--
Very Bad.
Yes, it makes me uneasy and if she does have a man, the less she talks about it the better.
I have known a couple, and I actually met the kids of one.
Never bothered me at all.
Who am I to judge.
Now if the guy shows up with his hairy hands and wants to shake hello? Or she askes me to help the guy out. Well that would be another story! (I'll let you pervs think about that one. LoL)
I think this falls in the same category as a SO, so it really is none of my business. I would prefer that she doesnt try the needy, poor me routine, but I do my homework on TER and I havent run into that situation before.
As far as, would I let my SO do it? If she wants to and she strives to be the best, yes absofuckinglootly.
Hell, she would have to put up with me and what I do for a living. What's fair is fair