I've never been, and most certainly never wanted to be: ordinary. Ordinary lives, common, mundate, mainstream..would be the death of me. Boring as hell.

I've had some bizarre experiences in life (not talking about being a Provider) - heck, just work at places that are open 24/7
and you get a taste of pretty crazy things! LOL

I like a variety of people in my life - but they must be interesting; have some soul, some depth, some life-experience.

Growing up around the country-club celebrity rich and all their pretense and stuffiness was gagging - the people are shallow and clueless. Give me real, and give me extraordinary!

Ever since I saw "The Owl and the Pussycat" (Barbra Streisand) when a young teenager; or even "True Lies", I knew that I have to have things more interesting than just the 9-5 go to work, come home, eat, go to bed, get up for work..

This lifestyle has been fun, exciting, and the people have been so enjoyable!
If it weren't for all the interesting things in the last 14 years (in particular), I could never contemplate 'settling down', although who knows exactly what that means when it comes to me! LOL!

although I'm very creative when it comes to art, music, design, etc. I rely heavily on the lady to set the stage and make most of the moves, which I will admit, has led to most of my disappointments. The one thing that is essential for me, after the candles are lit and the setting is right, is a slow transition to the feature attraction. It requires too much suspension of disbelief for me if my partner falls to her knees immediately after the door is closed, or some equally spontaneous and hurried act. From what I read, some guys go for that, but not me. I want to nurture the illusion that we are truly lovers, if only for the moment. I want to walk away from the experience thinking that I got something more than my nut. I want to be sitting back at my desk, or on my way home, and have trouble concentrating because I just can't get that moment out of my head, whether it was her soft carress, her smile, her scent (both natural and perfumed), the look of pure seduction in her eyes.....dammit, now I can't get up from my desk!

I have been with one provider that I have shared things with that will resound in my psyche for the rest of my life.  Her combination of mental ability, unmatched sensuality and femininity, and a soul that was as wide as it was deep, brought me to places I had only dreamed I could experience.  What happened then was that we were totally open with each other... no gender, no role limitations, no fear, and no limit to the passion and the pleasure we shared in body and in spirit.

GFE will bring me back to someone...but an experience like that is once in a lifetime, and will earn my devotion.

A provider wrote me the above message a couple of weeks before I saw her, then proceeded to demonstrate (oh, so effectively) when we met.

If there is any one thing that consistently gets me in a "rare, carnal, primalistic frame of mind", it would be the way that a woman delivers a kiss. A kiss creates a high level of intimacy more convincingly that any other act I can think of.

When all is right...then its time for the hotness to envelope us both.

As for me, It makes me want to really please the lady. If everything is perfect then I already know I'm set and ready to eXXXplode at any time so I do some DATY and basically go all out with her.

do that! you say, staring.  No fucking way.  but then you do it.  you do it because you're with the right person and heck, why not?  

a provider in chat was talking about eating dirt.  or how about throwing pies?  sure sure, there are millions of things 2 people can do.  Going bowling just happens to be one of them.

you want creative?  I give you spontaneous.  doing things you never imagined you would do, not necessarily because one person asks, but because it seems appropriate.  fuck, it would be fun.

then you agree.  or maybe haggling over it is half the fun.  you play charades.  you prank call the neighborhood kids.  maybe you join netmichelle in some form of creative draft protest, lol, classic.  

shave all your body hair!  donate your (ahem) services to the elderly, well hung men need only apply, as the ladies of ward 6 are picky.  heck, make it a couples show.  make it a sock puppet show.

yeah, sock puppet show.  that's the ticket.  they don't list that on the search form.

Creative can equal stupid, can it not? Thought it would be fun getting a BBBJ while I was in a hand stand so I tried it one evening. Well, needless to say, I didn't get off 'cause I couldn't concentrate and it is just as well 'cause if I  did, I probably would not have been able to support myself and would have ended up breaking my neck or something. But, it was fun trying nonetheless.

What happens next?  For me, if I am totally into the lady and she likewise into me, each biblical encounter is magical as we can both just let things flow knowing that there are not any rules or restrictions other than what our respective moods at that particular moment may dictate. That is one of the downsides to some of the gals in this hobby (as well as a whole bunch of civies), too many restrictions on what is acceptable and what is not. I love just letting it happen without having to apply a whole lot of mental energy. Not much fun when you mentally have to keep running the list through your mind of what is and is not OK to do with your partner.

are the absolutely best way to start the festivities.  I agree with a previous poster who said that dropping down and servicing the guy is not an erotic way to "start".  

Even a brief conversation using a quiet, low-toned voice is very sexy.  You can usually tell within the first 5 minutes whether or not the experience will be of the carnal variety.

As far as being creative, I'm gonna help in that area.  I'm not too experienced, so it helps if the woman takes charge.

When the right mood is set such as you describe

I enjoy the light touching, teasing, caressing phase..."whispering sweet somethings"....

followed by some hot dfk'ing...When a provider has beautiful eyes such as yours I can just "make luv to them" forever.
Your look at me is worth a thousand lustful words and i'll return the favor in kind.

I also don't believe the magic word "foreplay" has been mentioned but to me...walk...before you run....and foreplay is a definite MUST!

I recently had my first "corset" experience with a provider and what a pleasure to take it "all in" and savor those really sexy and slutty moments before the "down and dirty".

Sinfully divine and oh what pleasure!

Cheers!

My "primal desire" turns loose if/when I sense the lady I'm with is comfortable and releaxed enough to "give" herself to me and allow me to ravish her.  I love to worship a woman's body, exploring each and every inch.

I usually start with a massage as I love to touch and feel a woman's soft skin. Then things escalate from there.  

Peace...