I agree with Adora. I screen heavily before ever meeting a new gentleman. I then evaluate him in person (over lunch, coffee, or a cocktail) before deciding if I want to see more of him.
A gent must pass my background screening and convince me that he's not LE or a danger to my health or safety. Even then, if he is a total douchebag in person, I thank him for the drink and wish him well in his search.
I expect men select their lady friends with care. So do I. We ladies are not desperate and we also reserve the right to be selective for any reason we wish.
Just because a man has a dick doesn't mean he has to act like one.