So there's this top rated provider in NC who requires references. I finally got some respectable references together and filled out her form on her website. I emailed her to confirm it and she hasn't responded in two weeks. I don't want to bug her, but if she doesn't want to see me I thought she'd at leas tell me no. I'm quite young compared to others so I'm used to age restrictions getting in my way, but I gave her ALL of my information, employment references everything. I know it's for a providers safety, but I've never given that much before so I'm a bit scared. Should I email her again?
The most important skill is communication, so your concern (and possible frustration) is valid.
Growing up, we are told that hard work, honesty and other things are important but there isn't always a strong focus on communication!
I agree with either getting a yes or a no. It's that simple, right? Send her a friendly follow-up email. We all need a push, a reminder, a friendly hello from time to time so do that. Communication, remember! It goes both ways...
On the flip side, you never want to assume. Something may have happened to the provider which has caused her lack of communication. Let's hope that's not the case and that she's just distracted.
Keep your head up, stay in the hobby, look for other providers and all will pan out in your favor.
xoxoxxo - JJ
Well said msJasmine!!
I sent her one last email.
Thanks for the advice.
Frankly, if you have done everything you said you did, including filling out info on her website ( I wouldn't do that, but hey its your life ) and no response, then move on. Seriously. Plenty of pretty ladies out there !
don't ever assume, or think too much about why she hasn't yet gotten back to you. Because, what you are thinking is probably not at all accurate; therefore, don't be scared either.
I would send her one more email asking nicely for a meeting; something could have happened to your initial request, or she is simply just "away" for awhile. There are many possibilities.
However, a prompt polite response is usually necessary, but not sufficient, of greater things to come.
Thanks for the advice everyone. High End providers that require so much is uncharted territory for me. So I'm a bit nervous. I sent her an email.
I never give out my real information. I use a hobby phone and have seen enough different girls starting from the backpage/craigslist era to build up references based on my hobby phone to see most of the girls that I want to on TER. Those that want my personal information, I always respectfully pass. I probably only review 1 in 3 girls I see. The joy of the hobby is anonymity to some extent. The same girls that want all your personal information would be mortified if you asked for their information before meeting them.
In the situation you described, I would send one follow up quick e-mail simply asking if she has received your request and if she needs any additional screening information to schedule an appointment. It is possible she missed the e-mail or thought she responded to it but didn't.