It is possible that your focus on this hobby is too consuming. Some hobbyists on this site are lucky in that they have other hobbies for which they have a passion.
The discussions boards atTER recently has become a very vital part of my life that I enjoy. I beleive a lot of you feel the same way. I'd like to know how much time is spent on Ter, when you spend the time, how you feel after such as content, relieved, upset anxious etc. What did you do before TER? How has TER enhanced you prospective? and any other info that you would like to share.
Funny, I feel that you guys have become my extended family.
Love you all
Buddy
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Why Buddy... that was some heartfelt post!...
I was about to do a Norm from Cheers and my nipples almost got hard...
I agree TER is a great experience just as SEX is a wonderful fantabulous experience but too much of anything is no good either and the weather in NYC has turned much nicer so I know limit myself to one hour a day on TER.Let me add that by participating in TER it has done wonders for my sexuality and there is not one week that goes by where I did not learn something new.
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It's allways nice to know there are others out there who feel the same way about life and sexuality. As far as extended family,Brother, Could you lend me a few bucks , Promise I'll use it well and post a review..... lol
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Where can we say what is on our minds and ask Questions on things we can not talk to with our family. I also love it that I have met so many great people and have learn you can't please everyone. I was also on tbd but I have not gotten close to them at all, so I don;t use them anymore. But wait you guys are our family. No you can't have any money,
Yes sex is the best thing in my life right now. I want to thank everyone for the times we have had. they are special to me. I just need more.. BE-GOOD-I-TRY-TO sassy
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I have every sign of full blown addiction. All the way down to my suffering bank account. Many months back a post was made with a link to a book about sexual addiction. It mentioned "living in a bubble" where there is your world of providers etc and then there is the outside world. I'm in that bubble, no doubt about it.
I don't hold TER or the hobby to blame as my alias implies. We all have our demon(s) I just found mine here.
Enjoy what is to offer here buddym but be careful. Sex releases some powerful natural drugs into the bloodstream. the mind and body can soon become driven to acquire the next "fix". Just the literary interaction here on the boards can satisfy or excite your needs thereby prompting you to engage in it more and more.
It's a beautiful spring day. I have spent the morning either talking to providers, trying to reach providers, reading the "boards" and wondering how I can afford to see my ATF this weekend.
I wonder what the rest of the world is doing?
It is possible that your focus on this hobby is too consuming. Some hobbyists on this site are lucky in that they have other hobbies for which they have a passion.
However my original lifes passion has recently begun to tug at my soul again. Maybe the new 170/hp K1200 BMW will be the catalyst.
Mid-life crisis can be a real bitch.
I never leave home without consulting it. Respect and thanks to all my fellow hobbyists and all the providers I've met or will meet.
all of which leads to conclude that this hobby, at least as exemplified by the participants of TER, is of high culture.
that it gives a chance for 'providers'(god, how I hate that euphemism) to demonstrate that we come from all kinds of backgrounds and possess a varied range of intellects and interests. Most of us are good at what we do, feel absolutely fine about the nature of the service we provide and just feel frustrated that it isn't recognised as the skilled profession that it is. We are not diletantes who 'dabble' in this realm because we get some kind of thrill out of it, at this level it requires a level of organisation, dedication and financial acumen that would put most working women to shame. I'm just so glad that TER exists so that I can communicate with the broader community and give them some idea of my personality and general style. Can't imagine what we'd do without it!
Before TER....
*Providers were prostitutes and scary as hell.
*I'm married so sex was down to once a month, on average, with no particular hopes of it ever increasing.
*I could not quite imagine how I was ever gonna get laid again on a regular basis and remain married. (I love my wife and, especially, my kids). I have no desire to start over with someone else.
*I was, and still am, a firm believer that the grass in not really greener elsewhere.
Since I discovered TER....
*I can imagine a future where I can actually experience new and exciting sexual experiences while remaining married.
*I doubt if I will get much higher than once a month as I don't think I'm gonnna participate in this hobby in my own home town and I can only go to Vegas so often. But I can read reviews, plan my next trip, correspond with potential providers, and dream... That has gone a long way towards settling me down at home.
*Finally, I have been with one provider now and, while it wasn't a perfect experience (how many are in RL?), it was fun and different. I am now eagerly looking forward to my next trip to Las Vegas.
Thanks TER!
I check TER at least 2-3 times per day. It has become a great source to voice concerns/thoughts and to hear from intelligent people.
I really value TER.