..have repeat visits with your desired Mistress. Sometimes building a bond in person works because you are springing on a connection maybe something is off and they start to feel you out more. Since you said you let them know your desire to push boundaries maybe they are not sure how far to go which I why I ask for hard limits from people who like to see me so I know how far to take it.
I've never had this issue yet since communication is clear with me but I do know that happens all the time in the hobby since people are not to sure how far they can go or simply not comfortable.-- Modified on 7/28/2016 4:14:42 PM
Generally when I meet a Dom i have found that, while I am very explicit about the desire to push boundaries very far and the mistresses say they are going to, the sessions are usually pretty tame. Does anyone else have this challenge, and how else can I communicate to ensure we're on the same page
Not all Dommes will accept this, but find one that will and then communicate with her through email and maybe phone calls. If her personality fits what you are looking for then you will have the type of session you are looking for. However, don't take advantage of her time, since time is money for her, but even with a few email/phone conversations you will be able to judge how firm she is and if she is a true lifestyle Domme, and not an escort trying to make extra cash doing BDSM. A true lifestyle Domme will know exactly what you want, and will truly enjoy humiliating and treating you like dirt, even in the intial contact, because that is who she is.
Good Luck in finding what you are looking for.
Madam Frederica
..have repeat visits with your desired Mistress. Sometimes building a bond in person works because you are springing on a connection maybe something is off and they start to feel you out more. Since you said you let them know your desire to push boundaries maybe they are not sure how far to go which I why I ask for hard limits from people who like to see me so I know how far to take it.
I've never had this issue yet since communication is clear with me but I do know that happens all the time in the hobby since people are not to sure how far they can go or simply not comfortable.
-- Modified on 7/28/2016 4:14:42 PM
I hate to bloviate but with some people it came right away (One of my real favorites was a lady whom I saw a total of three times. She was great, but the third time she had me really on the edge and a bit frightened, the begging was real. I would have done anything at that moment for her not to push me further. It was very exciting and scary and everything else one could want.
I've in the distant past had a long relationship with a sub whom I really adored. She was bi and loved having a domme or even two join us. One of them was great in sending her to and maybe a little over the edge. She did this naturally the first time she was with us. My lady later said it was the most exciting time she had ever had, but would have been too much if I wasn't there for a sense of safety.
In those with whom I had a long relationship, post care discussions led to going further at the next meeting.
One of the problems is that when I have wanted my limits pushed I was not sure how far I really could bear her to go and it took a really sensitive domme to help me find out.
BDSM and the power exchange requires establishing mutual trust and building a relationship, even in a professional setting. So the first couple meetings for me should be aimed at chemistry and trust. Pushing boundaries involves risk, both physical and otherwise, so don't be in a hurry to push the boundaries with a stranger.
not a script, but t gives me an idea of what the person wants. Then obviously a follow up to see what worked and what didnt. This is a dance, and you have to ask for what you want.