In my understanding, the team is the online community the person is posting to. The point that is being illustrated is that the person is going to have an appointment with a new or previously unreviewed provider. If you "take one for the team" generally it means the provider was in some way sub-par. Usually heavy upselling, cash and dash, no cal/no show. That kind of thing. It is a report to others to beware for whatever reason.
My name is Julie Wild and I am a Sex Coach here in Atlanta. I have a question for all the men and women who visit this board. There are some hobbyist in Atlanta who love to start out their reviews with, " I Took One For The Team". Personally I find this disgusting.
I have talked to many friends that are providers and most feel the same. I talked to some of my clients about this and some feel that I am misunderstanding the concept behind it. They feel this is just an expression of " courage and bravery."
I write a weekly column in a local adult magazine and plan to address this in the next issue. I would like some feedback before I write about it so I know if I am in the majority or minority.
If anyone wants to e mail me privately about this, please feel free to do so. [email protected]
My thoughts are, if you go to a provider and are not happy, leave, but if you stay, pay and play, write your review based on the experience, leave off the insults and " the high school remarks." This is just my view and I really want to hear yours.
Thank you in advance,
Julie Wild
www.JulieWild.com
My opinion? Perhaps they should first find a "team." Then they should think about what this "one" is that they are claiming to take. The sentence is a real mis-match for what is being described. It may make them sound brave, but "taking one for the team" sounds like the opposite of seeking sexual pleasure.
Is it really a review of the lady, or did they just want to use that "cute" metaphor? It's always a danger with the reviews that guys are writing to info-tain or be comedic, and their actual account of the experience suffers from it. I would tend to read that first sentence and put the review down, doubting the accuracy of everything else. Not because the guy was lying, mind you, but because he really didn't have in mind to care too much about accuracy over entertainment.
It all comes back to writing skills. It can be a bad thing when guys who couldn't pass Comp 101 write reviews.
/Zin
Just watch what it might refer to when transfered to sex.
/zin
I don't see the phrase as an expression of "courage or bravery". Neither do I see it as disgusting. To me it just means they went to see a lady when there were no reviews available. Reviews are often written narratively, so one may describe their state of mind in deciding to go see a particular lady. I see reviews that start off mentioning that the hobbyist went to see a lady based on her previous good reviews. And I see other reviews that start off with the hobbyist saying he didn't see any reviews, but he decided to see the lady anyway and "take a chance".
"Give it a shot", "Take a chance", "Take one for the team", etc. All are phrases to indicate that the hobbyist did not see any reviews and was seeing the lady for the first time without any idea of how the session would turn out. Admittedly the phrases don't give any information about the provider, but that also means the phrase shouldn't be seen as insulting to the provider. I'd never form an opinion based on that phrase alone.
In my understanding, the team is the online community the person is posting to. The point that is being illustrated is that the person is going to have an appointment with a new or previously unreviewed provider. If you "take one for the team" generally it means the provider was in some way sub-par. Usually heavy upselling, cash and dash, no cal/no show. That kind of thing. It is a report to others to beware for whatever reason.
It is an expression that can be used just to mean that one is seeing an unreviewed provider in order to scout new talent.I'm in atlanta and I just joined TER last Dec. The term was allready in use here. As a new "cummer" to the board I thought I should be willing to "Pay my Dues" so to speak. I saw a string of unreviewed providers and posted reviews to build the data base for the other hobbiests. I even posted on the Atlanta board a thread about it. Something about not needing anymore reviews of a lady we all knew was great but as a comunity service each guy should try TOFTT and we would all have a larger pool of providers who we now knew were not rip offs. The term had nothing to do with the quality of the service.Many of these were great ladies whoes buisness quickly improved. TOFTT only means taking a chance with our money in order to check out new talent. Just as the ladies must screen us, we must have a resource to work with so we know we are taking our money where it will do the most good for both of us. That is what TER is all about for us hobbiests.
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Or something of that sort? Some things are just better stated flat out. To me, it's just obscure. I had no idea what that term was supposed to mean in this context. I thought it might be used to refer to the quarterback getting sacked, or a running back taking a bad hit... a risky, or sacrificial play, or perhaps a hazing.
Outside of comedy, if you're going to resort to metaphor, it should make something clearer, draw a picture, bring an angle to it that wasn't observed before, not block communication.
/Zin
Like I said it was allready in use here in Atlanta( a sports minded town). I felt the same way the first time somebody refered to a "Civilian" on here. I personally think that doesnt work unless you are military. I dont even appreciate LE's use of it. But WTF does anybody care what I think?
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not a war metaphor. geez.
In this community it is used to mean that someone took the risk of seeing an unknown quantity (an unreviewed provider) and is reporting the result as a service to the community. The result may have been wonderful and it may have been awful. That's the rest of the review. In no case should the term itself be any reflection on the provider.
Technical terms often lose connection with their original meaning in standard English. If I tell you that something is true "in general" you probably take it to mean that it's usually true but there are exceptions. If I say the same thing in a matematical discussion it means it's true in the most general possible case, that is, it's true always, without exception.
As with all technical terms, it can be misused. By definition, if it appears in anything but a first review, the reviewer is wrong.
zinofal has a good point when he suggests just using plain English. Unfortunately, just as with the use of "access" as a verb, it's too entrenched to get rid of it.
It's really an unfortunate choice of words. As gotitans03 says, it's a baseball metaphor. In baseball it implies a sacrifice of some kind, like a 320 hitter bunting to advance a runner.
Sorry for the length of this. I wanted to clear up as much as possible.
I certainly don't want to do or say anything that makes a provider uncomfortable. As a result, I, like most hobbyists, try to keep our reviews within some reasonable range of decency regarding the woman's appearance, etc. However, flaming liberal though I might be, I think we want to be careful about how much we self-censor when writing comments on AN ADULT BOARD. For crying out loud, if we did some basic etymology, you would probably stop using the phrases "The Whole Nine Yards" (a reference to machine gun belts used in WWII fighter planes), "your turn in the barrel" (I actually heard this used by a woman in a business meeting--not my place to stop her), and several dozen others. Words and phrases can and do take on different meanings in certain contexts and with the exception of certain scatalogical references and racial epithets, much of what we say depends a great deal on the circumstances in which we said it. If both speaker and listener spend a bit more time thinking, we may all benefit.
uses military metaphor on sex and relationships all the time. A couple of examples:
On Losing Virginity:
"Virginity being blown down, man will quicklier be blown up; marry, in blowing him down again, with the breach yourselves made, you lose your city."
On Playing Hard To Get:
"Be somewhat scanter of your maiden presence; set your entreatment at a higher rate than a command to parley."
So what's wrong with it?
I have become accustomed to such sport metaphors. However, I also find them silly. I think this posts makes it perfectly clear that people feel differently about the meaning of "Taking it for the team." I always thought it meant something bad, but now I'm hearing it's just seeing a new provider. Sometimes metaphors are not clear and we need to be careful how we use them. In this business, I sometimes feel I'm speaking another language: No guys, not Greek. Wink!
Hugs,
Ciara