First, be sure you use a web-based e-mail platform for your escort-related correspondence; something like Yahoo or Hotmail.  This board abounds with stories of spouses who've stumbled over incriminating correspondence in their husbands' Outlook or Outlook Express.

Any reputable provider will require a phone number, but they will be sure to use discretion.  They will not call the number without your permission, and only at times you specify.  This is why a mobile phone can be so useful, but as in the case of e-mail, be sure to clear the incoming and outgoing call history after each transaction.

Subjects you should studiously avoid in your initial contact are any mention of any sexual activity and any discussion of a fee (incidentally, get used to calling the fee a gift or a donation).  Let the provider initiate discussions of these matters.

As far as what you should say to a provider in your initial e-mail:  Be yourself.  Be honest.  A reputable provider will not use your honesty against you, and will appreciate your being forthright.  These ladies are very good at sensing dishonesty.

Be brief without being terse.  These ladies get huge amounts of e-mail, and don't have time to read long messages.  Simply tell the provider who you are, and within the guidelines of her website, tell her when you'd like to meet, for how long and where.  Don't be afraid to say you're new.

Don't try to impress a provider in your early communications with her.  You'll have ample opportunity to impress her later with your gentle humor, excellent manners and squeeky clean hygene.

Some advice beyond the scope of your questions:

Do your research here on TER (in my opinion, the best source) or other similar resources.  Having done this research properly, you will know what services each provider offers, eliminating the need to bring up the subject at an inopportune time.  The same is true regarding the providers' web sites; these will let you know their fee structures, again eliminating the need to discuss the subject.

If you do phone a provider, be sure to call from a phone with an unrestricted number.  No reputable provider will take caller ID-blocked calls.  Also, be aware many hotels block the caller ID on calls made from their rooms.  So, if you're traveling and decide to make a new friend, either be sure your hotel phone's caller ID is unblocked, or call from your mobile phone.

Follow the provider's instructions to the letter.  You may be required to make two or three phone calls on the way to your meeting (another good reason to have a mobile phone).  If the handling of the donation is not addressed, place it in an unsealed envelope in plain sight and don't mention it.  Let the provider pick it up.  She may count the donation; don't take it personally.  Place your driver's license or other ID next to the donation envelope; don't make the provider ask.

Never try to negotiate the amount of the donation.  That's just rude.  After a while, you may devlop friendly relationships with one or several providers.  If so, you may find your sessions occasionally run a little longer than you expected, or you may find you're offered other bonuses for your loyalty and friendship.  But these concessions must always come from the provider.

Above all, be a gentleman.  Even though you're the customer, make an effort to see that everyone has a good time.  If the situation permits, have some beverages and maybe even some light snacks available (you might even ask the provider for her preferences ahead of time).  Treat each provider as you would a civilian on a long-anticipated date.  Don't forget, a provider's a woman who has the same feelings as everyone else.  Show her the same courtesy you would show anyone.

And, keep your priorities straight.  It's very easy to develop strong feelings toward these lovely women.  Keep these feelings in perspective; they're biological.  These boards are loaded with stories of hobbyists who fell for their providers, and most of these stories have sad endings.

I hope this has been helpful.  Hobby safe.




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