Have you ever called the lady you are with something different?

I vividly remember the few times my current friend "slipped" and called me by my name. Twice out loud  
and once in a stern email ... she then signed off with
her real name. I think me likes "sweet plum" better lol

Why should they care about learning your name if you're one and done?  For agency Kgirls, they call all of their customers "honey."  

I will use a person's first name... at first. Once we've built a rapport or exchanged a bit of correspondence I may throw in a "Hey there, love...".  

When I first moved to the South for college, I felt like the "baby", "sweetie", "darlin'" stuff that the administration used was a bit fake and slightly condescending. I wasn't the only person who felt that way. Ever since, I have always opted to be as neutral as possible until I get to know someone - I don't want to turn them off. Now what is said in the heat of the moment is different *winks* but before that, I'm going to use your name because I find it to be more polite.

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Other than in written communication, or in a group situation, how often does anyone address you by your first name - friends and family included?  

I recently went on a trip there, and was always addressed as 'honey' and 'sweetie pie' and 'doll.'

I'm a NYer, so that felt REALLY weird to me. Call me my name, say 'Hey you!' or even 'Ho!' or 'Bitch!' if it's the right context. But 'doll'??? I mean, really? I am not remotely like a doll... except maybe one that's been under the bed too long.

I've noticed that my Southern clients seem to call me 'baby,' 'sweetheart,' 'dear,' 'darling,' etc... my Northeastern clients don't seem to use pet names at all.  

If it's absolutely necessary to use pet names, I kind of like 'darling' and 'dear.' BUT I CANNOT STAND 'baby.'  

I don't use pet names. It's not in my vernacular. I generally call people by whatever name they sign their emails with, or whatever comes out of their mouths when they say, 'Hi, I'm _____.' I have two clients (referred to me by a friend) whose first names I do not know. I address emails to their email monikers. In person, I just say 'hi.'

The closer you become to someone, especially someone who deals with the public, the more likely it is that you become a name instead of a number.

Bartenders are a great example, a regular might only be remembered as the "Crown Royal neat guy" while a friend is remembered as "Steve"

I wouldn't worry much about it, unless it's happening with someone you think of as more than just a hooker and you are worried your feelings aren't reciprocated.

Or baby, or any pet names. Lol

... but once we meet I don't remember either of us using any names at all.

Hun
Doll
Dear
Sweetie
Papi
Daddy
Pero
Fuckface
Mi Amor
But NEVER by my real first name.  Except for a select few.
I love them.

In 15 years I've only given my real first name to four of them. Out of them only two have ever used it in communications, sparingly. At the same time only two have shared with me their first name. My real or hobby name (s) are rarely needed in communications anyhow.  

Some people are not good with names...I would not take it personal or feel bad...I rarely call clients by their first names, including my regulars. Everybody is "honey" to me, including the checkout person at the grocery store!

Whatever they sent me through massaging is what I call them or will ask them what they prefer to called. Personally, I think it makes a nicer more personal experience. But I do use terms of endearment as well.

And completely understandable.  I have been know to do the same thing in return... it's just easier.  That said - there are woman who use my real name occasionally - but I have seen them a number of times.

..... my name into my ear as they are just about to cum. "Oh.... Mick!"  
Sounds bloody beautiful.

For some reason that I can't explain, I don't like being called hon. All I know is that it goes back to a childhood assciation. I also find it annoying if someone keeps using my name. Unless there is some possible confusion on who is being spoken to, an unusual event during a session, its just inefficient. I know who you are talking to, you don't have to remind me.

I've also seemed to have fallen prey to the southern tradition of using terms of endearment.  I use "hun" for clients regardless of whether or not I remember their names and "doll" for my female friends and family members...Funny how living in the south can switch your vocabulary around...I can see how it seems condescending though as that's the way I viewed it when I first moved here.

I've been called by my first name and variations on my first name, too. I don't think it's important either way.

What's The Big Deal Calling A Provider "Babe?"

Why is everyone getting all riled up about this? She calls you Babe and you call her Babe. So what? I call my new ATF Babe and she calls me Babe. It's no big deal for me. Actually I think it's cute. Even when I text her I text her as Babe. Yeah I know her real name. And no I'm not going to give out her info. And Yes I see her BBFSCIP. It's her preference. So everyone just relax already. Besides when was the last time you married guys had your wife call you Babe? I'll bet not since the day you got married. These days I'll bet she calls you a four letter word and it's not Babe.  LOL!!!!!!!  

I hate when...

I really really hate when the guys knows that I'm latina start to call me MAMI.

I'm not your f**** mother! But I need to keep my manners and education and with a nice smile i say... My name's KALY. Thanks. hahahaha Maybe I'm a badass...

Hung ... but I'm very sensitive to being called Bigballs
.... now if you get it to stand up straight and hard ...  
what nickname might I be heard calling you?

at an initial greeting I've been called...

'Handsome"    as in " hand some $$ over"  with an outstretched open hand

As I think about this, I would feel more valued as a customer if I were called by my real first name. I give my real first and last name for screening, and sign off on all emails and texts with my real name. Sometimes I think it's just too much trouble to remember the customer's real name, or maybe there's a concern about blurting out the wrong name when things get heated.

I don't mind the pet names as much as some, but I make it a point to call my clients by their first name so they know I am present with them and not with someone else in mind, or worse - that I care so little I don't even remember his name at all.

And she knows my 1st name before we meet.  (I've never given my last name to ANY Provider, including Providers who I've seen 20, 30, 50 times).

ALL of my Providers call me by my 1st name and I call them by their 1st name

I hate being called "babe, sweetie etc." - this is just me.  I can only remember 2-3 times when I Provider called me "honey" or such.  I told 'em to please don't call me that...

Just sayin

It makes it more personal...

I've been called both by my real name, yes I do give it out,  as well as pet names.  

Only one review here for now I know, but I have been in hobby in the past and recently returned. Could easily have a few more now, but I always ask and most actually decline a review. They are established here and by other means.  

I will agree that in the South it may generally happen more. lol... I've been called similar things all my life even at grocery stores, etc... I've always actually liked it. Maybe because I'm so used to it.  

But I do get a mixture of both.  
(Even been called Boo! Only One who does that, and there is a backstory to it. )

you don't have to call me

"darlin"'   darlin

and a favorite at that, refused to call me by my nickname that I've used all my life but rather by my real name but even that not very often.