So.... I had the ultimate in challenging situations this weekend when I was approached by a European couple visiting New York. Now, I love seeing clients from Europe because I have a weakness for accents (particularly Swedish!) but one thing that is always tough is that the difference in laws leads them to be a little too cavalier about terms that you CANNOT USE with a provider from the US. However I am usually able to navigate the situation by making things clear with a few warnings and they get the hint. This situation, however, was quite a bit more challenging as the guy was an adult film actor and discretion wasn't exactly his specialty. As part of his screening he sent me a picture of his ID (since he didn't have references or anything) and also a link to his Instagram page. Now I clicked the link and the internet was moving slowwwww for some reason. In the meantime I looked at my email and several messages popped up. As I had said before European clients can be a little challenging sometimes but this guy had no control over himself. All he wanted to talk about was the kind of things he liked to do... So obviously this guy was getting placed on my block list... right? Well.... his Instagram popped up and I saw pictures of him and his girlfriend. Now anyone who knows me knows that beautiful women are my weakness... this girl was shamefully sexy. This freaking sucked. So many times you get into situations where one part of the couple is less attractive or maybe both lol but these guys were fucking perfect. Needless to say I kept trying to find ways to contort myself to do this. I knew that what I was doing was not exactly the smartest choice so I told them I wanted to meet up in public first. We agreed on a time and place to meet and that was that. So here I am walking down 7th ave with my heart in my throat... I mean this was a TERRIBLE idea... I never meet with clients who use ANY kinds of explicit language. So anyway, I get to the coffee shop and I see both of them sitting there. We talked for about half an hour and then played in their hotel room.. they were actually really great!
I'm not sure what the moral of this story should be really... I guess maybe sometimes bad judgment still leads to good outcomes but I'm guessing all of us, providers and clients alike, have those moments where we went and met with somebody who we probably shouldn't have. Maybe the person doesn't have the best reviews; or like in my case they break the rules. For some reason our sex drive always clouds our judgment! I know some novice providers compromise their standards because they are having a slow week and sometimes clients compromise their standards because they are just really horny or the girl's picture looks super hot. My situation was unique in that I was the provider but my primary motive was sexual (honestly I think I do this 70% for the pleasure) and although it was probably not smart to see them... I can't say I regret it.
Anyway, that's the theme of my post. How many of you out there have had similar experiences where you overlooked some things to try and make a session happen... and how did it turn out?
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I've had to make that call many times. There are guys who flat out ask do you do Greek. Is Greek extra etc. That's actually a great way to get busted. And that info is on my Ter profile so I don't have to specify. Ymmv means exactly that.
A client told me a story of his provider friend who before a session was asked how much extra for Greek. She gave him a number and was locked up.
So I have to tell my clients I don't discuss explicit acts and donations are for my time only. I think any client that's been doing this for longer than a week should know better. It's a little frustrating when I have to remind clients not to be so careless.
Another thing is some clients actually don't read sites for some reason -_- so I've had two instances where the donation protocol wasn't followed and they had put the donation in plain view. So I had to decide if it was worth it to count the donation in the bathroom, put it back where it was and continue the session or just turn back around and leave.
The time I set up an appointment so I could scratch a dwarf off of my bucket list. As we set up the appointment, she casually disclosed that she had a slight hunchback. I almost bailed, but she was flirty and so I continued to talk to her by email when she said she lost an eye, and was concerned the fact that she wears a patch might be a dealbreaker. I told her her photos still looked nice so I wanted to see her. Yes, I was nervous because it was my first dwarf provider.
When I got there, She greeted me in sexy lingerie with black thigh-highs, but the thigh-highs had a few bumps in them. We got going and she asked me, "On or off." I told her I didn't now what she was asking me. She said, "My leg, on or off?" She rolled down her thigh-high to reveal an artificial leg. I got a little upset that this was not revealed when I was booking. She said she assumed if I was okay with a missing eye and a hunched back, an artificial leg would be okay, too, I shrugged and had to agree. The session was great but now that I have done a dwarf, I probably would not do it again. BTW, if ANY provider ever asks you, "On or off?" Take 'off." it will blow your mind.
Omg... I'm 80% sure that story isn't true but it made me pass out laughing either way lol. "On or off" did it for me lmfaoooo
second experience with artificial legs. The first was a civvie girl, double amputee, and I must say, taking them off allows for some interesting penetration angles without legs getting in the way. It was very hot, hotter than the dwarf which was just a bucket list item. The fact that I had experience with artificial limbs was why I didn't freak on the dwarf, just got annoyed that I wasn't told during the "disclosures."
that your story doesn't have a leg to stand on, but I won't.
I never stoop to such low humor.
couldn't really see eye to eye for a couple of different reasons.
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I received an email from a woman reaching out to me to schedule a date for her and her partner (I was the surprise). She had found me via TER (she's not a registered user - how often does that happen?), read my website, and my screening protocol and was highly nervous because of the high-profile nature of what they do. We had to do some alternative screening methods like a social meet and greet for one, but she followed decorum to a "T". Was it nerve wracking? Yes. Worth it? Totally because they were both fun and kinky as hell!
You had the good sense to meet them in public first, which was pretty sensible.
because there was no TER or Internet and I trusted blind ads in the papers.
I only had a few clinkers and no rip-offs or busts.
God watches over drunks, babies, and horn dogs named mrfisher.
I'm a prime proponent of careful research, clear pre-meeting communication and following a provider's requests/rules of engagement. Every once in a while, something gives rise to my "spider sense" and my inner voice tells me to be careful. I might not able to articulate just why I got a ping on my radar but I've learned to pay attention.
Usually it means that I need to do additional checking of something, so I have gone further in communicating with a provider, made further inquiries on discussion boards, back channel communication with other clients, and meeting for drinks prior to a date.
Most of the time, it works out and I've had some great experiences. Every once in a while, I've decided not to have an encounter with that person and we go our separate ways.
Listen to the inner voice, but remember why we're here -- to have some fun and make some great memories. Be careful but with balance.