journey involves touching by hands, lips, and other body parts.
Strange days.... I mostly work in d/s & fetish realms- a session was scheduled, my questionnaire was answered successfully (cuz I gotta make sure I can spin the right fantasy)
No mention of wanting a nonsensual atmosphere was made at any point... So, at some point I may have, how do you word this, instigated "bad touch"?
Feeling like a molester the way this guy reacted. And I know it's his fault for not being clear during our ample communication opportunities, but I still have a bit of guilt. Like, I'm the pro, I should have known better?
Guess we all hit misses. There was a question in there somewhere, something like how common is it for a client to just want company.
But for me BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!!!!
Me paying for a "touchless date"??? GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE WITH THAT NONSENSE!!!
he should hire "Visiting Angels." The rate is miniscule compared to provider rates, and there is absolutely no sexual touching of any kind. They will stay for as many hours as needed, wipe the drool from the corner of your mouth periodically, and change your Depends when they get a little "heavy." Had one for the last few years for my dad in his 90's. Not particularly hot-looking girls, but young and compassionate. That's compassionate, not passionate.
Back to your question, I think in your particular niche, its probably more welcome by your customers if you ARE a molester of sorts. Don't know why a guy would seek out a Domme and not want to be touched/teased mercilessly. I would think it would be very UN-common for a guy to react like this in your setting. I could be wrong, but I don't think so.
Thanks for putting that song in my head.
don't sing, they just drool and crap their pants.
... but really *not* wanting *any* touch? That, I think, must be unusual. I'd expect most clients who just want company, to want at least to be touched. And I really think if a guy's preferences are that far from the norm, he has a responsibility to be clear about them at the beginning of the session if not before.
Sort of like my thing with the paper clips. (Kidding, kidding!)
If he didn't want you touching him, he could just say "Please don't do that again." There's no call for him to act as if you molested him, unless he was roleplaying. Otherwise, sounds like mental problems.
Ahhh, yes. Mental problems. So obvious, but I didn't consider it.
And no, it was not roleplay. (Wish it was)
It was a slight trauma response.
Especially in the BDSM/fetish arena. I had a client who I screened, and talked to via phone, and then we get to our first session and he only wanted me to talk to him while he wore the chastity cage! I thought, oh okay- we're setting the stage for the next session. But then the next sessions comes around and he only wanted me around to supervise him as he was hooked up to a machine in the dungeon. Lol
I've only had one client who asked me to attend a charity garden party with him, and nothing else.
Also- what's with all the shaming/making fun of other clients on the boards for unconventional things they enjoy? If you feel like you're "above" paying for non-sexual female company, then great! But no need to be critical of people who do. The same judgmental nastiness was demonstrated towards people who indulge in fin-dom sessions.
It's so hypocritical. And very childish.
You may think it's wrong to judge on those grounds, and even judge doing so childish (though I don't know where you get childish from, except that some posters express it in a childish manner; but, hey, this is the internet). But where do you get hypocritical?
It's hypocritical in the sense that you are being judgmental of someone for seeing ladies for something that they enjoy. Which is something you do every time you seek out a provider.
That's a very surface, politically correct response to your question.
Most other sensible providers, maybe some clients who are privy to the underlying sentiment, will be able to read between the lines there. If it still goes over your head? Book an appointment. Thanks.
I would think that hookers of all people would realize that little fact.
The reason guys (myself included) start beating their chests and declaring "I would NEVER" is that NOT fucking a beautiful woman who right in front of us and ready to go is an affront to both our virility and our masculinity.
We are hard wired to go spread our seed and since childhood any male that didn't have that same desire has been looked upon as weak and someone to hold in disdain. Why do you think "fag" is still used as an insult? Even "civilized" men, men without a homophobic bone left in their bodies still make statements like "that's so gay"
It's not our fault, don't blame us, blame evolution. Our species survived because of alpha males passing along their genes. If the "sensitive men" of the cave man era would have been the ones to get all the pussy, mankind would have ended in a pile of sabretooth tiger shit and we wouldn't be here today.
Like I said in my original answer, according to my hooker buddies, it's a lot more common than most of us would ever believe, but it's still an anathema to most guys who have normal levels of testosterone flowing through our bodies.
i'm into full contact sports. (With protective equipment for certain maneuvers) 😎
I have no idea how common what you described is, and frankly don't care.
How about a shot of Jack?
Here's the situation:
A gal I had seen a few times told me that she attended a talk given by a gal who is a tantra, and also knew that the gal was headed my way. She, knowing of my interest in tantra, thought I should really see her.
So, I contacted her. In the meantime, it turned out that this tantra gal decided to retire from that, and stick to life counseling only. I spoke to her on the phone, and something about her piqued my interest, and since a 60 minute session was only $100, I decided to meet with her. I found her quite adept at counseling and giving me good advice, so I even saw her a few other times. She was quite attractive which didn't hurt things as well.
As a side, I had done a lot of therapy years ago, and it's quite a large interest of mine still, so I am of a mind to meet such people anyways.
'Bad touch' to me implies 'little'... so you might need a questionnaire oriented specifically for that... and honestly a guy looking for that is going to be very different than most of us degenerates... and definitely needs a different set of services.. if he's really into it I could see how it might freak him out.
Talk about a niche market.... People will surprise you won't they!
No mention of wanting a nonsensual atmosphere was made at any point... So, at some point I may have, how do you word this, instigated "bad touch"?
Feeling like a molester the way this guy reacted. And I know it's his fault for not being clear during our ample communication opportunities, but I still have a bit of guilt. Like, I'm the pro, I should have known better?
Guess we all hit misses. There was a question in there somewhere, something like how common is it for a client to just want company.
journey involves touching by hands, lips, and other body parts.
All you can do is do your best. You may want to think if there was any way you could have communicated with him any better. If it's on him, it's on him. What can you do?
There's a couple providers I've gotten to know where we had an understood policy between each other that nothing intimate is going to happen. Talk about whatever's bothering you over a nice meal and a few bottles of wine. Not a bad way to spend the evening.
..... any interruption can cause an unexpected response. I've had the pleasure of an amazing tease and denial session with 2 wonderful ladies. I was bound and had a vibrator strapped to a really fun place.
I was so into my head with all the aural and visual treats that the ladies provided, I can see how an interruption could have broken the spell on me.
And some guys don't deal with a mental case of blue balls like he received.
The one truth is that there is no way of knowing how someone will react when that sexual trance is broken.
Damn, I had a great time. Maybe, it's time for another variation on that theme.
It is quite strange how judgemental people who are living outside the societal norm can be towards people who are living outside their narrow norm.
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