My username is a combination of my ex-wife's birth year, and the name of a guy in high school I didn't like. He was a whimpering, spoiled kid. He once tried to grab some food off my tray in the cafeteria, and I stabbed him in the hand with my fork.

Personally that would rub me the wrong way. I don't see the point of it really and don't particularly care for keyboard bullies.

As you point out, this could cause trouble, maybe serious trouble, for the person whose name is used.  It won't matter then whether the perpetrator meant to do harm or was just making a little joke.

Not cool at all.

Sad, the lies we speak and the webs we weave...

It seems so pointless to need more than one simple name to be known by, unless trying to hide a less than great reputation.  

I'm MasterZen, always have been, and probably will never change.  

As for using the identity of another person to commit a crime.... I suspect LE would love to add "Identity Theft" to the list of counts should one get busted.  

Is anonymity, or multiple layers of anonymity worth the additional risk, and the damage you might do to another? I think not. In this case, stupidity is the issue as intent to cause harm to another (and avoid harm yourself) is the clear intent.

first name, my cell phone number and two or three ref's.  If that's not good enough, then I pass on the provider.  There's no one I have ever wanted to see bad enough to compromise my privacy.  Consequently, I NEVER use my TER username, or any other alias, when talking to providers or booking appointments.  

the then-current President of the US. I got the address right (1600 PA Ave.) but I couldn't remember the zip code. They gave me the room anyway.  

In case you're wondering, the zip+4 is: 20500-0004.

They should only be using their own RL information for screening. You indicated that they did.

However you then said they were giving your name as a reference with different information. I do not understand why they would do that except: up to no good (in many forms), he wants to be more private with info (and if he used P411 etc he already got screened with RL information) and just wants a little less known of where he's from, or he could be using alias handles to leave nasty (or more truthful) reviews.  

In what context are they using someone else's identity? You are bouncing around a little with saying they give their proper RL info for screening but then use a fake name to another provider (who then calls you for the reference)... then you indicate that they do give real info for screening to all but use a hobby name.... So what exactly do you mean?

As far as what you are asking, about the guy using handles of RL people ... what are you saying? Is this a board handle or using a differing name on a P411 account for screening?

Is he giving someone else's handle or his own? Using someone else's handle or account is a huge red flag.

Is it a Ter handle where they can pick their own handle? If so, who cares if he does it as a joke. Have you seen most of the handles here? lol. As long as his screening information is his own and he is using his own accounts...

If he uses both his regular handle and an alias handle for reviews, I am on the fence with that one. There are many good reasons why a guy will use an alias to review. There are also some bad reasons. I would honestly keep that to myself unless he is BSC and a danger. I will give an alias handle a reference. I will not disclose their other handle.  

Plenty of guys go through the screening process properly and then want to be referred to as a different first name. As long as he doesn't lie on the screening to me, I don't care after that what nick name he wants to be called. lol.

Here is something to consider: So these guys were great with you, gave you the real information. Now what if he is using fake name for screening with others, how would you know if he is BL'd by someone else? You wouldn't because I doubt you keep tabs on him and any fake name being used when you get that call for a reference. Do you go look that fake name up first before saying anything to make sure he isn't listed somewhere? How would you know if he has other fake names?

I just say " I know him as ---- and he has seen me --- times. He has been prompt and great to me etc." That's what I say if a guy wants a reference under a different first name or whatever. Then she can know he uses a different name and decide what she wants to do.

Posted By: Debra_Hollander

Here's something I've encountered a few times lately......  
   
 I ask potential clients to let me know if they've used a different name and/or contact info with their references (so that I'm not asking Strap-on Sally about Dave Smith from Tulsa when she actually knows him as Dan from OKC) to help avoid confusion.    
   
 Likewise, I tell those I've met that I'm happy to provide a reference, but if they're going to use a different name and/or contact  (than what I have for them) with these other ladies, to please give me a heads-up.    
   
   
 So.........Several times in the past few months there have been situations where someone either shared with me the "alias" he's been using with other providers, or another lady requested a reference for a client:  and the name the other lady/ladies were given is actually a REAL PERSON yet NOT the individual in question.    
 And it wasn't a coincidence.  
   
 Being possessed of a curious nature, I've asked some of these gentlemen about it.  In one case, he actually said, "that's my brother in law and I never liked him anyway" so he didn't care if anything bad came of his using the BIL's name for hobbying.  
   
 With another, the identity being used was that of a former boss who "screws everyone, so it suits him"..... ok, I admit to chuckling but.......  
   
 None of these men were using the fake identity to pass screening.  They were all good clients with excellent references & zero blacklists.   They just took on these names as their "hobby name" for personal amusement, I suppose.    
 My point is they could have easily been "Joe Cephous"  or any made-up name.  
   
   
 Personally, this practice makes me uncomfortable.    
   
 What's YOUR opinion?  
   
   
 Is deliberately using someone else's name as a hobby-name crossing a line?  
   
 Do you consider it to be the same as using a fictitious name?    
   
 Or does it depend on whether there's any true malicious intent?

Yes it crosses a line!

And yes I'm uncomfortable with it big time. As far a it being a name of someone they know and don't like, I consider it a window into their passive aggressive side. And a passive aggressive personality can act out that tendency on a lady in the biz without hesitation. It's an assholish move to say the least.

Steph xoxo

Lots of people have the same name.  If they ever got arrested they would be booked under their real names.  So really it is kind of a nothing burger which hobby name they use.

I have:
-a real name, that I only rarely give to a provider that I have not yet met. She has to be very highly reviewed/well established. I don't have P411
-a pseudonym that I give to providers, bookers, other escort websites that ask for a name but don't check ID.
-my TER handle as well as a handle for other sites
-my TER alias

 
Once I've gotten to know a girl I might SHARE RL names and then let her know which name I'm using if I need her as a reference.

Obviously it crosses a line when you're using a new name to hide past BLs or bad deeds.

Using a friend's, co-worker's or in-law's name? LOL. If I were starting over, I'd probably find someone who looked sort of like me just in case she googled his name and found a LinkedIn profile.  

who they actually knew. And from your two examples, that's what it sounds like to me or else why do it. Besides, if somehow something happened where it got back to said BIL or former boss and they described the person who "lifted" their identity, they could be outed or worse. Just bad form.

I use p411 for all appointment requests so every new provider sees the same alias and I don't provide last name, except for yours truly of course.

I am sure that the following is not fool proof and sometimes I can be caught a fool.....I try very hard not to be, though.
If I find  someone is trying to 'pull the wool over my head' (an old saying, i know. lol) I just don't want to participate.  
I am reference friendly but would only give a reference for the name/handle and actual person I met. Who knows what people will do under different personas?  
Providers screen for a reason. A very good reason and if the client wants to be safe then we need to be safe.  
A good time can't be had if a provider is suspicious of the person with whom she is being intimate . She'll be watching her back the whole time you are with her instead of attending to the important business at hand, which is your pleasure.
Ok, so to conclude, let's not play games until we close the door of my play-den. :0

Posted By: Debra_Hollander

Here's something I've encountered a few times lately......  
   
 I ask potential clients to let me know if they've used a different name and/or contact info with their references (so that I'm not asking Strap-on Sally about Dave Smith from Tulsa when she actually knows him as Dan from OKC) to help avoid confusion.    
   
 Likewise, I tell those I've met that I'm happy to provide a reference, but if they're going to use a different name and/or contact  (than what I have for them) with these other ladies, to please give me a heads-up.    
   
   
 So.........Several times in the past few months there have been situations where someone either shared with me the "alias" he's been using with other providers, or another lady requested a reference for a client:  and the name the other lady/ladies were given is actually a REAL PERSON yet NOT the individual in question.    
 And it wasn't a coincidence.  
   
 Being possessed of a curious nature, I've asked some of these gentlemen about it.  In one case, he actually said, "that's my brother in law and I never liked him anyway" so he didn't care if anything bad came of his using the BIL's name for hobbying.  
   
 With another, the identity being used was that of a former boss who "screws everyone, so it suits him"..... ok, I admit to chuckling but.......  
   
 None of these men were using the fake identity to pass screening.  They were all good clients with excellent references & zero blacklists.   They just took on these names as their "hobby name" for personal amusement, I suppose.    
 My point is they could have easily been "Joe Cephous"  or any made-up name.  
   
   
 Personally, this practice makes me uncomfortable.    
   
 What's YOUR opinion?  
   
   
 Is deliberately using someone else's name as a hobby-name crossing a line?  
   
 Do you consider it to be the same as using a fictitious name?    
   
 Or does it depend on whether there's any true malicious intent?

When you say, "If you're going to use another name, be sure to tell me first."

If someone wants to play an identity switcharoo, I'm not getting in the middle of it!  I'd never accept or give a reference with different credentials!  (Also... Things like this are why some references are worth more than others.)