This way if he's only good for one I can make that sweet journey last longer.
Gents, you've delivered a payload and there is time remaining.
What do you want to hear from your provider du jour? "Wanna go again?" seems ambivalent on her part but passive so it allows the guy an out if he is good for a single shot. He just responds, "No, let's relax for a while."
Otoh, "Let's do it again!" seems to express a more positive, pro-active attitude on the provider's part. It conveys eagerness, a trait I find alluring. But does it put too much pressure on the guy to perform, as in she's ready to go but he's not able?
My favorite approach is the natural progression when actions speak louder than words and the flow is seamless, organic into a second round and beyond.
Guys and dolls what turns you on for that second, third, etc. quest for gold?
... "I want to taste you again." And then without waiting for you to reply, she begins a slow, sensual blow job.
But I usually pace the session for the first finish in the last 10-15 minutes! I love to extend the foreplay, especially BJ in as many positions as I can think of! I sure do appreciate the offer, but I can't do two shots very often any more. Darn that age thing is getting in the way of the ideal session again! If it's not the age its the money!
I rarely am able to squeeze off a second volley in a one-hour session. That's why I book two-hours almost exclusively when I repeat with a provider. For me, its not what she says or how she says it, if she can make wood, I'm good for a try. I don't think about the pressure because I know most of the time I will not finish the second pop before the hour's up, but it still feels good giving it a go. I enjoy the "journey" as much, or more, than the "destination."
I'm a one-shot guy, too. While I can always go again, and I do get pleasure out of it, I don't think the journey is its own reward. I lose my drive after the first go. Not only is it harder to finish afterwards, I have less interest in doing so. Without that impetus, it feels like work. I could be doing something better with my time.
The journey is better the first time. I might prefer not finishing at all to an hour of round two. Unless I have a while to recover after the first go, but I don't schedule dates that long.
Is to make each provider you see two years younger than the last one. It won't take long before you reach a point where it doesn't feel like work anymore.
I already have a cure: making the most of my first go. I won't knock your suggestion. I have had luck with younger providers, though I usually stick to girls around my age (mid-thirties). Under twenty-five and I find they're a pain to schedule with.
I have heard a little of both over the years. But the one that I find even more appealing is when you are just laying there and both of you are talking and maybe rubbing each others body, and as he starts to wake back up she takes control of the situation once more.
if she doesn't then you can ask but I find that you may not get the answer your looking for. and if she doesn't then sit there and make the most of your time left.
At my age two pops in an hour isn't likely to happen anyway, so I'm open to enjoying whatever there is to enjoy. Including giving my companion another round of jollity in one of the many other ways that can happen.
As long as she doesn't say, "Well, I don't suppose your withered old dick is up for any more, is it?"--I'm good.
And strokes her hands through your hair while slowly instigating a DFK...That's all I need to know, then it's on.
It just happens. A couple of times they've commented, "You're still hard," or something like that. Which may or may not have had implications.
A little get to know ya time, followed by
BBBJTC; then
return the favor: DATY (aka my recovery time);
shift to 69; then finally
on with the hat, and ready to ride.
Any provider worth her salt can make this happen for me in an hour session.
Now if she has her own routine and wants to go BBBJ to hat-on and hide the salami, I'd hope after round one, she asks if I'm up for a second round. I don't really think about HOW she brings up the subject, as long as she does.
That said, there's certainly something to be said for a provider that brings me to the edge for an entire hour before coaxing me to the money shot.
This way if he's only good for one I can make that sweet journey last longer.
Whether it be passive, agressive or organic, I usually try for 2 and appreciate the effort as long as there is time.
I'm happy this topic came up.
I'm always over sensitive about feeling like I'm pressuring someone or making them uncomfortable by assuming they're good for another go. I usually ask if they like to go another round but given the responses in this thread, I'll try to be more confident that I can just initiate it and if it happens, it happens.
Thanks for the responses, it's been enlightening!