People are truly so fascinating. Almost every answer in some ways, contradicts with the next. Such a widespread list of preferences.
Ok I know I think of the most random things sometimes, and usually post about them, but I'm obsessed with how we all work, especially how we relate to one another. Although I've never seen an escort, I see elements of my job obviously whenever someone is providing a service for me. Whether it is the: the hair stylist, nail tech, nanny, carpet cleaner, mechanic, the list goes on and on. So there has been a few times where, I was compelled to tip or tip a lot more than 20% (well something like carpet cleaning isn't necessarily a place where you tip).: :::::
So for those of you that see the same providers, and you have tipped in the past OR considered tipping an escort, have you ever thought: "Gosh I wonder if me tipping her this extra $$$ will put the expectation on that I will tip her every time?"
Being the escort, for me, I really don't ever have that expectation. I see the appointment in itself as a wonderful gift and I just think it is a little greedy to think that someone is always going to tip me the same amount if at all. It is so sweet and such a bonus if so. But then how strange that although I feel that way as an escort, when it comes to hiring other service providers (like my nanny), I become a little uncomfortable with tipping more because I do not want to be held to that standard every time they work for me.
So I'm wondering if clients think those thoughts, and I'm also wondering if providers feel the same way, or feel differently. I will probably go touch myself from any honest answers you give me. LOL we all have a fetish right? Mine is honesty.....Boom.
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I had no idea about this world but I knew a very experienced monger. He would call and let ne know he had a lady coming and she could bring a friend. So I showed up and I gave her a tip. He said never do that again because it will always be expected. So I dont.
...providers would have that same expectation.
I generally don't tip, figuring that my repeat business is more lucrative for her in the long run.
Since you give the provider the donation before the actual service, tipping is kind of tricky- especially on the first date.
If I am out to dinner or valet etc etc I will tip at least the customary 15% regardless, unless the service was genuinely awful or if it was exceptional. But this is done after service rendered.
I never expect a tip.. But there are times when gentlemen are thoughtful enough to leave one if I agreed to a last minute/same day date, or if I had to check in early or check out late at a hotel to accommodate them, if they had a special request, etc.
I think if you don't want to set a precedent by tipping, a gift is also a nice alternative.
I'm totally with you in regards to your comment about tipping in this industry being tricky. The first time I ever saw a provider (and long before I became one) my then boyfriend and I gave her a tip in the beginning of the date... unfortunately she wasn't exactly very into what she was doing and we came to regret it. From the clients perspective tipping before the date can be somewhat of a risk. I do suspect that some clients do give tips in advance based on the quality of a providers previous reviews which is probably why you've had that happen to you!
and if it stopped, I'd wonder why.
My main handle tips independent providers for service above and beyond. Examples include:
- they're generous with their time
- they accept the 3-pop challenge
- they go off menu (this is mostly for FBSM girls that add extras)
- they re-arrange their schedule because I'm running late or had to cancel the previous day.
I tip agency girls that perform well because the house is taking a cut.
I also tip a few favorites so I have an edge when booking. They know I'll be generous. Sometimes I give gifts too.
I don't tip just because it's customary like a hair stylist or waiter.
I'm always generous with my time and always accept the 3 pop challenge 
I never expect a tip just because it was given to me by that person previously. I accept that if they're very satisfied the first time they meet me they feel compelled to tip. But after that, they're thinking about how much money they'd lose if they book me often and give a hefty tip everytime. It's just too much on their wallet and I completely understand that!
On some rare instances, I get a tip before we even start which makes me laugh but it's really flattering.
First and foremost are waitstaff. In most places, their employers are exempted from paying waitstaff minimum wage. They absolutely depend on tips to make a decent income. It's also how a lot of people evade the law and paying taxes: they do restaurant work on a strictly cash basis and only have to declare a fraction of their real income.
Then, there are a bunch of other service jobs where tipping is such a long standing custom that it is assumed to be "required", except in the case of really bad service. Barber, hairdresser, valet parking, Red Cap / Sky Cap, hotel room cleaning staff, taxi drivers, ... And there is some history and industry economics behind all of those. ("If we owners can make the customer do more of the paying, we can charge the same amount, pay the employee less, and keep more of the money for ourselves!")
Then there are bunch of borderline cases for me. The guy in the bathroom who hands me a paper towel and offers me a spritz. I feel like I have to tip him NOT to spritz me. Grrr.
Moving along to, eh, dating, tipping varies by category and then by service. For me, it is never automatic. I almost always tip at the AMPs. Although they get a cut of the fee, I feel it usually deserves to be boosted, sometimes by A LOT! But I tip at the end and not always the same. Tipping frequency and amount decreases as I move up the scale.
So for those of you that see the same providers, and you have tipped in the past OR considered tipping an escort, have you ever thought: "Gosh I wonder if me tipping her this extra $$$ will put the expectation on that I will tip her every time?"
Being the escort, for me, I really don't ever have that expectation. I see the appointment in itself as a wonderful gift and I just think it is a little greedy to think that someone is always going to tip me the same amount if at all. It is so sweet and such a bonus if so. But then how strange that although I feel that way as an escort, when it comes to hiring other service providers (like my nanny), I become a little uncomfortable with tipping more because I do not want to be held to that standard every time they work for me.
So I'm wondering if clients think those thoughts, and I'm also wondering if providers feel the same way, or feel differently. I will probably go touch myself from any honest answers you give me. LOL we all have a fetish right? Mine is honesty.....Boom.
...but I am usually booking extended appointments and have done some research or asked the woman about her preferences in such things as wine, food or maybe reading materials.
Then I usually have a gift along with me that I give to her when we meet. It's a good ice breaker, we talk about how close I got to her actual likes/dislikes (but it seems I always get points for trying) and helps establish a bit of a connection.
On rare occasion, I will tip when she has gone out of her way to make an accommodation in seeing me (usually a spur of the moment opportunity).
I only see indie providers and assume that they are setting their desired compensation and I don't haggle. Seems tipping is usually not warranted in these circumstances. But follow your own feelings and tip or not according to the circumstances.
was "To Insure Proper Service." Accordingly, I was taught that you always tip for a service of a personal nature. As you point out, things like haircuts, manicures, shoe shines, baggage handlers, masseurs/masseuses, etc., were considered places where you should tip. The idea was that for regular men and women that did not travel with a valet or a ladies maid, you would show your tangible appreciation for these services provided by professionals in each of their respective disciplines.
Fast forward. Although I grew up much later than the golden age of travel on trains and steamships, I was still taught that you always tip for personal services. When I entered the hobby almost nine years ago, I asked myself, "What could be MORE of a personal service than sex?" It doesn't get any more personal than THAT, so from day one, I have tipped every provider I have seen, every time I have seen them. I think its partly the reason I have never been refused a request for a repeat visit, nor have I ever been blacklisted. I am also a gentleman with the ladies, not the brash bigmouth I am here, which is the other half of the reason.
By far the biggest benefit I have enjoyed as a tipper is that providers I see will give me "priority", meaning I get the time I want even if its already been booked to someone else. The provider or booker simply moves the other customer to another time, so that I can get the time I need. Some of the Kgirl bookers don't like do this, but when the girl requests it, they fall into line.
I was actually thinking about this today. I think I'd move an appointment for a regular that either tips well or books longer appointments. If I'm being treated well by them, why not return the favor 
I only book one hour when seeing a new girl, but virtually all of my repeats are for two hours or more, so I'm sure that plays a part as well. Two-hour sessions, plus I always tip, makes me a pretty popular customer. The other perk that I really treasure is occasional OTC time, usually piggybacking a dinner or massage outside after a two-hour incall session.
..and no, thats not just a line lol Honestly, I of the guys who do tip, they dont tip every time. I definitely dont ever want a guy to feel like he has to do it or obligated. I really do view it as a gift.
Now, with the exception of a handful of times, the tip was always included with my donation thats placed at the beginning of the date. I think that is a good thing for 2 reasons..1) it takes away the awkward moment of wanting to tip but not wanting to hand me money after our date... 2) if a guy tipped on a prior date, but didnt tip the next time, since its givien before, not after the date..I dont have to feel self conscious that I did anything wrong during our date. He saw me again, so obviously he enjoys my company. ..and I appreciate my regs so not getting a tip wouldnt phase me at all.
Kind of like how, sometimes I do a bit extra and will buy a bottle of wine, and other times I will not. No reflection on the guy...maybe I got it the first time because he mentioned something and I made it a point to get it, and the next time I meant to, but didnt have a chance to get to the store before our date. Its nothing personal...just circumstance. I view tips the same way..nothing I take personal, but genuinely happy when it happens. So zero pressure from me on any guy, whether hes tipped before or not.
Not often, but there have been times that I have "tipped" them. Sometimes it's money, other times it may be a item that I think they would enjoy based on our conversations. I don't do it all the time, just here and there.
Many of you will probably think this is dumb, but I have never seen a provider without tipping. I think the nature of the services provided, as well as the risk you ladies take every time you agree to see one of us, warrants a little extra consideration. We're not talking about a huge amount (I'm far from rich!), just an extra $20 or so stuffed into the envelope. If the lady earns that tip during the session, then I'm happy to pay a bit more. If not, then I simply do not repeat.
When I used to toftt every once in awhile I'd see someone who was priced so below her market value, that I'd leave a little extra.
For my ATF, I always tip something and bring her goodies. For a new woman, it partially depends on my budget. If I'm pushing my limits financially, I'm not going to tip. Likewise, if she seems to be under-priced, based on reviews, etc I may tip in advance. For weird amounts, like $275, I just round up. Since many woman may be in their incalls for a long period of time, I'll look on their P411 or other info to see if there's something they might like. Not really a tip, but water, fruit, cookies, etc. as an alternate sign of appreciation.
I usually decide to tip ahead of time, it just seems less awkward. If I've had a tremendous time and didn't tip ahead, I might slip something next to the envelope afterwards. I don't want to just start flipping bills onto the dresser after a session. That's tacky.
I love it when I get a small thank you from her. I'm not looking for hosannas, but if we're texting or emailing afterwards it's nice to have a "thanks for the extra". It makes me know that the tip is noticed, appreciated and unexpected.
countries nobody tips the waitress. However, I make it a point to tip her before the bill comes. I simply ask her for some little thing before the meal starts and when she brings it I slip her a $20. That usually gets her attention and super service. I normally do this at the hotel I'm staying at. Funny how she now becomes my waitress every day even though I do not tip her every day. I'll do the same with an escort if when I open the door I see something special. Its easy to slip another $50 into the envelope. Money well spent.
Agreeing to pay the full asking price makes a john look "weak and stupid" not generous and actually gets you worse service rather than better service as the women believe you aren't enough of a man to deserve their best.
What I often do in those countries is to negotiate just as hard as a local, get their respect and then when it comes time to pay (payment is always AFTER the session) I go ahead and give them their full asking price, but when I do so they know it is because I am generous not stupid. I know it's hard to relate to in this country, but I have sat at the bar and held out over a price difference as low as twenty bucks for an hour or more, I could care less about the twenty bucks, but that's just the way it's done. No one respects "gringos estupidos" jaja
When at home I occasionally tip hookers, but I don't do so with any real degree of regularity and the higher her rate the more likely I am to believe the tip is built in.
but in this case the tip is expected and we're supposed to pretend it's not
People are truly so fascinating. Almost every answer in some ways, contradicts with the next. Such a widespread list of preferences.
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...I'm paying several hundred dollars an hour for a service to begin with. When I pay one in a profession (doctor, attorney, etc) that much, I expect quality service for that amount; and of course no tip is involved with them. Same with an ASP, who is well-compensated for her efforts, and should provide excellent service. For those I repeat with, I believe my being a regular is more meaningful to them than a tip, in terms of economics, esteem, and comfort level. Just one gent's opinion.
When someone gives me a gift card or a tip. It shows they appreciate me above and beyond. I have some clients who tip me every time they see me. A few will tip 100.00, others 50.00 and others 25-40.00. All greatly appreciated.
I get gift cards for a few hundred dollars which REALLY help since things are not cheap! Love Amazon gift cards.
It is up to the individual but again NOT expected. Sure if none tips me the first time I will wonder if he plans on tipping again. But I will not expect it and I will not be upset if he doesn't.
I am happy when a client books and keeps the appointment above all else.
don't ever expect them. I wouldn't want a guy to assume that if he tips once he always has to because it can be counterproductive when you're trying to get steady regulars. So I always try make it clear when a guy tips that I appreciate it and that I'm not expecting it all the time.
points on p411, amazon gifts from my list, gift cards, online gift cards, and cash.
I enjoy my regular clients and we both spoiled mutually.
If I am seeing a new girl, I will not tip until after the session. If her service is so-so and I probably will not repeat, I will not tip. For any repeat, the tip is part of the pot up front! If she is good enough to repeat with, she should always be tipped!
To me it's not the same as cab drivers, food service workers, etc. who are operating with a whole different framework regarding how much/ often they are paid.