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Gifts I've Given To My two ATF's;teeth_smile
ROGM 388 reads
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Extra money, gift cards, shower/moisturizing kit from Victoria's Secrets, take her to a nice upscale restaurant after you play, take her shopping on her birthday, flowers / card on her birthday, earrings/necklace.  

I'm seeing a provider a second time and would like to give a gift because the first time I saw her was amazing.  

I have seen many women but  she treated me like a long lost lover and gave me additional time off the clock.

I thinking gift certificate, but seems impersonable  
Or earnings, I think I know her style, but I will probably be wrong  

Any help?
Thanks

a gift card will do.  Down the road if you want something more romantic, lingerie or jewelry.  

GaGambler536 reads

The very best gift he can give her is a second appointment, followed by a third, fourth and so on.

Aside from that, it really is the thought that counts. A nice thought along with continued patronage is the best gift she could ever wish for.

ValuedCustomer497 reads

Honestly - an extra benjamin or two in the envelope will very much appreciated and will be considerably less hassle for both of you.

Posted By: drbas
I'm seeing a provider a second time and would like to give a gift because the first time I saw her was amazing.  
   
 I have seen many women but  she treated me like a long lost lover and gave me additional time off the clock.  
   
 I thinking gift certificate, but seems impersonable  
 Or earnings, I think I know her style, but I will probably be wrong  
   
 Any help?  
 Thanks

from my point of view, leave her extra money. That is always a great gift. You are welcome. :)

I always send the girl good thoughts. Karma is the best gift you can give. Its reasonably priced as well. ;)

...saying that you never tip because your M.O. is to try to pay less to pay less, not more?

isn't it the thought that is the gift?  The tangible bauble is merely a memory of the gift; the intangible gift forever enriches the soul.  

Or perhaps I'm just a cheap bastard and full of shit.

... transcendental shit ... or is that Transcendental Defecation®?

I just take my favorite lady to a hot-dog stand and tell the vendor to make us one with everything.

NOT.

 
But seriously....

Money is always appreciated, but I often give a piece of jewelry, something with pretty stones, and you'll know they'll always have it.

Try a place with artisan made handcrafted things, not Zales, and their ilk.  A pin, necklace, or cuff bracelet is good because you don't have to worry about size so much.

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elvispat475 reads

What do you want to get out of it, aside from saying thank you and getting a warm feeling in your heart (and there's nothing wrong with that)?

I'm a good client, play by the rules, but I'm not a great lover or the richest guy in town.  I look at gifts as a chance to deepen the intimacy, which makes the sex better for me.  I want to give something memorable (in a good way), that if it doesn't add something special to her everyday life, it's at least unexpected and thoughtful.

Of course every escort is different and so are the circumstances.

Unless she's really scraping by, cash is universally helpful and never inappropriate, but it's impersonal and not very memorable (if you give more than 15% but less than 30%, I don't think you're going to make a huge impact), therefore you might be appreciated but not create a strong memory.

Gift cards can be a little more impactful if it's for a store she really likes and needs something from but otherwise they get tossed in a drawer and forgotten.

I think most escorts have more than enough lingerie, and frankly most guys don't know what fits or what's comfortable.  If you think she's wearing it at any other time than when you're there, you probably think she's really having all those orgasms.

I think your idea of jewelry is very nice, it's personal and, unlike lingerie, it shows a willingness to relate to them in a non-sexual way.  It sounds like this provider appreciates making a personal connection.  Of course you might not get something to her taste; if you include a gift receipt, and tell her your feelings won't be hurt if she exchanges it, I think you've hit a triple if not a home run.

With most escorts, if you spend 15 minutes talking to them, or you look at their website, you can figure out what she likes or does outside of escorting?  So here are some gifts I've given, from almost free to $150:

1) For an escort who's a budding fashion designer, a couple of high end sketchbooks and a fashion dictionary that's authoritative and hard to find
2) For an escort who, the first time she met me at the door apologized for her bathrobe being a little shabby, a nice new cashmere robe in the same color as the one she was wearing
3) For an escort with a distinctive stage name who is young and ultra-hip, a grown-up coloring book that played off her name, and then a piece of bric-a-brac that also played off her name, which I personalized for her
4) For an escort whose website indicated she liked single malts, two bottles, one of her favorite and one of mine
5) For an escort who's website has her travel wishlist, a really obscure 100-year-old book that I printed off the internet (it's public domain) that contains a short story that's critical to understanding the significance of her top site to see (I learned about the book from looking up the location on Wikipedia)

I get major benefits, from off-the-menu activities, to extra time, to drinking buddy time, from all of these women, with less than $500 of gifts over maybe 15-20 sessions.

...some flowers and a card with a handwritten note in it filled with some cash is nice too.

Posted By: drbas
I'm seeing a provider a second time and would like to give a gift because the first time I saw her was amazing.  
   
 I have seen many women but  she treated me like a long lost lover and gave me additional time off the clock.  
   
 I thinking gift certificate, but seems impersonable  
 Or earnings, I think I know her style, but I will probably be wrong  
   
 Any help?  
 Thanks

I have been actually giving "gifts" to a few regulars lately. Donuts or something sweet to share.

You bring me a med-rare Prime Rib and you can stay all you want :p

Posted By: cspatz
...needs to be homemade though.

1. Extra Cash
2. Leave early or at least, leave on time
3. Gift card to a place she actually likes, or visa/mc
4. Anything On Her suggested gift list on website, if she has one.
5. Nothing cheap or selfish (lingerie you want to see her in or a vibe, unless it's part of an act or wardrobe request you cleared with her).
6. Be kind, respectful,  clean, and thankful.
7. Cash

Posted By: drbas
I'm seeing a provider a second time and would like to give a gift because the first time I saw her was amazing.  
   
 I have seen many women but  she treated me like a long lost lover and gave me additional time off the clock.  
   
 I thinking gift certificate, but seems impersonable  
 Or earnings, I think I know her style, but I will probably be wrong  
   
 Any help?  
 Thanks

It is why she is there after all.

Posted By: drbas
I'm seeing a provider a second time and would like to give a gift because the first time I saw her was amazing.  
   
 I have seen many women but  she treated me like a long lost lover and gave me additional time off the clock.  
   
 I thinking gift certificate, but seems impersonable  
 Or earnings, I think I know her style, but I will probably be wrong  
   
 Any help?  
 Thanks

Why not just check her website and see what's on her wishlist?

JakeFromStateFarm352 reads

There's a city in China where they have a festival to do that.

ROGM389 reads

Extra money, gift cards, shower/moisturizing kit from Victoria's Secrets, take her to a nice upscale restaurant after you play, take her shopping on her birthday, flowers / card on her birthday, earrings/necklace.  

Posted By: ROGM
Extra money, gift cards, shower/moisturizing kit from Victoria's Secrets, take her to a nice upscale restaurant after you play, take her shopping on her birthday, flowers / card on her birthday, earrings/necklace.  

ROGM428 reads

Posted By: perfectstorm
Posted By: ROGM
Extra money, gift cards, shower/moisturizing kit from Victoria's Secrets, take her to a nice upscale restaurant after you play, take her shopping on her birthday, flowers / card on her birthday, earrings/necklace.  

Love the Ignore feature on this site.

A yellow rose in a vase for the 1st visit. Pink for the 2nd visit, red for the 3rd etc. $10/$20 Scratch-off lottery ticket each visit in a nice naughty studio card with the donation and a cash tip (bank envelopes are tacky)
After the last visit with my fav girl I got a delightful text from her later while imbibing at my local bistro telling me that she had won $50 on the scratch-off. She loved it, thanked me profusely with extra emoticons in the text.

Saw a new girl 2 weeks ago who`s been a pro since 2012 and gave her same goodies as noted above. She told me less than 5% of her clients bring flowers which she loves. She saw several clients over the next 2 days after me and said each one said upon seeing the rose proudly displayed on the night table that they felt bad for not thinking to bring flowers too. She ends her text with a "You`re the best" (after only 1 tryst mind you?) Hmmmm,
Dudes, little things go a looong way. Even on a limited budget like mine.

Once I had a hobbyist gift his atf with a full day photoshoot with me. I'm sure there was already a pretty long history with them rather than just a second date though.

Jewelry, perfume, Amazon e-gift cert., Visa gift card,etc. are a few ideas.

And I'll gift them that, whatever that may be..But she has to be someone special.

is any of the items I have on my wishlist at amazon.  

If not possible, gift cards, (also listed on my website), p411 points, cash.

Is not having to deal with gifting expectations.  Such as birthdays,  Valentine's Day, xmas, anniversaries, whatever.  Those of you with SOs will know exactly what I mean.  Not only do you have to get something- the something must be 'thoughtful'.   This means that it must be original which is pretty tough after a few decades...

For me gifting is a source of stress.  I would really much rather give my SO a few benjamins and call it a day...  

A provider has no expectations of me beyond the envelope -  I have none of her beyond her attention while we are together.  

I like getting books as gifts...but that's just me.  Find out what she's interested in and gift her accordingly.  If all else fails cash and Amazon giftcards are good.

I'm reminded of a mural I saw in Brooklyn years ago, with a 50's theme that said "Cash ... always appropriate, always appreciated."  
That said, if a woman has a wish list, it's easy. If she doesn't, I've gotten things that I know that she'll like, based on our conversations and interactions. Sometimes little things or in-jokes, but you may not know that on a second-visit stuff. Even if Dunkin' Donuts gift card, if I see she's a Dunkies girl (showing that you're observant never hurts.)
In any case, it's way less treacherous for me than gift-giving to an SO.

but it's not easy.  
My current Fav AMP has only 2 gals & they work long shifts.  I am well cared for there.  My last appt, I took a couple of blueberry muffins (1 ea) & presented on arrival... were well recieved with a big hug & kiss.  
I didn't want to take hot food since it would likely be cold before they got to it.  

In the past, i have taken a nice candle... with a plate to put under it (to insulate from combustable sufaces...   when jar candles burn down, the bottom gets hot & my fireman friends report several fires started that way).  I look for mismatched desert plates or fancy saucers for pennies.  Always bring a candle lighter & ask her to do the honors... unless she already has candles lit.  It has happened!              

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