Carolinas

A different take on reviews
Rufus-T-Firefly 558 reads
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I'm going to respectfully disagree with most of the negative points made about reviews so far in this thread.  

First, without reviews it would be so much more difficult to put faith in the bona fides of the girls. I wouldn't see any girl who didn't have at least a couple of reviews on TER, because of the chance she might be a rip-off artist, a total fraud claiming to be someone she's not, or law enforcement.  

Second, it's very important to me that the girls I do see are willing to do certain things, especially kissing. If a girl doesn't kiss, or doesn't kiss very much, or doesn't like kissing, I feel like I wasted my time and my money. Explicit reviews are the best way for me to find out about that. I know that other guys care about other things, so I am happy to include those things, either they happened or they didn't, and how good they were, in my reviews.  

I don't have the kind of money or time (I'm married) to take a girl out to lunch or otherwise spend more than the hour we have in the hotel room. I wish I did, but I don't. And even if I did, a large part of the appeal of this hobby is that I don't have to do that if I don't want to. Just as it's possible that a dinner date before the sex can enhance the experience immensely if the two people really hit it off, it can also detract from it if their dinner date doesn't go so well. Some guys and gals might be compatible in the sack but not discussing life, politics, and culture.  

As to reviews being negative: A single negative review shouldn't hurt if it's an outlier. A lot of high numbers and praise from established reviewers means more to me than a single disappointed guy, who might only be disappointed in himself. I look at reviews very carefully. I discount a review from a guy who only has that one review. I can't be sure if it's legitimate. I check to see if a guy rates everyone low or high, or has a range. If everyone is rated high, maybe he sees only high-end girls, or maybe he has low standards. If a guy rates everyone low, than the fact that he rated a particular girl with low numbers doesn't mean that much.  

I know that there are a lot of jerks and idiots out there. A single insulting review, therefore, might not be accurate, and so I'm likely to discount it. But sometimes it is accurate. I've had to write an extremely negative review, with a 2 for performance. But I've also written 25 positive reviews.

As for the girls reviewing the guys, well they have the ability to do that through references. I don't really know what the girls ask for when they check references, but it wouldn't be hard for them to say something like, "Watch out for this guy. He gave me a really negative review that I didn't deserve. I think he was mad about his own performance, and he spent 40 minutes complaining that this never happens to him, so it must be my fault." Or whatever they think about the guy.  

As for whether the reviews are imaginative, well, not everyone has all day to write reviews. Some people see them as an opportunity to convey the nuts and bolts of the experience: "We did these positions." Some guys want to convey how wonderful (or not) the experience was, and how exceptional (or not) the girl is, so that other guys will have some notion of whether they should spend their limited time and cash on this girl. For a guy who can only afford one visit a month, this might be the most important aspect of the review. Some guys want to rhapsodize about the experience, because this allows them to relive it, adding to the overall enjoyment. Some guys are just better writers.  

All these reviews are worth something to someone out there.

Reviews are part of the game and can make you feel appreciated or give valuable feedback on how to improve your service. Do you other ladies follow your reviews? If so, how do you handle the luke warm write ups without getting your feelings hurt?

I know if any of my luke warm performances were written about I would be horrified

I hear ya...probably should have said, rude comments. My first post...on here...trying to be too PC I guess.  

Posted By: SCBodyRub
I know if any of my luke warm performances were written about I would be horrified.  
   
 

Hi All:

The subject of "Reviews" is a good one and deserves some attention.

I have a read a LOT of the reviews on the Carolinas Regional Board. I am a man and have been
a client only once so far. I am still a newbie as far as the escort game is concerned in recent months,
although I was quite a conniseur of the escort business many years back when I was younger, and
before the "review" process started.

Normally, I read many reviews, both on TER and on some other boards. Same stuff. Most of the
reviews "suck"!

I am NOT impressed with most of the reviews. After you have read 4 or 5 of them, they all begin
to sound the same, with the same, almost boring activities. Only the guy and the lady are different.
Not a great deal of effort goes into the writing of reviews by the men. About 2/3 of them are bad/poor
reviews or in some way have a negative conotation about the lady in question. The rest are nothing
more than just raw sex, pretty much along the same line as watching porn online every night. It gets
old.

I am a bit miffed that the entire review process starts and ends with just sex. I know that the
escorts (ladies) are largely viewed by most men as simply "rent a puss" girls. I find some of these
reviews particularly degrading to the women, perhaps in an attempt by some men (clients) to boost
their own macho male egos. There appears to be little (male) emotion involved in the review process. There is certainly NO dignity and respect shown to any of the ladies. There is very little in the way
of kindness or feelings expressed by the men toward the women. The "4F" club mindset is
rampant. The "4F" mindset is simply "Find 'em, Feel 'em, Fuck 'em and Forget 'em".

Yes, I know that the ladie are all prostitutes, either full time or part time, divorced, widowed, still married in some cases, or just separated. Some ladies do this work as a career and they they  
make good money at it to where it becomes a way of life for them, and often is their sole source
of income and support. Many of these encounters are often one-time visits, between the ladies and
the men who are  never to be seen again. Others suggest repeats, but even so, their "repeat" reviews are the same as their previous posts.

Do the ladies generally like this line of work? I would bet that many do not. Men, on the other hand
probably love having the ladies at their disposal for their "use" and 'abuse".  

So, what real purpose do these reviews serve other than to steer more clients to the ladies?

Aside from the raw sex, does anyone ever simply make love to the ladies these days? Do any of the men ever take any of the escorts out for something other than sex? Do any of the men ever (just)
seek the companionship and company of a lovely lady, particularly if one can't get that at home?
How do the ladies feel about the way they are treated? How do they feel about their reviews,
and do any of them ever read them, especially the "juicy details" parts which are quite graphic
at times.

The subject deserves some discussion. There is always room for improvement.

I am aware that 99.9% of the men have an expectation of nothing more than sex with the ladies
in whatever form it takes upon an encounter.

In that regard, I am the exception. I could care less about the sex. I would however, just welcome
a few hours of female company with a nice lady, if she were willing and interested. I grew up in a
time when we respected women. We didnt' just use them and then toss them aside.

Thanks for letting me rant! These are just my sentiments folks. Feel free to write back.....
I would like to know people's insights, thoughts and opinions on all facets of the escort business.

Not being critical here at all. I support all of the ladies and what they do, and I fully recognize
the need for their great and wonderful services. If the ladies weren't out there, then we men would
be in deep trouble

I have to completely agree.  Respect is something that seems to be forgotten in this day in age.

Yeah, a lot of the men (reviewers) seem to forget that the ladies are PEOPLE too,  
with real feelings, emotions and needs. Consider also that these same ladies go to a LOT
of trouble (preparation, logistics, wardrobe, etc) just for US! So, give it some consideration
folks and perhaps show some appreciation as well when you write your reviews.

On another note, aside from buying and selling sex, does anyone just take a lady out
to lunch, or just for coffee and conversation? I know I would. I also know that most of the
ladies ads mention "companionship" or "time" as the main commodity. Of course, I am an
older man, so perhaps my perspective is a bit different. I love female company and enjoy
just meeting different ladies, even if they are only "escorts". When meeting for non-sexual
encounters, I still pay them for their time. Money is not an object, but having good, interesting
and fun company is.....(probably becuase I don't get that here at home. My wife is in poor
health, so you get the idea)

I actually did yesterday.  I met a provider for lunch.  It was absolutely a blast for me and i feel like it was a welcome change for her.  I would do it again in a minute and planning on asking her out again for either coffee, lunch or dinner and a show.  I too am older and I enjoy meeting new people and interesting conversation.  The object for me is have fun and interesting company.  And yes, I pay them for their time.  Would not have it any other way.

Yay, you sound like a man after my own heart!

Glad to hear it......

Maybe others will follow.......and just have a bit of fun while they are at it.

I find some of this "build up" much more exciting with a woman than just jumping
in the sack for an hour. It is always good to get to know the lady a bit before that
happens, makes sex much less mechanical and much more enjoyable when it  
finally happens. Part of the GFE....

Some companions do not deserve all that concern, respect and support because some of them do not give it. Instead of trying to blast them with a review, I just won't see them again. Chalk it up in the loss category and keep it moving. No second chances here. Now some may say I'm an only review if it's a good time for me and I would have to say I have been. I have picked well though so for the most part it has been a good time for me. Some gents would call bullshit on the fact that I only review good times and I would see their point but I'm not changing. If I review a lady, it's because I liked her and appreciated the experience for whatever reason. I don't know, when people disrespect my time, resources or just me as a human being who they dont know, it's best for me to forget about it quickly to be honest. In and out of this hobby. It's just best for all involved. Life is too short to give a hoot and the gifts handed over were disposable to me anyhow or I wouldn't have even been in the situation. Now I know that's not the case for all.  

I'm sure you were referring to the professional and respectful companions out there only but there are a plenty who do not fit those descriptions and I mean a plenty if you take the industry as a whole. I'm just bringing this up because you said All ladies and that's an extreme outlook that bothers me. No, I haven't been with every companion out there but come on, it's just human psychology to understand that bullshit is rampant BOTH ways. There should be an inherit mutual agreement in these encounters which has a few bullet points that are carried out by both gent and companion at all times within reason. Some may be different depending on what is desired out of the time for sure. Unfortunately this is not always the case on BOTH sides. This keeping to the mutual agreement. There are plenty and I mean plenty of men who only see companions as pieces of meat for sure and that is unfortuante but there are plenty and I mean plenty of companions who only see gents as just a headache they have to get through and an easy way to pay the rent. Let's just be real. I say an easy way because we all know not every companion puts in the time, effort and due diligence in regards to their encounters. The ones that do, I don't think its "easy" at all and I thank you from the bottom of my heart if Ive met you. Thank you for honoring the time. Oh to some, thank you and thank you one more time because you went well beyond. Lord mercy most men couldn't master the experience with any consistency the way some of these ladies do it. Back to the point if I had one to begin with, These type of men don't put any concern or effort into being considerate unless it suits their means of getting more "meat" and neither do these type of women. Men and women take advantage of these encounters too often. Both are equally fucked up and childish when they are true.

Posted By: DavieCakes
Hi All:  
   
 The subject of "Reviews" is a good one and deserves some attention.  
   
 I have a read a LOT of the reviews on the Carolinas Regional Board. I am a man and have been  
 a client only once so far. I am still a newbie as far as the escort game is concerned in recent months,  
 although I was quite a conniseur of the escort business many years back when I was younger, and  
 before the "review" process started.  
   
 Normally, I read many reviews, both on TER and on some other boards. Same stuff. Most of the  
 reviews "suck"!  
   
 I am NOT impressed with most of the reviews. After you have read 4 or 5 of them, they all begin  
 to sound the same, with the same, almost boring activities. Only the guy and the lady are different.  
 Not a great deal of effort goes into the writing of reviews by the men. About 2/3 of them are bad/poor  
 reviews or in some way have a negative conotation about the lady in question. The rest are nothing  
 more than just raw sex, pretty much along the same line as watching porn online every night. It gets  
 old.  
   
 I am a bit miffed that the entire review process starts and ends with just sex. I know that the  
 escorts (ladies) are largely viewed by most men as simply "rent a puss" girls. I find some of these  
 reviews particularly degrading to the women, perhaps in an attempt by some men (clients) to boost  
 their own macho male egos. There appears to be little (male) emotion involved in the review process. There is certainly NO dignity and respect shown to any of the ladies. There is very little in the way  
 of kindness or feelings expressed by the men toward the women. The "4F" club mindset is  
 rampant. The "4F" mindset is simply "Find 'em, Feel 'em, Fuck 'em and Forget 'em".  
   
 Yes, I know that the ladie are all prostitutes, either full time or part time, divorced, widowed, still married in some cases, or just separated. Some ladies do this work as a career and they they  
 make good money at it to where it becomes a way of life for them, and often is their sole source  
 of income and support. Many of these encounters are often one-time visits, between the ladies and  
 the men who are  never to be seen again. Others suggest repeats, but even so, their "repeat" reviews are the same as their previous posts.  
   
 Do the ladies generally like this line of work? I would bet that many do not. Men, on the other hand  
 probably love having the ladies at their disposal for their "use" and 'abuse".  
   
 So, what real purpose do these reviews serve other than to steer more clients to the ladies?  
   
 Aside from the raw sex, does anyone ever simply make love to the ladies these days? Do any of the men ever take any of the escorts out for something other than sex? Do any of the men ever (just)  
 seek the companionship and company of a lovely lady, particularly if one can't get that at home?  
 How do the ladies feel about the way they are treated? How do they feel about their reviews,  
 and do any of them ever read them, especially the "juicy details" parts which are quite graphic  
 at times.  
   
 The subject deserves some discussion. There is always room for improvement.  
   
 I am aware that 99.9% of the men have an expectation of nothing more than sex with the ladies  
 in whatever form it takes upon an encounter.  
   
 In that regard, I am the exception. I could care less about the sex. I would however, just welcome  
 a few hours of female company with a nice lady, if she were willing and interested. I grew up in a  
 time when we respected women. We didnt' just use them and then toss them aside.  
   
 Thanks for letting me rant! These are just my sentiments folks. Feel free to write back.....  
 I would like to know people's insights, thoughts and opinions on all facets of the escort business.  
   
 Not being critical here at all. I support all of the ladies and what they do, and I fully recognize  
 the need for their great and wonderful services. If the ladies weren't out there, then we men would  
 be in deep trouble!  
   
   
   
 

I personally feel for the ladies in regard to negative juvenile comments about their appearance outside of truthful comments about their hygiene if applicable. It's mainly companions appearance that gets this dose of disgusting write-ups imo. There is always a humane way to say certain stuff and a lot of these douchebags have no regard for tact. They live under that umbrella of its just a fuck board and fuck world. Some may say they're manly men and not pussys, lol. They are most surely pussys. I got peeved at a reviewer who talked about a companion I have seen a couple of times. What he said wasn't really that mean but he brought up something about her that only a dummy would pay attention to. There are some very mean and terrible write-ups out there in regards to tact. That was not one but still pissed me off he thought about it and felt compelled to bring it up.

Now for the performance side of things which I think by your phrase Luke warm you were referring to, well, that could be argued as free game and kind of what reviews are for imo outside of knowing if someone is legit and close to reliable, which for me is the main purpose. Only wish the ladies could throw it back on the performance side of things. Now that would throw a wrench in "the game"!!!! Lord Mercy. I for one would read a lot more reviews if there was a rebuttal section! Oh would I. Then this would be a site worthy of many honors.

I hope ladies do not pay attention to the mean comments about their appearance and admittedly some of the "going too far" negative comments about their performance. I really hope they do not but you know many do unfortunately. Shake that shit off. Plus a lot of these comments are just so relative. Multiple reviews with nasty mean comments, well, you're seeing too many douchebags OR........might just be constructive criticism from dudes who have no tact :) Ask one of them if you see them again, how can I make it better for you "baby" douchebag.

If you're able and they have a history of reviewing, get their Id before you meet and see how they express themselves. Some of these dudes are forever stuck in their teenage years. Otherwise just put them in that box of: You're just a man who P4P, what would you know!!! Lmao. Then raise one hand and high five it with the other while you say.....You Go Girl and....keep it moving!

Posted By: amelia317516
Reviews are part of the game and can make you feel appreciated or give valuable feedback on how to improve your service. Do you other ladies follow your reviews? If so, how do you handle the luke warm write ups without getting your feelings hurt?

When I first got into the industry the agent owner I worked for/with told me that reviews would make or break me and that I'd need to do my best to please the client, etc etc. Of course I did as best I could for my age and I remember one day he kinda chewed me out for getting a 7 or 8 I can't remember. But what I did remember was the review and I remembered the person I had met who gave me the review. For me, it had simply been a lack of communication and I failed to offer a 'second cup' therefore my lower score and whatever. Honestly I didn't care I was receiving 9s and 10s knowing in real life a 7 was generous for me.

I became a little obsessive about my scores till one day I realized that the clients who actually spent the time with me and got to know me weren't the ones reviewing me most of the time.  

I've learned I'm not every guys ideal companion and I'm cool with that. I used to not take negative scores well. I take the advice and expressed desires to heart but I don't change my lineup because one person didn't like the play.  

Unless your downstairs smells or your kisses taste like your lunch, orrr you're a dead fish the critiquing is usually subjective. But wtf am I saying? I'm just here for the train wreck threads.

All points duly noted. . . . .  

What we need on TER is a review process of the clients by the ladies in order to level
the playing field a bit!!  

There should be a process wherein a lady or provider can pull up a potential clients'
name or ID, and then look at what types of reviews he is giving to his other providers.
Perhaps a digital cross-reference by client name or ID and the providers he has seen
would work.

That might help the ladies get better reviews, and weed out the subpar reviewers.
Of course, if its' all about the money, and the ladies take on all comers, then they will
continue to get the (crappy) reviews that they deserve, good or bad.....

As the review process currently operates, it is one-sided and grossly unfair (to the ladies).
There is no review process for the ladies, and there is no rebuttal option for them. The
current review process treats the ladies like victims, or sex slaves and without a defense
mechanism in place. Such a cross-reference would also serve (for the ladies) as references
for their safety and security.
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Posted By: missariarocchi
When I first got into the industry the agent owner I worked for/with told me that reviews would make or break me and that I'd need to do my best to please the client, etc etc. Of course I did as best I could for my age and I remember one day he kinda chewed me out for getting a 7 or 8 I can't remember. But what I did remember was the review and I remembered the person I had met who gave me the review. For me, it had simply been a lack of communication and I failed to offer a 'second cup' therefore my lower score and whatever. Honestly I didn't care I was receiving 9s and 10s knowing in real life a 7 was generous for me.  
   
 I became a little obsessive about my scores till one day I realized that the clients who actually spent the time with me and got to know me weren't the ones reviewing me most of the time.  
   
 I've learned I'm not every guys ideal companion and I'm cool with that. I used to not take negative scores well. I take the advice and expressed desires to heart but I don't change my lineup because one person didn't like the play.  
   
 Unless your downstairs smells or your kisses taste like your lunch, orrr you're a dead fish the critiquing is usually subjective. But wtf am I saying? I'm just here for the train wreck threads.

But the crude, rude, and hateful messages/texts/calls we get as well.

Here is a lovely pm I just read this morning - what a way to wake up :)

"Fuck you you stupid *****. I was just playing off your ad but you are either too stupid to realize it or you didn't even write the thing.

Absolutely amazing.

Hi Molly:

Well, that type of comment from a potential client is exactly WHY I suggested that there
needs to be a method of reviewing the guys. Read my ealrier posts, where I addressed
this issue.

If such a database existed, it would stop a lot of that kind of activity. Bozos could be
screened out, ladies could pre-check the database and avoid the morons. The beauty of
TER is that one can only ever use ONE monicker to access the TER sites, so once identified,
the abuser could easily be locked out (by the ladies). At the same time, such an abusers'
reputation would be on the site for ALL of the other ladies to look at before they decided to
see such a person. Its' a safety and security issue, as well as a ready reference for the ladies.

The software would need to be established by the TER staff. It would then be up to the
ladies to build the database based on their experiences involving poor conduct, abuse, etc

Posted By: DavieCakes
Hi Molly:  
   
 Well, that type of comment from a potential client is exactly WHY I suggested that there  
 needs to be a method of reviewing the guys. Read my ealrier posts, where I addressed  
 this issue.  
   
 If such a database existed, it would stop a lot of that kind of activity. Bozos could be  
 screened out, ladies could pre-check the database and avoid the morons. The beauty of  
 TER is that one can only ever use ONE monicker to access the TER sites, so once identified,  
 the abuser could easily be locked out (by the ladies). At the same time, such an abusers'  
 reputation would be on the site for ALL of the other ladies to look at before they decided to  
 see such a person. Its' a safety and security issue, as well as a ready reference for the ladies.  
   
 The software would need to be established by the TER staff. It would then be up to the  
 ladies to build the database based on their experiences involving poor conduct, abuse, etc.  
   
 

I am in a panic attack as I have met a real psycho who passes screening due to the fact that many sites are on the clients side and this guy needs to be avoided by Carolina gals and those who travel to charleston

Lot of talk about Penis Envy, but, imho, these haters are full of Puzzy(can't get right spelling for fear of admin:))
Envy!  Reminds me of cartoon where guy with a hard on is showing it to his GF, who is admiring it, and he is proudly pointing out that she don't have one---LOL  Well, she thinks a minute and lifts her skirt and retorts that with one of these  (showing her puddy kat) I can get all those(pointing to his Johnson, etc.), that I want;P~~~

Ladies, just keep that in mind when this happens to you, smile knowing that you have the "right stuff", and he don't----LOL

nuguy46462 reads

just add to the nice things said about you...another...you are the sweetest and most likeable female that a man could ever know! always in and on my mind!

What a DB! Molly you are one of the nicest ladies I've met in this playground, so that guy has some mental issues, or it was an angry wife/GF pretending to be a guy. That kinda shit shouldn't happen, but assholes always pick on the nice people for some reason. They mistake kindness for weakness and should be taught a lesson. I think you should turn the message over to Tobi so she can deliver the appropriate responce.  

Posted By: MollyDaniels
But the crude, rude, and hateful messages/texts/calls we get as well.  
   
 Here is a lovely pm I just read this morning - what a way to wake up :)  
   
 "Fuck you you stupid *****. I was just playing off your ad but you are either too stupid to realize it or you didn't even write the thing.  
   
 Absolutely amazing."  
   
   
 

Posted By: DURHAMDREW63
What a DB! Molly you are one of the nicest ladies I've met in this playground, so that guy has some mental issues, or it was an angry wife/GF pretending to be a guy. That kinda shit shouldn't happen, but assholes always pick on the nice people for some reason. They mistake kindness for weakness and should be taught a lesson. I think you should turn the message over to Tobi so she can deliver the appropriate responce.  
   
I'm not that mean!  LOL.
Kidding - I love Tobi :)

Molly:))
Thought that you lived by the big pond here in NC. Last summer I contacted you while I was in the mtns and coming this way, butt, you were WAY WAY south of the city by the sea at that time:(( I was hoping that you would bring your ropes:)) so we could play 50 Shades of Fun & Games, but so far we keep playing Whack a Mole, i.e. you pop up somewhere I am not, and then I pop up somewhere you are not:((  
Have my velcro straps, accessories, etc. with me at all times now, looking for a mutual time and place we both can  pop off;P~~

Posted By: birdluvr69
Molly:))  
 Thought that you lived by the big pond here in NC. Last summer I contacted you while I was in the mtns and coming this way, butt, you were WAY WAY south of the city by the sea at that time:(( I was hoping that you would bring your ropes:)) so we could play 50 Shades of Fun & Games, but so far we keep playing Whack a Mole, i.e. you pop up somewhere I am not, and then I pop up somewhere you are not:((    
 Have my velcro straps, accessories, etc. with me at all times now, looking for a mutual time and place we both can  pop off;P~~  
I moved from Carolina Beach to Raleigh in September of last year :

what is it that the ladies want to see in their reviews?

Rufus-T-Firefly559 reads

I'm going to respectfully disagree with most of the negative points made about reviews so far in this thread.  

First, without reviews it would be so much more difficult to put faith in the bona fides of the girls. I wouldn't see any girl who didn't have at least a couple of reviews on TER, because of the chance she might be a rip-off artist, a total fraud claiming to be someone she's not, or law enforcement.  

Second, it's very important to me that the girls I do see are willing to do certain things, especially kissing. If a girl doesn't kiss, or doesn't kiss very much, or doesn't like kissing, I feel like I wasted my time and my money. Explicit reviews are the best way for me to find out about that. I know that other guys care about other things, so I am happy to include those things, either they happened or they didn't, and how good they were, in my reviews.  

I don't have the kind of money or time (I'm married) to take a girl out to lunch or otherwise spend more than the hour we have in the hotel room. I wish I did, but I don't. And even if I did, a large part of the appeal of this hobby is that I don't have to do that if I don't want to. Just as it's possible that a dinner date before the sex can enhance the experience immensely if the two people really hit it off, it can also detract from it if their dinner date doesn't go so well. Some guys and gals might be compatible in the sack but not discussing life, politics, and culture.  

As to reviews being negative: A single negative review shouldn't hurt if it's an outlier. A lot of high numbers and praise from established reviewers means more to me than a single disappointed guy, who might only be disappointed in himself. I look at reviews very carefully. I discount a review from a guy who only has that one review. I can't be sure if it's legitimate. I check to see if a guy rates everyone low or high, or has a range. If everyone is rated high, maybe he sees only high-end girls, or maybe he has low standards. If a guy rates everyone low, than the fact that he rated a particular girl with low numbers doesn't mean that much.  

I know that there are a lot of jerks and idiots out there. A single insulting review, therefore, might not be accurate, and so I'm likely to discount it. But sometimes it is accurate. I've had to write an extremely negative review, with a 2 for performance. But I've also written 25 positive reviews.

As for the girls reviewing the guys, well they have the ability to do that through references. I don't really know what the girls ask for when they check references, but it wouldn't be hard for them to say something like, "Watch out for this guy. He gave me a really negative review that I didn't deserve. I think he was mad about his own performance, and he spent 40 minutes complaining that this never happens to him, so it must be my fault." Or whatever they think about the guy.  

As for whether the reviews are imaginative, well, not everyone has all day to write reviews. Some people see them as an opportunity to convey the nuts and bolts of the experience: "We did these positions." Some guys want to convey how wonderful (or not) the experience was, and how exceptional (or not) the girl is, so that other guys will have some notion of whether they should spend their limited time and cash on this girl. For a guy who can only afford one visit a month, this might be the most important aspect of the review. Some guys want to rhapsodize about the experience, because this allows them to relive it, adding to the overall enjoyment. Some guys are just better writers.  

All these reviews are worth something to someone out there.

I appreciate all of the well thought out and articulate responses, especially the feedback and kindness from my peers.  

I see time as precious and when someone books a session with me, I do my best to make them happy. It is after all, their hard earned money and, hopefully, they have read my ads/reviews and know what to expect. I agree we all have our view on what is aesthetically pleasing, but in my mind and heart, kindness is always beautiful.  

It isn't easy to put oneself out there and endure what a lot of us put up with, however, I'm happy to say that for the most part, the men I hear from are gentleman.  

Many thanks to you all.  

Amelia

And what ads and reviews might those be? I can't seem to find you...

I am Amelia in Raleigh. I have only a few reviews on this site and a couple of mentions on another board. I'm fairly new and still learning the ropes.  

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Posted By: SCBodyRub
And what ads and reviews might those be? I can't seem to find you...

NoDamnWay514 reads

Your profile says your photos aren't real but they are accurate. How does that work?

A valid question that I am happy to answer.  It is for discretion not for deceit. I use photos that are to my likeness combined with some of my own on occasion. I suck at taking selfies, so I planned to use these until I could afford some professional shots that don't show my face.

NoDamnWay586 reads

If you're using photos of someone else for discretion and not deceit, this line below wouldn't appear in your ads!

*Photos are 100% me. NO ADDITIONAL PHOTOS will be sent*

Your excuses for not having your own photos are bullshit, too! Typical backpage bullshit!

Then you and I shall never meet and that is fine with me, sir.  
I do, however, respect your opinion despite its rude delivery.  
It is my body, mind, reputation, safety, and well being that I put on the line to provide a service for gentleman only. I get to choose if, when, and how I do so as you get to choose who you see and don't see. I will agree with you that authenticity is ideal and  goal I have is to have some new photos if I don't succomb to frustration and disenchantment.  
I will add that as a provider there are many other mitigating factors that you may not be privy to with regard to photos that I will not get into here.  

Jeez...I see a lot of bitching on the boards about there not being many quality providers to choose from. I wonder how many good ones just said eff this and quit

NoDamnWay547 reads

Look, you came here out of concern for your reviews. If you really care about becoming a reputable, quality provider, all I'm saying is it's not a good idea to use any photos but your own. When you do, it's trickery. It's deceptive. And pardon me for not sugarcoating it for you, it's bullshit. The first objective of sales is to establish trust. How do you trust someone that says "PHOTOS ARE 100% ME...well, not really." You acknowledge your own frustration yet it seems you fail to see how your ways are a source of frustration for a potential client. Why? Because we've all seen the fake photo ads of those that showed up before you! Nobody wants to see your likeness. They want to see you. If they meet you and would prefer to meet your likeness, then you've really got a problem! Show me a reputable quality provider that doesn't use her own photos.

You don't have to wait for a professional photo shoot either. If you're not happy with the way your selfies turn out, ask a client to take a few shots with your camera. I've been asked to do it plenty of times. It's no big deal. Editing your face out is very quick and easy

Fair enough. I see how you can feel I'm being deceptive. Deception is not my intention...safety and discretion is.  As I said, I am still learning best practice techniques. (I was once told to add that phrase to keep weirdos from asking me to send nudes.) I find your tone to be a bit rude and condescending. Still, I have made an effort to address your concerns respectfully and courteously.The thread I initiated has been sufficiently discussed. Perhaps you should start your own thread on photo authenticity.

NoDamnWay511 reads

Now THAT'S funny! Someone using fake photos trying to put a stop to guys asking for nudes!  

Pardon my tone. My bullshit allergies have been acting up the last couple of days.  

No need to start my own thread. As far as I know, you are the only one I'm aware of on this board that needed this discussion. However, if I've missed someone or if any of your friends need to come to a fuck board to learn about honesty and trust, feel free to send them my way. I'd be happy to help.

I actually came to the "Fuckboard" for a boost in self esteem. The lesson in honesty from the ever so cool "No damn way" was an unexpectant ancillary benefit. My heartfelt thanks. Your intelligence astounds me.  

[quotedamnname]NoDamnWay

Now THAT'S funny! Someone using fake photos trying to put a stop to guys asking for nudes!  
   
 Pardon my tone. My bullshit allergies have been acting up the last couple of days.  
   
 No need to start my own thread. As far as I know, you are the only one I'm aware of on this board that needed this discussion. However, if I've missed someone or if any of your friends need to come to a fuck board to learn about honesty and trust, feel free to send them my way. I'd be happy to help.

Sorry your feelings were hurt with that. I would advise to take heed of the main point of what he was feeling and take away the mean way in which he said it. It is probably best to keep any personal stuff to a minimum when first meeting a gent unless he brings it up with you or asks you or there is mutual sharing. I can tell from his writing what type of man he basically is and he is a borderline if not completely a douchebag but valuable things can be learned from even douchebags. Ignore the noise but pay attention to how he felt. You will meet many and I mean many who would have felt the same way. Depending on how long you stay around. Even though they would hopefully be more tactful in their review of you. So many other ways to make the same point he did without being mean about it but again, a lot of these gents do not care. They have no tact or awareness that they are speaking about a human being. His first sentence in the juicy details paved the way to what was to come if their was anything he deemed negative from the meeting.

But you say you're just a basic member. Even though you're a provider, you can't see the juicy detailss can you? So I suppose you were just talking about the general details. Fair enough. Just ignore how he said it because what he said is important to a lot of gents, trust me. A lot of gents who will be seeing you already listen to their wives at home. A lot of them, want to get away from that for a second. Not all would have minded but I dare to say with a lot of confidence, many would have and will. Whether they write a review or not for you to know. I'm just saying so that you won't lose repeat customers because of this and never know exactly why. That's the constructive part of it.

Posted By: amelia317516
I am Amelia in Raleigh. I have only a few reviews on this site and a couple of mentions on another board. I'm fairly new and still learning the ropes.  
   
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Posted By: SCBodyRub
And what ads and reviews might those be? I can't seem to find you...

Thank you, Hector. Admittedly, I am not the best at taking criticism and am perhaps too sensitive at times. Sensitivity is something that can be good in this biz in that I am able to hone in on other's feelings and be open with my own.  

When I first read the review, I initially thought it was someone else that I totally connected with and that is why I felt hurt and confused. Once I checked my notes I understood and I was relieved to find out it was not him. I do not like when someone leaves unhappy, but sometimes there just is no connection. I have learned that much.  

As I've said, I am fairly new to this profession and I came late to the party. I'm still learning some of the nuances and best practices with regard to how to advertise with discretion yet represent myself fairly.  

I have 2 other jobs and one grown child that I am trying to put through college. Many dreams died on my way to arriving here, but I have met some really sweet gentleman that have made me feel beautiful, while I am getting myself back on my feet financially. I completely agree that these sessions are an escape and conversations should be at a minimum with a new client, and I adhere to that. I don't work much but when I do, I like to have wine, candles, music, high heels, silky lingerie and make it a great time for both of us.  

I keep notes on everyone I see. On this occasion, I remember being very nervous and perhaps had a little too much wine! I usually can find chemistry right away, in a touch, a smile, a hug, but had trouble with this gentleman. I couldn't find anything that got my inner seductress 'in the mood' at all physically. I think this is why I might have chatted too much with him...trying to find something to connect with intellectually, spiritually, emotionally...ANYTHING. It was just not there, so I did the best I could. Lesson learned. Sometimes you've just got to shut up and get it done. :(  Then, flag the number and not see this client again

When you are providing a service of ANY kind there will always be both kinds of feedback. Take the best restaurants in any city and someone out there I am sure has givin them negative feedback for some reason. It is what it is and the best advice I can say to deal with it is this .... take any situation/event in your life good or bad and learn something or take something positive out of it no matter what it is.

Oh, and yes I am a basic member. Maybe I should have signed up differently as a provider? I'll go RTFF now unless someone will help a girl out...

Posted By: amelia317516
Oh, and yes I am a basic member. Maybe I should have signed up differently as a provider? I'll go RTFF now unless someone will help a girl out...
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Everything I wanted say, you just said.

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