Along with noticing a majority of clients are married I would imagine the ladies would also take notice that most are also over 40. Maybe even more over 50?

One of the many reasons maybe this simple:  we old foggies may still have a distinct possibility of scoring with ladies of our generation but ZERO, ZILCH, NADA, IMPOSSIBLE etc... with a young, nubile, fresh, tight 20 somethings maybe even early 30 somethings. That is unless our names are Brad Pitt, George Clooney etc...

My body may have aged but object of my desire and lust stays EXACTLY the same as when I was in my 20s. Can't help it!

... but I wasn't; so I did.  And I do.  And in reference to the comment above this  one, though I'm someone between younger and older, tilting a bit toward older, my preference, with an exception or two, is for escorts in their late 30s and 40s - ie much closer to my age

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... We're t-r-o-u-b-l-e!!!

I'm 35 and single, so no qualms for me if I see someone.  I couldn't see myself seeing a provider if I was married but that's just me.  But I do have many friends that hate their wives, but they don't communicate so that's their own issue.  Just make sure that if you do ever want to get married that you don't say that phrase just before lol.  My one friend did, and she was divorced a year later.  Was so awkward, when 2 months before her wedding she was like, how do you really know if you're in love?

then most males will turn elsewhere to have their needs met. I haven't "gotten any" at home in over 20 years.

I am so thankful for the many women I have shared BCD time with.

I  was married for 32 years. I discovered that there are a lot more forces pulling a relationship apart than keeping it together.  The old saying "familiarity breeds contempt" is very true. Somewhere along the line one party or the other will develop a feeling of resentfulness. Once that is in a relationship it's over. Intimacy is done. Which starts a feedback loop. So IMO thats why you see a lot of married older guys. Plus we are horny bastards.

I'm single and have no desire of getting married ...I'm too far gone. LOL  I also got tired of playing the dating game with civvies, so the hobby has fitted nicely into my lifestyle.

I'm married but at no time in my life has the desire for variety ever ebbed even slightly.

I think being "unhappy" is an excuse, a justification for what is really just a natural urge that some guys don't want to admit to -- that they'd be unfaithful even if everything was perfect at home, if they had the chance.

It is often said the best predictor of unfaithfulness is opportunity.

And if you do marry and you catch him fucking another hooker behind your back, would that bother you? Would that be cheating, from your persepective? These are all things you should consider but I cant tell you how much consideration you should give it before saying I do.

I'm married.  My wife never had any interest in sex... or any other intamicy (touching, kissing hugging, cuddling).  Then it went from once a year to zero (4 years).  
If my wife had any interest in sex, I would never have hobbied.  I had a choice of celibasy or going outside.  I'm not ready to be celibate.

If I was happily married, I would have nothing to do with the Hobby (except maybe post here). Of course I am not attached, and I am going to be honest here, I like the freedom I have.  

I think it is very possible to be happily married and partake in the hobby. There is different aspects that need to be fulfilled and no one person can do it all. Plus, some people just like variety or no hassles in getting laid. Providers are ready to go. We don't have to clean up after you or be around you all of the time, which can possibly make a wife not want to put out lol. I am not a wife, I don't need him to take the garbage out, run errands, etc.... I am just here to have a great time for the time we are together.

No sex at home from the wife. Isn't that the reason for nearly all the married guys?

I had a thoughtful conversation about this at the end of a very good session, and the lady listened and said "When are women going to figure it out? If you're not fucking your husband, someone else is."

The fact that most of my clients are married.. even better. I don't have to worry about them getting in my personal life. They want discretion and that's exactly what I like and Im willing to offer.  

Been married already, and from my experience it happens in almost all marriages, that's why im back to the single life!  

Why? because couples get tired, bored, get used to the monotony.  
However, there is a psychological difference between having an affair and seeing a lady in our business. It isn't about ego, or admiration, or conquest. It is often a cold and emotionless transaction... and if keep my friends wife's happy and I get return customers... I'm happy with that too!

She’s ill, and doesn’t have the energy anymore.

Generations on end have resented the luckiest guys. Kings, Princes, Sheiks, Rock Stars, Athletes, Politicians, Movie Stars, etc. For the first time since the beginning of mankind, the average mojojos get to join in on all the fun.

Grew up in a repressive religion, and didn’t get to have fun like my high school buddies. You ladies are my high school make ups. After graduation, it’s on to college make ups.  

First full on sex experience was with an escort. The escort mentality seared itself onto my brain. The escort world is something I just have to have.  

First playful sex experience was with the neighborhood girl down at the tree after dark. She showed me her pussy, and I got a slight taste. The idea of secret sex seared itself onto my brain.  

If only those church girls would have put out, my life would have been completely different.

I was married and stayed faithful, other than a few HJs in strip clubs. After getting separated and then divorced, I jumped into the P4P party with both feet and had a great time. Now I have a civvie girlfriend and I'm not seeing escorts any more. I used to look down on men who were unfaithful, but after a marriage that became sexless, I'm a lot more sympathetic. You live, you learn.

Each for 16 years.  I was monogamous in the first and actually had no desire to go outside.  The sex was great and often, even when the rest of our relationship was falling apart. Grudge sex can be awesome.  
In the second marriage, we started out hot and heavy.  I'd fly to visit her and she'd blow me while I was driving from the airport.  
But, eventually things changed.  She lost her desire through menopause and I had an injury that changed what I needed to enjoy sex.  She wasn't willing to help me.  
Eventually, I lost my desire to be around her and even she said she really didn't want to give me a birthday blow job, or any sex at all.  Didn't have sex for two years.  

I decided I was done with the marriage and started seeing providers while still living with her for 9 months. Eventually,   I moved out and I'm  planning on living by myself from now on . The divorce went through  about a month ago and  I really like living by myself.  I've continued to see providers because I've been able to have the sex I've only dreamed about and be able to go home by myself.  
I'm in my mid 50's and I don't have a need to procreate. And I have no desire to be monogamous anymore.   But, I've been able to have civvie women friends that I don't have a desire to have sex with. And I get almost enough sex with providers that I've gotten to know and really enjoy.

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I'm either 100% in a relationship or I'm not. There is no grey area.

If I found someone tomorrow who could match my efforts then all of this would disappear.

who has --more than a decade ago-- lost all interest in sex. She is 60 and still attractive, he is 75, still horny in good health working full time, physically very active.
What is he to do?  
He can meet lovely bright women who are skilled in seduction and who seem passionate.  Some are in their thirties some in their 50s, all are great company and provider greats sex.  
Little mystery here.
He can live a life of frustration and resentment, he can break up a happy marriage to a woman he loves, he can insist his wife "does her duty" with no interest on her part (in my case he really can't because he can't even get excited in such a setting.) or he can enjoy the company of some exceptional woman from time to time.

I'm happily married in my mid 60's and still have fairly frequent satisfying sex with my wife of 30+ years. I visit escorts about once or twice a month for 2 or 3 hours a visit.  

I'm just a horny bastard who love meeting and having sex with beautiful, smart, sexy younger women.  

My wife doesn't know what I do but I suspect she suspects but never asks me. I'm super discrete, money is not an issue and I have enough hobbies and work activities that my time away is not noticed.  

My seeing escorts does not change my feeling for my wife, in fact, since I've started seeing escorts, about 10 years ago, I am happier in my marriage and a better husband.  

This may simple be rationalization, I will admit, but it works for me.

In my first marriage, I went back to the hobby because my wife lost interest in sex.  I soon found that the hobby was more satisfying than monogamous sex anyways.  My first wife divorced me partly on account of my hobbying, which in hindsight was no big loss, (except for the money), and it allowed me to meet my second wife, who was an escort I met (now retired) and approves of my hobbying, especially as we live far apart and only get together a few times a year.

I suppose marriage has its points, and if wanting to raise kids, that's a big plus; but don't feel like you have to do it because everyone else is getting married, or some other silly reason.

all things that can change over a lifetime spent with one person. I hold that these things are essential for everyone, and should they fade, people will seek them out with others.

I have the thrill gene.  I knew my wife was not sexually charged nor adventurous when I married her and I needed her calming influence. I hobby to find the sexual excitement and pleasure in sex.

For every absolutely gorgeous woman in the world, there is a man that is tired of her shit.  Marriage sex can become stale, that's just how it is.  Unless you're in an open marriage things become stagnant.  Providers afford married men the opportunity to see and feel something different without the hassle or risk of meeting someone new at a bar, club, etc.

Kim if you are bi, maybe you and your husband (when you get one) can have an open agreement that you will have threesomes. There shouldn't be a reason for him to do something behind your back then.  

I was in a relationship like that once upon a time. I loved it.

I am still madly in love with my wife. She turns me on still and she puts out. I consider the marriage a happy one. I think my wife is by far the best thing that ever happened to me and marrying her the smartest thing I ever did by far. I would marry her again in a heart beat.

But I still see sex workers from time to time. Not as often as I could but often enough. Why? First my wife and I have a somewhat open relationship. I am allowed to bed pros as is she. Sometimes we do it together sometimes separate but we both bed others. If I had to hide it or if my wife wished I would stop I would.

Second most people including me have some desire for variety. I love pizza but sometimes a salad sounds nice instead. That doesn't mean I don't love pizza though. Variety is the spice of life. I never cheated, but since I am aloud to get a little side action and can afford it why not?

while married without telling my spouse/granting her permission to do the same -- but even then, I doubt that it would be a good thing for the relationship, especially if we're living together under the same roof everyday (as most married couples have to do.)    

As one of the first replies above said, we older men LOVE being able to see the young hotties -- coming home in a deliriously happy state after a visit with a sweetie, not to mention having the happiness linger for a day or two, is going to be tough on all but the most understanding of spouses.  And if my spouse came home in such a state, I know I wouldn't be understanding enough to be genuinely happy for her.  My selfish reality.  

Monogamously married and happy enough for 20 years but too happy now being single to consider another monogamous relationship, especially if I am expected to the heavy lifting, economically speaking.  

I travel extensively and spend a lot of time on the road alone. P4P is just something I do fend off boredom. If it were feasible for my wife to travel with me I would be just as happy with her.

If you keep him Cumming every day at least once, preferably more, he won't want to cheat.  Be his fantasy.  Be his whole, be what he wants and desires.  Age is inescapable, sometimes body shape slumps too, but keep his willy wet and he will be too tired for other women.  I would be.  (Maybe this is all just my own wants/fantasy  marriage...)

My wife was absolutely gorgeous and we had a great sex life. Then, for reasons I've never really understood, she completely lost all interest in sex despite our getting along well in every other arena. After several years of celibacy (and with much trepidation) I ventured into the hobby.  Over the next several years my wife completely let herself go physically and went from being Playboy model material to substantially overweight. This bothered me but, by then, I was not as effected by that as I would have been absent the hobby as an outlet.  

To any woman contemplating marriage I'd say; consistently meet your man's needs both physically and visually and your success chances increase by a factor of 10. Men are visual creatures who need sex.  Why many women forget that or choose to ignore it after marriage is a mystery but they often do.