1. Typically, yes, one meeting and she'll be willing to provide a reference (or P411 OK). Some may require more than one visit. Ask at the end of the appointment if she'll be a reference for you.  

2. Six months is the general standard. I've seen anywhere from 3-12 months. Ask her. This may also depend on how much time you've spent with her. A full evening-dinner date will be more memorable for her than a one-hour meeting, generally. The point is that she should actually remember who you are before vouching for you.  

3. Depends. If you only see her once for a short visit and then barrage her with ref requests every week, then yes there is a limit on the courtesy she's extending to you. If she's on your regular rotation, then she should be willing to help you out between visits.  

4. She wants to know that you're not LE or psycho - that's it! But if they're friends, then you can bet that they'll talk.

If I have seen a gentleman once, I will give a reference for him if everything was okay i.e. donation was correct, hygiene was impeccable and he didn't abuse my time.  

I would give you a reference for 2 years and I'm very reference friendly. However, if you have seen more recent providers, please use one of the current ones.  

It doesn't bother me regarding numerous requests... THAT IS PART OF OUR JOB.  

When I contact a reference to verify a gentleman, I am making sure he's not LE, he was a good date, and his hygiene was great. .  


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Hope I am doing this tree thing right. Rufus, these are just my suggestions and what I find comfy with. Everyone has a different way to ensure their safety. It takes a bit of time and an investment. Yet weell worth it in the long run. TER has a place where you can be White Listed which means your date took the time to go on the board and recommend you.

Date check and preferred 411 to me are wonderful. They take you information, work, real name, etc, etc, so you do not have to give this out over and over again. I especially appreciate it when people contact me to give me this information up-front. It is easy to verify.  

I would rather have a work reference than to hear from you 12 times for me to verify you. Being discreet to me is what happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors. And yes I for one become fond of many of my clients and would rather not know their escapades.

Once or twice. OK, yet like the lady said above if you are seeing a variety of Entertainers, than seek them out for references.  

It is also a nice touch that if you enjoyed your date that you take the time to write a review of a positive experience of her on TER. That will speak volumes. Just my 2 cents worth. Happy dating! Kelley White