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Re: It is a dance of balancing the tightrope together...
Sidney Starr See my TER Reviews 340 reads
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Each sub is unique and each can take their own level of pain. I too am a gfe provider but I have many clients that are into CB&T and punishment and humiliation. I trained in Philly with some awesome dommes. My subs don't want to just be kicked or hit or beaten. It's a dance of that and reward. Showing them giving them pain amuses and pleases you and then showing them you care. ;-)

Dr. joe1120 reads

how do you sense just how much pain and what kind of pain to administer to your sub to motivate him or her to beg and plead and to make her or him combine the feelings of just enough fear and just enough suffering to get her or him on the road to intense excitement and sensual pleasure.

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MissErinBlack516 reads

Pain, most times is NOT a motivator. Not unless, of course, you've got your submissive turned on before you administer anything heavy.

in my experience, the more turned on a submissive is, the more pain they can take.  you just can't start administering pain without a proper warm-up, and most people aren't truly masochistic enough to be sustained by pain alone.  

I know when things are going correctly because the noises are about the same; when my subs make damn near the same sounds when i give them either pleasure or pain, i know i've reached a point to where i can gradually administer more pain.  With the increase in pain however, there should be an increase in pleasure. They shouldn't wince away from the pain; they should be leaning into it and basically begging for it with their body in the same way they'd beg for pleasure.  

At least, that's how I work it. :)

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Dr. joe404 reads

I was just trying to start a discussion.  I play with a lady who is really into heavy pain when it is the right type and at the right moment into things.  She loves to be tightly restrained but I need to be very careful as she hates it when the buckles  pinch her skin.  Yet later on when things are really at full blossom, she loves the use of clamps, paddles,etc that is really intense.  

I find that a well placed knee at the right moment moves me along delightfully when it would ruin everything easier on

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ClairJordan390 reads

I having been easing into full blown Dom for quite some time and have learned to LOVE being large and in charge--there's no going back!  While Sensual Domination has been my thing, I find myself going more corporal and really loving it.  When spanking or flogging, I get turned on by the amount pain they can take.   the more they take, the hotter I get!
 As I have already gotten them completely hot and bothered with sensual domination...the Bondassage sequence, plus my own additions such as body to body slide and serious Edge play...your explanation makes sense as to why the pain increases their excitement.
It's a slippery slope, and one I am thoroughly,,,albeit slowly...and happily sliding down...

 
Ms. Clair Jorda

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MissErinBlack367 reads

It really turns me on to be able to administer cbt/corporal punishment/other types of pain, so it's honestly beneficial to me to have my submissive very turned on and ready to accept the pain that I want to give them.  It's a win-win for everyone. ;)

I'm glad your explorations into Domme work have been fruitful!

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MILFCARESSA418 reads

Overstepping and pulling back...pulling back and urging the build up of desire that permits the limits to blur in the most delightful ways.

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Sidney Starr341 reads

Each sub is unique and each can take their own level of pain. I too am a gfe provider but I have many clients that are into CB&T and punishment and humiliation. I trained in Philly with some awesome dommes. My subs don't want to just be kicked or hit or beaten. It's a dance of that and reward. Showing them giving them pain amuses and pleases you and then showing them you care. ;-)

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