a year. There's an Italian proverb that goes like this ...

Put a coffee bean in a jar by  the headboard every  
time you fuck your wife during the first year of your  
marriage. Take one out every time you fuck her for  
the rest of your marriage.  

YOU'LL NEVER EMPTY THE JAR!

I was only married once and she was Italian. Care to
come over for a cup of coffee and talk about it ?

Hookers are PROOF that there is a God and he's a very  
good God ... make that She's a very good God .. lol

Statson, this is totally normal and probably more common than we realize.  Your monthly contribution to our lovely providers is not keeping the industry afloat.  Providers are preferred to an affair, where either party may be looking for something besides the physical.
I love my wife dearly.  I love our life together.  I do not want it to end.  But I need providers.  I need that excitement, pleasure and attraction.  Just don't get caught.

but marry her for life...

What you experienced is very common. Have you considered that she probably feels the same?

Discover all the other things that you like about her and, when you get the occasional need, go visit your friendly hooker.

Haven't touched my wife for over 15 years.. don't worry about it.. The thought to me of even touching her.. gives me the willies..

If you don't you will loose her.     Some one will show her some attention.    Happens every day.

and btw , the caution against stupid comments is a great touch. It will absolutely guarantee that all comments are well thought out and written with intelligence.

very begrudgingly.  After a while, it was no fun and my interest with her waned.

I did learn a way to encourage her:  I'd come home just after having had sex with an escort.

Then, she'd want to have sex.  I think the pheromones I exuded where the reason why, but it sure took some doing to step up to the plate

When you are in bed, imagine that you are with a hot hooker. That will give you instant erection. Then you can fuck her real hard to completion, do a cum in pussy.  

My wife knows I am a player, got caught last year. She makes sure she touches my balls everyday.  

Every once in a while I sneak around to get pussy on the side now, lol.

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...and it's not unusual for either partner to explore outside fun. With a lack of interest from one partner it's not unusual for that sexual spark to die. I still love my wife and still find her very sexually attractive, but I still need my goomahs

of this hobby?  We can have variety and connect with many amazing women.  Most who would never choose to be with us under normal circumstances.  No hunt, no presumption, no roller coaster ride.  We have already done all those things to find our perfect mate.  Now it is time to have fun.

Many of these women could never fill our domestic needs nor would they want to.  While our SO takes care of everything else, providers are very specialized and take care of one very specific area.

We meet them, sometimes become friends, pay them, get on with the objective at hand, shower and we are on our way to our "other" lives.  How much better could it get?

While I fully understand this dynamic, I also appreciate the role my very special friends play in my life.  And I make sure to respect them, appreciate them, and make sure they get fair compensation.

I was married for decades before getting a divorce. I was never unfaithful to her. For the first twenty to thirty years, we had a fantastic sex life, although she couldn't have sex sober (I wasn't sober, either).  

For the last decade or so of the marriage, sex was almost non-existent. I had to jump through all sorts of hoops to get anything at all, and the quality of the sex was gone. We were divorced in 2013. The last time we'd had sex was a blow job on Sunday August 8th, 2009 at 9 am at a hotel in Jonesboro, AR. Can't remember the room number, though.  

Divorce. Start seeing providers and things were great. They were as hot or even more so than my ex was when she was young. They've been great performers and haven't needed to be drunk. Sex is so much better.

I actually did start trying to find escorts back in the 1990's, but I don't think I could have gone through with it. Marriage vows and all that.

It's not possible to want to fuck only ONE PERSON
for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.

 
The Wife used that Sex stuff to get what she truly wanted---Security.
She is not realizing the importance of her own orgasm so she buries her head in the sand  
and slings harsh judgements at the girls who do have sex.

If there were no Marriage Institution, she would continue with the evolution of her sexuality

any stupid comments, you are missing out on a great line.  Its okay, I don't play well with people  that take themselves too seriously.

So I went to a doctor. He asked me to bring my wife to the appointment.
After talking together he asked me to step outside.

He then asked my wife to remove her clothes, explaining that it might help him work out my ED problems.
She removed her clothes as he walked around her, checked her out.

He then told her to put her clothes back on and came out to talk to me.

He said, " You don't have ED, she doesn't get me hard either."

Stupid? Sometimes there is more truth in jokes than in other answers.

You don't give your age, but after you are married for several decades as some of us have been, sex is no longer an important part of the marriage. Love, loyalty and companionship are the motivations. The hobby actually helps me (and I sure many others) stay in a sexless marriage. Simply a fact of life.  

BTW, according to your reviews, you have been in this life only a couple of years. You have been seeing between 4-6 women a month which is not unusual. When you have the time and the money, discovering the hobby is like a child on Christmas morning. So much pussy, so little time. No wife or partner can possibly compete with that much pussy from so many different women. If the wife is not sweating you for sex don't worry about it. If she is...... I don't know what to tell you

I think marriage just isn't realistic for most people. You get tired of each other, too familiar, the grass is always greener theories, etc.  

I had a beautiful wife for several years. Great girl, great sex, I just lost interest after a few years and wanted different girls here and there, just for a time or two. Just my DNA.  

Having steak when you want it is great, sometimes I want pbj, or lobster, or ground turkey...

If sex was out of the equation I could be with one woman forever. Buddies, pals, bffs. That's how it is with my friends that stayed married. They and their partners are into raising their kids and are content to lead their lives together without much of a physical relationship..marriage.

Seeing providers can be somewhat insidious because it starts to skew your perception of reality and relationships. I'm not surprised you like having sex with providers more than your wife. Why? Well it's simple, providers have a job to make you happy. When you look at the two interactions juxtaposed, it would be easy to decide which one you enjoy more.  

Interaction 1- a hot, young provider who probably works out at least an hour every day, has fake nails, extensions, facial fillers, plastic surgery, and designer clothes/lingerie. She's always made up and dressed sexy. She welcomes you in, you can tell her all about your problems because you are anonymous (so to speak). She's always happy and there's nothing else besides her pleasing you for the allotted time.

Interaction 2- your wife just worked a long day, she picked up the kids and made dinner, she helped them with their homework. Now it's 10:30 pm and she's tired. She's wearing a t-shirt and yoga pants, no makeup, hair up. She tells you be quick about it and don't forget about Timmy's t-ball game tomorrow, he'll be devastated if you aren't there.  

A marriage is hard work, it's not all fun and fantasy. You need to make time for each other, go on dates. Women often have to shoulder a lot of burden in the household, working fulltime, taking care of the kids, doing the majority of the housework. Studies have shown that men who help with housework get much more frequent sex so maybe give that a try. At the very least, talk about sex with her. So many couples become resentful about lack of sex but never actually talk about it.

Is your wife hot?

If she is,  I'd love to fuck her for you then, you can fuck all the ladies you want,  guilt free
Not trying to be a smartass.  I really will, if she's hot and bi!  
XOXO,  
TL

Whoa! I'm considering proposing to my woman. Based on this thread

I suppose I should rethink it, no?  

I mean, sure, I'm a typical guy who loves great sexy with beautiful women. The variety of this hobby is precisely what drew me in the first place. Aside from that though, I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic. My girlfriend is truly the love of my life, and I can't imagine being without her for the rest of my life. I very much want to be her husband. But based on the experiences discussed here and in other threads, I'm guessing it won't always be this way. If I hobbied even just once in a while, I'm sure my girlfriend would be devastated if she were to catch me.  

Confused. What to do?

getting hard with your wife.  (Sorry, could not resist.)

Actually I think what you are describing is likely fairly normal. You've been with your wife hundreds of times, but a hooker is new, exciting, and likely better in the sack.