HI LB:
Thank you for the advice and suggestion regarding BP and TER. I am brand new to TER,so I am still learning how to navigate the site. Still haven't figured out how to "find" the ladies
on TER yet; its' somewhat hit n miss for me, (laughing). I am enjoying reading the reviews
though, as I find these and the ladies profiles invaluable (sort of like a ladies resume or
"credit report". All very helpful (and informative). On BP, in my area, not a great deal there of interest either. I was put on BP by one of
my buddies about 7 months back. Stay well and thank you for the reply......!
Here in SC, when you reply to a BP posting to several providers via text
or email (to make initial contact), many times, they do not reply.
Being new at this, I am wondering if anyone has any ideas or solutions
they can pass on.
All help and thoughts appreciated.
Hi:
Thank you for the reply.
Normally, when the ladies on the BP include the "Reply" for a text or email message, I generally
use that option. (Hard to use the cell phone when the wife is within earshot!).
When texting or emailing, I simply acknowledge their BP posting, and give a very brief introduction of myself (first name, age, race, work status, city), and ask them if they are available or interested in meeting. I keep these very brief, as most of the ladies don't want to be bothered with lengthy texts.
Some have replied, but many do not.
Presumably, there are two or three reasons for this:
a. they are already heavily booked, or otherwise occupied, which is to be expected
sometimes, especially if they are popular or are highly reviewed ladies (and there are
many who are).
b. the have left the area, which is more likely. Most are in the local area for only
2 days or so, and they are not from my area, judging by their telephone area codes.
Most of these ladies are very transient; they move from city to city, and by the
time one finds them on the BP, they may have moved on. Happens.
c. they didn't like my email or text, or perhaps found it uninteresting.
d. I suspect my age may work against me with some women. I am 60. Not sure
what most of these ladies prefer in men's age, so this is still a learning experience
at this end.
I am always polite and respectful when emailing, as I view the ladies as people
who work for a living too. I am simply looking for female companionship with whom to
spend some quality time every now and then.
Thank you for the reply and your interest....
Means, No, they are not interested or not available.
or email (to make initial contact), many times, they do not reply.
Being new at this, I am wondering if anyone has any ideas or solutions
they can pass on.
All help and thoughts appreciated.
Sounds like you're unverified, have no references, and are not specifically saying you want to meet her on ___ date for ___hours. You come off as a "time waster" if you're not asking for an appointment. Ditto for asking questions that are answered in her ad. Lastly, asking any sexual questions is a sure way to get no responce.
or email (to make initial contact), many times, they do not reply.
Being new at this, I am wondering if anyone has any ideas or solutions
they can pass on.
All help and thoughts appreciated.
Like others said it may be in something your saying. I will not engange in conversation w someone who uses certain words or phrases. Unfortunately there seems to be a lot of people that don't understand that. Until your screened keep conversation very bland. Even after screening I don't like to say too much. If you come across as a time waster (asking questions that have been answered, chit chatty e mails w no real point) I probably wount get back to you, or I may answer once to see if the second contact is any better.
There are days I'm extremely busy, sometimes I flat out don't have time to get back to everyone. If you called or texted and a good bit of time has passed I wount get back to you unless you specifically told me I can anytime. I don't want to contact someone at a bad time. I will also get back to the people who appear more serious first (give me your screening info rite away, tell me exactly when you would like to meet)
or email (to make initial contact), many times, they do not reply.
Being new at this, I am wondering if anyone has any ideas or solutions
they can pass on.
All help and thoughts appreciated.
Group/Ladies and Responders:
Quick question.......
What does "screening" mean when making initial contact with one of the ladies?
I have heard this term a few times on this board now, but not sure what it means or how to
go about satisfying the screening requirement(s). I suspect it has to do with the lady's safety
and security, and I don't have a problem with that. I am glad they are careful. Remember that I
am new to this, so this is still a learning experience for me; all info is helpful and appreciated.
On one contact, a lady asked me for "references" but didn't tell me what she wanted in the
WAY of references. Does she want friends, or what? I am clueless, so any clarification helps.
On another contact wherein I received a reply from a lady, she asked for "references" in the
form of other ladies that I had met or been with. As I had not been with any (and still have not), she stopped further contact. So, what am I to do in the way of references that would reassure the
ladies that I am friendly, safe and harmless?
Yes they mean other established providers, meaning a lady that has a number of reviews on a reputable site. There are some that will not see you until you do have references. Others will use different means to verify you. I don't think people should have to sacrifice on their choice of lady just because they are new. I will see people wo references as long as they provide the required information.
Your best bet is probably to address your lack of references in your initial contact, say you'd like an appointment on this day, you have no references but you will provide whatever information she needs to verify you. That way she knows your serious and willing to be verifed.
Then get a date check or p411 account and start getting OK's from the providers you see. Once you get a few you should be able to see whoever you want just by giving them your account info.
I use bp as one of my advertising sources, but it's not my only one. I recently saw someone new to the hobby. I was his 3rd try, the first time it was a bait and switch, the second he got robbed. They were all girls on bp w little to no screening. If its too easy to get in there might be something wrong. Look for girls who advertise multiple places, or who have a website, and def check reviews.
Good luck! If your in the Charleston area feel free to look me up 
Quick question.......
What does "screening" mean when making initial contact with one of the ladies?
I have heard this term a few times on this board now, but not sure what it means or how to
go about satisfying the screening requirement(s). I suspect it has to do with the lady's safety
and security, and I don't have a problem with that. I am glad they are careful. Remember that I
am new to this, so this is still a learning experience for me; all info is helpful and appreciated.
On one contact, a lady asked me for "references" but didn't tell me what she wanted in the
WAY of references. Does she want friends, or what? I am clueless, so any clarification helps.
On another contact wherein I received a reply from a lady, she asked for "references" in the
form of other ladies that I had met or been with. As I had not been with any (and still have not), she stopped further contact. So, what am I to do in the way of references that would reassure the
ladies that I am friendly, safe and harmless?
What part of SC are you from? I was just in the Greenville area and would love to make your acquaintance and show you how it's really done!
Do you have a reference at all for verification purposes?
The ladies who are really cheap, or seem like a real bargain are working on volume and only really respond to the guys who happen to contact them at the moment they're available. If she doesn't have any web presence beyond BP (no website/P411/other) then she's probably a fly-by-night type or just dabbling in P4P, and very much a roll of the dice for you.
If you want a consistent experience and you're located out in the middle of nowhere, you'll just have to suck it up and research the best reviewed ladies at the nearest city.
Thanks for the reply and comments.
No, I was not/am not looking for the el cheapo $60.00 special. More to the point, I am looking
for someone "local' to my area that I can go back and see often, i.e. 2 or 3 times a month.
Money for payment is not an issue. I am not desperate. Just looking for a nsa gfe once in awhile.
I continue to look at the BPs for such. Here in my area, there is not a lot to choose from to start
with, as the pickings are rather slim.
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If you want a consistent experience and you're located out in the middle of nowhere, you'll just have to suck it up and research the best reviewed ladies at the nearest city.
My thoughts are simple. Very few ladies on BP are worth thinking about. If they are on TER and have their own websites then you can verify them through their website and more importantly their reviews on TER. If they are only on BP avoid in the same manner as you would stop short of walking into a maze of poison ivy.
or email (to make initial contact), many times, they do not reply.
Being new at this, I am wondering if anyone has any ideas or solutions
they can pass on.
All help and thoughts appreciated.
HI LB:
Thank you for the advice and suggestion regarding BP and TER. I am brand new to TER,
so I am still learning how to navigate the site. Still haven't figured out how to "find" the ladies
on TER yet; its' somewhat hit n miss for me, (laughing). I am enjoying reading the reviews
though, as I find these and the ladies profiles invaluable (sort of like a ladies resume or
"credit report". All very helpful (and informative).
On BP, in my area, not a great deal there of interest either. I was put on BP by one of
my buddies about 7 months back.
Stay well and thank you for the reply......!
It is just an easy way to say they are not interested.
Stay away from BP.
Learn how to utilize TER.
Stick with ladies who have TER reviews or at least a board presence.
Good idea. Thanks.
I just joined the TER a day or two ago, and am still "learning the ropes"
on how it works. Love it so far....
But I would not use it by itself.
From the very start I decided not to contact anyone from BP who did not have at least two reviews on TER from reviewers who themselves had a bit of experience, and thus seemed to be legitimate. This policy has worked well. Most women I've contacted have responded in a reasonable time, and all the ones I've made dates with have been legitimate.
In fact, some parts of the country BP is the only option. But always verify them somehow.
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I live in an area with few good options. I can drive an hour to Charlotte, 1.25hrs to Asheville or Greensboro... and that's what I do. I can get to Columbia or Greenville in 2 hours but have never made the trip. 2 hours is pushing it and I've never had a reason to drive that far, though I have occasionally window shopped SC BP.
Call her unless she specifically wants a text. If you call and no answer, send a text.
"Hello (her name), would like to see you for (amount of time). I'm (time) from (her general location) so could be there at (time). If you're available let me know your rate (if it's not listed)."
That is all that needs to be said initially. They will almost always get back to you within an hour, usually in a couple minutes.
Be aware most BP girls don't want to set appointments beyond the day and prefer you be ready to go (or have her come) when you contact her.
Finally, be aware BP is a mixture of girls you might want to see and might not and you can't always tell from the ads. If you are inclined to TOFTT it will be a mixed bag and you will likely have some less than enjoyable experiences for a variety of reasons.