There are two providers I've seen whose personalities just warm my heart. Both are beautiful, although I've seen providers who are more beautiful. If these two providers weren't so flaky, I'd see them almost exclusively.

Nobody wants a robotic provider...

...well maybe SOME do. But most of us are looking for some type of chemistry that extends past the physical

Several reasons for that, but probably the two biggest turn-offs for me are a "fake" personality and someone who doesn't enjoy her job and strive to get as much fun out of sessions as she can.  There's other characteristics I look for, such as intelligence, wit, kindness, sense of humor, imagination, and grace.  And not being full of herself despite all that, and beauty too.

It's really a pretty minor thing, and I doubt if many providers even give it much thought.

First, providers often attach alluring describers to their names. "Sultry," is popular, so is "Sensual," and "Sexy." That's fine, but in choosing the perfect name most providers pick something that will sound good or alliterate with the name or that they think will sell. Are they ever really trying to give an indication of how they're going to present themselves in the session?

And the ad might use the word "bubbly," but then when I get there she's not at all bubbly. Maybe when she sees me for the first time the cheerfulness just vanishes, but usually I think she just described herself wrong. Like maybe the "bubbly" one would be better described as sultry or vampish. And likewise the provider who describes herself as "sultry," might have come closer if she'd used the word "cheerful."

Okay, you're thinking what I call sensual or bubbly or exotic or whatever might not be what she calls any of those words, what most of her clients picture when they see that word in her ad.

Now the main reason why this irks me is that it seems the ONLY hint a client has as to what to expect in terms of her personality. "Down to earth" should not mean haughty; "Sultry" isn't the same as "fun-loving firecracker." And "kinky" is a word that generally isn't what I'm in the mood for, but who knows? Maybe she is not at all kinky (or, again, what I CALL kinky).

So is there any other clue in the ads or websites that suggest what sort of a personality she has?

Some words don't bother me at all. "Beautiful," "Sexy," descriptions like that are probably accurate considering the profession, and of course subjective.

Since such few words are used to telegraph their personality, I think they should be chosen to truly reflect who she is.

Lets even talk about "board personalities" There are some women who post here that I would love to see, just based on their board personas, and then there are others who I wouldn't see on a bet, no matter how hot they might be simply because they come across like a bitch, and not the good kind of bitch, on the board.

I am equally sure I am on some (perhaps many) DNS lists myself simply because of shit I have said on this very board and I am fine with that. Anyone who doesn't like GaGambler is not going to like the "real" me either.

I have also crossed potential providers off of my 'to do" list because they have been drama queens over getting a mediocre review, The review itself usually had very little to do with changing my mind about seeing them, but the over the top reaction to the slightest bit of criticism is very off putting to me.

I booked several dates because a ladies board posts was fun, even though her photos didn't quite do it for me and never once regretted it. The reverse has always turned out poorly. I always pass on providers whom I feel their personality and mine don't match. It just doesn't work out.

The most important personality trait for me is professionalism, followed closely by a good sense of humor and integrity

I've seen providers whose reviews describe wild, bouncing-off-the-wall performers. When I see them, they're very laid back. At first I was confused, but I came to believe that their demeanor is a reflection of mine. I'm low key and laid back, and I think they respond accordingly, even if they're not aware of it.

That's fine by me, as I'm long past the days of bouncing off the walls.

But it's her personality that really puts her over the top and keeps me coming back for more.  Her ease puts me at ease, unlike some of the providers who were so tense and cold that I actually lost my erection even though they were hot.  Personality is a key ingredient in spicy chemistry, so I always pay attention to posts on the board and the way you ladies word your ads.  It tells me who I'll click with and who I won't.

There is quite a gamut, and no two are exactly the same.  There are the perky,  bubbly types, the quiet and sultry, the spacey ones and the serious ones.  Then there are the go-getters and the care-free.  The mature seen-it-all and the young oh-wow! types.

I love them all and enjoy the variety.

The only ones I ever met that put me off where the ones that constantly talk about themselves.  That's my department!  8o

But only if it's attached to a great ass.

She could be the hottest girl on the planet but if she's got a nasty attitude it won't get her far!!!

Since I see many ladies with no board presense, and many without websites, I can't generally tell their personality ahead of time, other than maybe what I can get from reading reviews. If I can get a sense of personality before a first booking, it definitely helps (and also like GaG and some others, a sense of personality based on forums posts, blogs, twitter, etc., have put ladies on my DNS list), but generally I'll book based on other things like looks, price, services and performance (based on reviews) unless it's a TOFTT.

Personality definitely comes into play during the first date though, and that's what makes me book a second, third, and beyond date.

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For sure, I can't estimate her personality from her ads nor from her web site.  These are too restricted, too stereotyped, and too often ghost-written (or templated), to be of much help.  

Reviews can give some help, but my fellow hobbits often fail to write their erotica in a way that shows off her personality.  

Forum posts can give some help, but few of the ladies in my neighborhood and price range post much.  

So yes, I have passed on possible providers based on reports that seemed to show unattractive personalities, and tried out a few based on reports of interesting unusual personalities, and mostly had to go in blind regarding personality.

After I have met a lady, my propensity to repeat depends greatly upon my impression of her personality!  

In my opinion, the "Attitude" score in reviews usually needs more supporting narrative

This is my 2nd time providing.  The first time  I was 34, and now I am 41.  The difference for me at this point is.

1. Hunger - I am sexually hungry with an appetite that I have never had in my life prior to this point.  The first time I called myself 'Amber Rae'.  Amber ended up in the hobby because of financial distress combined with burned out on stripping.  She quickly found herself burned out on sex as well and men in general about 6 months into it and quit shortly there after.    

Now, 'Chloe' is an entirely different story.  She enjoys the hobby as much as her partner.  

2. Chemistry - A very important ingredient to and excellent receipe.  I don't have the chemistry with every single client that I would like.  Now, when meeting a client  for the first time I can usually tell within the first 10-15 minutes if we are going to have an AMAZING time.  In fact, when time has come and gone for the session to end, I end up telling my partner to "forget the clock" unless he is pressed for time.  I enjoy our time together so much that  we have an arrangement that allows him to have 6-8 sessions a month and in return I'm on a monthly "allowance".  We both win.. I get pure passion that I'm hungry for and he gets away with just about anything he wants.  I refer to him as my "part-time boyfriend"

3. Partner's age - This time around, I won't see anyone in their 20's or early 30's.  We just don't have anything in common.  There isn't any chemistry for me and I don't entertain their 4 loads in 30 minutes.  I think this was a big part of Amber's problem.  

To say the least, all my sessions are good quality and time spent well.  Of course I see the clients again that I didn't have the chemistry with (as I spoke about in paragraph 2) in the beginning and with each session it gets better and better.  

My point in all of this is this: A good majority of providers are providing due to financial distress.  When reading reviews and trying to make a hobby decision on who to schedule with, you probably aren't going to be able to tell who is in a financial bind all you can do is pay attention to their board posts.   While the percentage of providers who actually enjoy what they do, you can certainly tell by reviews and their online attitude.  You may not see the clues to the first part but you will most certainly see the difference in the latter.  

Having said all this, I will end my little HOOKER food for thought now...  Happy Hobbying to all!

-- Modified on 9/28/2016 6:40:06 PM

Personality/connection is very much the most important thing,

and it's what gets a repeat, absolutely.

I don't want to get into what type of personality or character traits because it would take me too long and nobody would read it.  

Besides, hobbyists aren't going to change what they're looking for based on what I am, nor will providers change their personalities. But, yeah, personality is pretty important.