I feel like I am typically more rough in bed. I pull hair, spank, and generally man-handle my partner. I always start very light and gradually intensify to feel out my partner's boundaries.
However, with my current GF, she keeps telling me "I'm not going to break if you squeeze/spank/pound me harder." I'm trying to figure out how to accommodate her because I'm being pushed to intensity levels that would possibly injure if someone did the same to me!
I don't think she--nor I--wants full on bdsm (blindfolds, sex toys, whips, etc.); she just wants it really rough. When I try to research this matter online, I just get a bunch of superficial articles with a few bullet points. I'd really like to hear examples and other perspectives from women on this board about what specifically they like in terms of rough sex.
Very interesting my current FWB is exactly the same .. Now mind you she is not what anyone would ever describe as a spinner she is a former D1 volley ball player so she is tall and muscular but that being said she can't get it rough enough ... Think massive red marks on her behind even thru the volleyball booty cutters every guy loves lol. I am not the most endowed guy on the planet but I do ok and let me tell you after she gets hers she literally begs me to pound her in every position imaginable and I know I'm hurting her as she yelps all the way but that doesn't stop her from begging for it harder. ... Some women just like it rough I guess
I know it seems like you might break her, but women can take a lot and there's no better judge of that than her. I would slowly increase what you're comfortable with overtime and see for yourself that it won't hurt her.
Hair pulling, spanking, grabbing her hips and pounding her, these are things a lot of women like because it's primal and passionate and then can let go and feel your masculine strength wash over them. It's very erotic. Go at your own pace with her guidance. Maybe have a safe word. Figure out how you can enjoy this too!
...while pushing her bun out of the oven.
But it all depends on your partner. It sounds like she's pretty vocal about letting you know that you can be rougher so that's good. As far as this industry goes though you could definitely rub a lady the wrong way with being too rough especially if she doesn't specify she offers that type of date. I've heard it many times that a client was too dominant. That does NOT sit well with many people. I'm sexually submissive and offer a package for that but i tend to run into the problem of guys seeing that i offer that and then trying to book a regular gfe session then being super rough which i have to let them know this is not the session we are doing now and I even had a VERY aggressive boundary crosser who was being totally rough and just plain out of control. So even for me someone who is okay with getting tied up and getting my ass kicked lol I still run into people who rub me the wrong way with their aggressive nature If it's not communicated. As always communication is key!! Ask first always!
...is finding out she raised her rates!
They also call in "fin dom"
Once I found out what it meant, I couldn't run far enough in the opposite direction. lol
I guess these women have found out that it beats sharing their take with a divorce lawyer.
She is someone I had been seeing for years, and asked if I would slap her hard across the face while I rode her.
I didn't really want to do it as I'm a GFE kind of guy, but I also wanted to have her be acknowledged for who she is, so I did it. To my surprise (and consternation) I sort of enjoyed it as she began to orgasm as I slapped her.
Fortunately, she outgrew in in about a year, and now we just have nice steamy sex the way I always liked it
...and first and foremost listen to your own instincts. Women may have high tolerance for pain and may also get off on daring you and themselves to go farther and farther but if you feel that putting more muscle into it could cause real damage you still may want to restrain yourself. There were cases when women challenged men to get rougher with them and inadvertently ended up meeting their maker.
Be especially careful if her idea of getting rougher involves strangulation. Suffocation is only one way things could go wrong there. Neck is notoriously fragile part of one's body and could be easily broken. Both of you may not even realize that you're approaching the breakage point, especially if you're physically pretty strong. Google it, you'll see there's been plenty of cases of such things happening.
No matter how far you take it it's bound to get old and mundane after a while, so you'd be tempted to take it a step farther. Some people like to challenge themselves into taking it to the limit.
There's a movie I'd like to recommend. It's a old Spanish movie from the 80s, called Matador with young Antonio Banderas. Your GF I'm sure would also love it. Sure it describes a really extreme case but make no mistake things like that are out there, and it usually starts with getting rougher and rougher, challenging the borders, walking the edge, approaching the borderline.
My personal suggestion is if you feel yourself approaching unreasonable limits, you may want to diversify your experiences. Both atmosphere and situation-wise and, depending on how open-minded and confident in each other you are, maybe even partner-wise. Many women love to go at it with other men with their SO either participating or watching. I suspect if a woman likes it rough she may also appreciate that too. ...or may not. Most of the men don't like such things happening but I suspect most men don't take it to your level in regards to rough sex too.
Just saying
Posted By: swimmer301x
I feel like I am typically more rough in bed. I pull hair, spank, and generally man-handle my partner. I always start very light and gradually intensify to feel out my partner's boundaries.
However, with my current GF, she keeps telling me "I'm not going to break if you squeeze/spank/pound me harder." I'm trying to figure out how to accommodate her because I'm being pushed to intensity levels that would possibly injure if someone did the same to me!
I don't think she--nor I--wants full on bdsm (blindfolds, sex toys, whips, etc.); she just wants it really rough. When I try to research this matter online, I just get a bunch of superficial articles with a few bullet points. I'd really like to hear examples and other perspectives from women on this board about what specifically they like in terms of rough sex.
Posted By: swimmer301x
I feel like I am typically more rough in bed. I pull hair, spank, and generally man-handle my partner. I always start very light and gradually intensify to feel out my partner's boundaries.
However, with my current GF, she keeps telling me "I'm not going to break if you squeeze/spank/pound me harder." I'm trying to figure out how to accommodate her because I'm being pushed to intensity levels that would possibly injure if someone did the same to me!
I don't think she--nor I--wants full on bdsm (blindfolds, sex toys, whips, etc.); she just wants it really rough. When I try to research this matter online, I just get a bunch of superficial articles with a few bullet points. I'd really like to hear examples and other perspectives from women on this board about what specifically they like in terms of rough sex.
It's a kink, which is anything more than vanilla sex. Then, you have BDSM, which is a whole other ballgame, then you have fetishes too. So rough sex can be a part of BDSM or fetishes but one doesn't equal the other.
Personally, I like it a little rough sometimes, hair pulling, light spanking, a good pounding, a little face fucking. When you let the pheromones take over and just have at it, it's kind of like a workout, where it clears your mind. Rough sex does the same for me.
What I may be comfortable with in the confines of a long term relationship is totally different to what I'll be comfortable with in a booking with a new client. I don't mind a bit of rough and tumble in the sack with the right guy at the right time, nothing wrong with a bit of butt slapping and some light hair pulling with a client but I'm not going to be treated roughly by someone I barely know, nor will it be a turn on. I am more inclined towards soft, sensual, light touching, building towards a passionate crescendo
We're all different though.
Your lady might be testing her own boundaries which she is finding fun, as long as you are as well??
