I've been in the business now for a year and half. And ladies I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.
How to be the best lover
best friend
best companion
best kisser
well and the lists go on.
Well I know that we like to form to what the men like, and so we act upon that, to please.
Do I hear "amen".
I know that I allow certain parts of my life to be express, but then some parts are not express. Here for a good time, not a long time !! I know, I know!
I sometimes wonder what men really want. I know for the services, but then what of the personality?
I know they want bubbly, fun, sexy, smart, and sensual.
Of course that's a given.
But what if your to sensual, or to fun, or to bubbly.
What makes a man repeat!
What if your to honest, about your life, I'm sure sometimes it scares them, maybe to personal for them.
Personally myself, I find to be more sensual, sexy , more than bubly and fun. Am I to serious?
Do I need a personality change?
I open the floor to all!!
Different men are going to like different things; just like some men like blondes and others like brunettes, some will like bubbly and some will like serious. Having said that, let me make this generalization:
One of the premises of this hobby --probably for historical reasons -- is that none of us is "ourself." You're "Atkin" and I'm "Turkana" and although those two "characters" may meet and experience the most intimate of times, the real people behind those characters never meet. The fact that it's fantasy makes it work, in large part. It allows "Turkana" to be whoever he wishes to be, and when he goes back to his humdrum life, the anonymity, the fantasy, gives him safety. Now, having said that, let me confuse the issue further:
I would say that almost all men, within that fantasy, want to have a sense of who the "real" provider is. They want to get through the mists of make-believe and feel they've made a real connection with a real human being that they can identify. That's why men put huge emphasis on a "GFE" -- i.e., an experience with a woman that looks, feels, acts like a girlfriend in the real world. That's why there's so much pride in the reviews when the man gets her to O -- he's gotten her to let down her defenses, her fantasy of being someone else. In short, he wants to have a "real" experience with a "fantasy" woman.
So what does all this contradictory palaver mean? It means that you should be yourself, but play safe. Don't try to "be" serious if you're not; don't try to "be" bubbly if you're not. what men are looking for is genuineness. But of course, not too much -- you have to keep up the fantasy, protect yourself and your other clients and walk a thin line. And don't give your heart away to a guy who doesn't exist!
Good luck!
I say chap,that was a superb critique.
I could not have said that better myself.
Cheerio!
Personality falls into the same category as services for me. Every provider is different. The providers I have seen encompass a full range of personalities (as well as services.) In fact, the two ladies I have seen most often are complete opposites in terms of personality.
What makes me repeat? If a provider makes me feel special, I repeat.
I originally commented on my health, the cause and effects from thyroid problem. A gentlemen commented that he thought is was inappropriate and then proceed to say that he would not see me, cause of my honesty.
I try to please, and yes I took his comment to heart. I cried, and wondered if I divulged too much info.
I want nothing more to be good at what I do.
Today I was reassured that I'm still loved, and reading the post it reassures me more.
Thank-You all!!
The Gentleman did not say your honesty was a problem- he only remarked that a discussion of your ailments was not sexy and would probably lead him to avoid scheduling on this trip to LA.
Criminy! Youre totally hot and from all accounts, highly skilled in the carnal arts! You'll do fine! People here have little to say that isn't totally positive about you!
We like to reserve medical discussions for the old guys like me! No one can complain about thehir aches and pains like an older Jewish man... It was a moment of youthful indiscretion for you to think you could compete!
Did I mention the Hot part? Let us all just focus on that...
Sully
Putting the crep in decrepit!
for the correction, sometimes I read things differently, dislexia, I quess. I wanted to be annon, guess not
anyho
time to just be me, just as I am.
Thanx
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betta than alka seltzer!
or geting laid
which reminds me...no more fried Calamari for me!
Wicked Agita
I gotta get a perspiration for some pyrotech.
Badabing!
Sorry, couldn't resist. Me bad.
Actually, if a lady is just herself, some of us will click with her and some of us won't. Some want looks over performance. I want performance over looks.
Personally, I like a lady who is fun and responsive. Who provides me with a good time in addition to a great sexual experience. If I don't feel like the woman is truly enjoying herself with me, then I can't have a great sexual experience with her.
We want it all. Not just great sex, but intimacy ,like the kind you have when you're in love with someone. We want you to pretend we are your one and only. A lot of guys and ladies too, will cringe at this...but you know it is true.
Trying to accomodate the client is a wonderful idea... but don't go overboard. Just like providers, not all clients are alike. I think the client's individual preferences differ more than providers sometime realize.
If you can't take the time (or are not willing) to find out what each specific client is looking for and adapt to his specific desires, then don't fret it, just be you and let them accept you for you. With discussion boards, review boards, and backchanneling, clients who are looking for your specific specialties will eventually find you and become repeat customers.
Personally, I look for a hot body, cart blanche service, and an enthusiastic attitude. As far as being a repeat customer? That's going to depend a lot on price. Because I'm a blue collar boy, I have to limit my appointments. I would like to see all the ladies all the time, but since I can't afford it, I favor making appointments with those I haven't yet seen over those I already have.
If your post is meant to find out how to best attain repeat customers then consider this. This is not a friendship, it's a business. Your a seller, I'm a customer. If you can't be at your best for an appointment... don't make one, for many clients aren't very tolerant when money is involved.
The ladies I've seen repeatedly were those I described above but who also provided that same enthusiastic service every time I saw them and that's why I returned. My first "bad" experience with a provider will always be my last one.
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