Good Morning Beauties and Gents...
I have a few regulars that don't know what they like or want to explore. Every time I see
them I kinda feel like the session isn't "wowing" enough to them and I feel like they want more
out of the session, but they never say that they do even when I ask I am met with "I don't know,
I like things how they are".
I don't like things to get dry and mundane, that's not what I do this for, lol.
My goal is for the client to experience things that he hasn't before. Things he's not
getting at home. But I also don't want to overstep the boundaries and make anyone
uncomfortable.
How can I introduce new things if they have no idea what it is they wish to try
And see what the guys pick up on as their "favorite" activities in what or how things were done. Figure out what you don't do, and do it!
One activity that a lot of guys like is edging. Try it with a regular and see if he likes it. If not, he'll tell you. Just let him know you are trying something new before you start. Just a suggestion
Good advice!
next visit just start doing what comes to mind, guide him along, giving him direction. You will sense if he he's not into it, but you will probably be surprised that he gladly goes along, becuz he has been too shy to try it on his own.
Well, in my case that's sex... BJs for sure. What I really like in a BJ is mixing in/out with a tongue exploration to see how much sensation & where... every guy is different & every gal, too.
Anything playful. kissing all over...
Different positions. A bit of explaining then try for fit. Not every combination works with every unique coupling... If we try & it's not a good fit, move on to something else. I used to have sequences that could be gone through without a total disconnect.
I had good success with a sissors position...
What about vibration along with that BJ
I have a few regulars that don't know what they like or want to explore. Every time I see
them I kinda feel like the session isn't "wowing" enough to them and I feel like they want more
out of the session, but they never say that they do even when I ask I am met with "I don't know,
I like things how they are".
I don't like things to get dry and mundane, that's not what I do this for, lol.
My goal is for the client to experience things that he hasn't before. Things he's not
getting at home. But I also don't want to overstep the boundaries and make anyone
uncomfortable.
How can I introduce new things if they have no idea what it is they wish to try?
Did that already Fancy... two of my favorites never ever tell me anything.
Just this devilish grin and a shy "I like it the way it is" along with compliments.
I am not complaining.. no no no. I just thought I saw a "longing" for something
naughtier or some shyt like that
pegging... that'll get him to open up. Literally and figuratively.
Don't providers read a guy's review to see what he says he likes
and dislikes... in business, doing research about your client's "business" is tantamount to closing the deal.
Customers shouldn't be considered unreasonable to expect you to do a little research on advance. Two caveats ... one, he has a history of reviews, and two, he's not a big mouth (like me?) who has no hesitation expressing himself.
Also, for first time clients ... AFTER THEY'RE SCREENED, some gals like to speak briefly with their client about likes and dislikes.
If not, refer back to line one. .. peg him!!
Never peg anyone without consent.
You must not have read the rest of my post.
Get a sense of humor dude... it helps
Just ask GaGambler. Do you know where I can by one by the way? I checked Walmart and they don't carry any
Too bad the moment has passed, I could have had fun with this. lol
You are getting better though, I have to admit. There was a time where you would have gone into an hour long lecture about the dangers of "pegging" without permission or some such shit.
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Isn't that her name ...lol 🤕
If I didn't do it, who would? You? I think not. Someone has to, as it isn't a party without a party pooper.
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This is one of those times. lol
to even consider shopping at Walmart.
Troubles me that they were out of stock.
Did you go before or after you got pegged?
That could certainly have an impact on what
you see as humorous ...lol
If he goes for it and likes it, offer the double with you and the mule! 
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In my defense, a good portion of my clients don't leave reviews.
Some of them are high profile etc etc, I am sure you are familiar.
Good advice except for the "pegging" part... what if that isn't up their alley?
It's a joke. Don't do "pegging" as for threesomes with a mule ...eh...eh... leave what happens in TJ in TJ
Now seriously speaking (make a note, ladies! ). Ask your clients what kind of porn do they prefer. There is always a clearly defined pattern in what we find more erotic or less erotic. Then try to re-enact their favorite porn with you as a leading actress. At that, if you're camera friendly that would make you 10 times more valuable to them then if you're not.
I'm doing it with my ATF tomorrow but I wish it wasn't my initiative but her who initially asked me those questions.
the heart of the message was a more helpful attempt to answer your question. Your point about many not posting reviews was a good one, as I review only occasionally.... it's nice to see a provider that cares about her client's enjoyment...
Some of them are high profile etc etc, I am sure you are familiar.
Good advice except for the "pegging" part... what if that isn't up their alley?
Just a suggestion. You can list a few things on your website you happen to be into or " like" that way when they reach out they know all about what to expect.
If you wanted to try new things simply tell them this " I like to explore and venture out a lot more than before, is there something you would consider a hard limit? I definitely do not mind if you share your fantasies with me this way I know more about you". That can be done before hand or during the time you share with your client.
Nothing against someone talking about a fantasy.. which is the faculty or activity of imagining things so you wouldn't be crossing a line. In this world most do not like talking about things before they meet but addressing the topic is still doable.
Another suggestion would be to advertise strongly what you would like to do by using pictures, for example let's take "pegging" say you took pictures of you in a strap on next to a client. Hobbyist who are attracted to that now have a visual so I'm sure they would know exactly what to expect and they wouldn't be surprised. Take bondage as another example. Imagine you with a client tied up, that picture would send a message so those clients would also know you offer that as well.
Either way you look at it some clients will be open to trying new things and others wouldn't but by " showing and telling" at least they can open there minds up a little bit.
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Ask them to bring their favorite porn along with them, and see if there's anything depicted that they want to try. Alternately, find some porn of your own, with various themes and fantasies, and share it with those clients to see if they get turned on by something.
Personally, it's the last thing I want in a session.
You may find this hard to believe as well, but many guys, myself included are rather "vanilla" where it comes to sex. I like/love sex and I've probably have as big an appetite for it as any guy you will ever meet. But I am hardly "kinky" I don't do role play, I don't need for her to dress up like a chicken, what I really like is the whole GFE type of session and that's all I need.
If a provider started playing porn for me I would politely ask her to "turn that crap off" and come to think of it, I have done exactly that a couple of times. I find porn rather distracting when having sex with a "real live woman" if the woman herself isn't enough to turn me on, I am with the wrong woman IMHO>
...her client what does he find erotic, and then maybe start throwing options: do like porn? if yes, what kind. If no... don't pursue but in the future don't be surprised if your client didn't answer that question truthfully and NEVER ever ever bring up the fact that you had already asked him about it beforehand.
In my opinion men are generally more conservative then women so they may feel uncomfortable answering such a question until they get to know you better.
Ask him if there is anything particular that he finds erotic. Again don't pursue if he doesn't want to go there and start with vanilla. If you're observant and you have well developed intuition before too long you should feel the direction your client prefers to go and then just see if you can take it one notch forward, exaggerate it a bit. Chances are he'd like the idea.
Just remember every time you do something it's a risk but if you do nothing the risk often would be exactly the same if not greater.
If they pull back 2nd time don't try to initiate anything anymore. As GaGa above said he just may only be interested in vanilla: time in time out.
...Or you might try a little ice play or perhaps flavors (koolaid mixed w/ corn syrup) different flavors for different locations on your body.
When I am seeing a provider it isn't to try new thing (other then new women) or expand my boundaries. There is very little I can't get at home. I am there to relax, to be pleased, and to please. In my paid dates I am reserved. I save exploring for home. If he is happy no need to push.
I've done a few of the milder ones like picking up a "stranger" at a restaurant bar, lots of flirting, sexy chatting, light touching, ect. These are easy to bring up to a reg an usually gets them going! 
I have one gent I just can't stay in character with. As soon as I see his face I'm too excited and happy, lol.
Steph xoxo
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...sprinkling a little of this. mrfisher swears by it.
VERY hot!~
Steph xoxo
Lots of areas to play with...places also- take it out of the bedroom, maybe?
a gal whom I thought was only GFE had her whips and such all laying around the room. I asked some questions and one thing lead to another and before you knew it, my back was all red.
So, leave some toys around, drop some hints. Don't worry, if they like you they'll appreciate what you are doing
As a hobbyist who mostly sees the beloved friends I have made over the years...just ask if you feel/want to spice things up, in whatever way you might want. You're an equal partner in this..your regulars probably will be open...
They may want to keep it simple. Be careful at over doing it, but try to look for signs, and always ask questions. Teaching a man it is ok to develop sexual communication skills over time can change his whole view on sex. And yours. It is ok to know you can't guess, and you can gently ask. Good luck.