I don't think you were wrong...A lot of people, myself included, have been in the same situation and haven't had the courage to do or say anything. But If I ever feel mislead ever again then I would be honest and tell the provider what I thought. I would aplogize, of course, but If I wasn't happy then I wouldn't stay because I know it wouldn't work.
Guz
if you're not happy with the provider's appearance for whatever reason (misleading pics, etc..), do you think we have the right to change our mind?
I know this can be a little awkward and uncomfortable, but I recently scheduled an appointment with a provider with no reviews (stupid me). Her pics looked good but when She opened the door to her room, I was not happy with her at all. I think the pics were her, but maybe 5 years ago and she looked a lot thinner in the pics. I told her I left my wallet in my car by accident and I took off.
What would you do in this situation? Do you think I was wrong?
I don't think you were wrong...A lot of people, myself included, have been in the same situation and haven't had the courage to do or say anything. But If I ever feel mislead ever again then I would be honest and tell the provider what I thought. I would aplogize, of course, but If I wasn't happy then I wouldn't stay because I know it wouldn't work.
Guz
It's your money. You are buying a service. Would you rent a car that would not fit your needs. Your money is hard earned and this should be enjoyable for everyone. If you went through with it you would not be happy, she would have recieved a non-favorable review and shen she wouldn't be happy. She may be mad now but everyone is better off for it.
I'm guessing that perhaps there wasn't any recent reviews on this provider? Me being a provider, I guess it's harder to say what I would do in such a position, but thinking about it in business sense, if I was not happy with any product or service, I would speak up and say so.
Yeah, it's uncomfortable and I suppose one must worry that if you told her that you weren't going to pay, she may have had someone to send after you for your money. But I would write her an email and without attacking, let her know that you apologize for bailing out on her, however she should have a more honest representation of herself, otherwise she will keep setting herself up for these situations. I know plenty of providers out there that aren't exactly model looking and they get plenty of business, because they represent themselves honestly and there are plenty of reviews on their excellent skills and personalities.
Unfortunately there are a few rotten apples out there who don't represent themselves honestly and set up these appointments knowing that people are going to be pissed with them, but are probably hoping for at least $50 or so, hell, even $20, just as a I'm sorry for you and here is some cash for your time. I think of these ladies as scams cause they get money to go away basically and they don't even have to do anything. So I say, don't pay in those cases.
However if you went ahead with the service and decided that you didn't like it, then by all means you are obligated to pay cause unlike purchasing merchandise that you can just return to the store cause you don't like it, you are actually paying for entertainment, and like seeing a movie, if you didn't like the movie, at the end, you don't usually ask for a refund~
So email her, in case she is naive and doesn't understand why you bailed and perhaps she will reconsider putting up recent pics and write a fair review on her that her pics at this time does not represent her and perhaps if she updates her website have the review deleted. If she is a scammer, she will probably be mad at you, but I think it's fair that others are warned and don't have to be put in that same position~
Well, I agree, but I would have explained that sorry you look nothing like your pictures and thats what I was looking forward to. Thanks but I can't go through with the appointment.
I never had this happen in the Hobby, I have been noderately disappointed, but think it was more my expectations than misleading photos. In the private world I have met someone first time and OMG, I had to gracefully bow out because no way could I touch anyone that looked like that, nor could I be a jerk. I agree this is one hell of a lot of money. Pictures should be accurate. Descriptions and profiles should be too. Reviews when they apply are always subjective to that persons experience and their expectations.
what you did was right, you dont have to buy something you dont like, but next time be honest with her, tell her you are not happy with the way she looks and tell her to be honest with her picture. ( update her pic if it's no longer accurate )
O.K., I have to say yes and no.
You did good by not seeing her but you should have been honest and told her how you felt. Trust me, I'm sure she knew those pics were not a fair representation of her. It is so sad. Better luck next time.
A tough dilemna......on one hand...you were mislead....and on the other...How would you like some lady you go to see to do that to you?......LOL...
But being upfront about it is a little classier than just bolting.
Tell her she doesn't look anything like her pictures. Say thank you, and leave.
The very first time I did an outcall to my apartment that happened to me. I told her that wasn't her in the pictures and
she convinced me it was, even though she'd gained a LOT. She also told me she was damned good and I could pay her after.
She was and I did.
By all means CANCEL
Better for you and her
But if she COMES TO YOU, at least give her cab fare