I'm not the most experienced monger here by a long shot, but I've been at it awhile. When I started, I brought gifts of Godivia chocolates or sometimes clothing. That stopped when I found out that gifts were being recycled, either given to friends or, in the case of one semi-expensive dress, to Goodwill.  

I also tipped, but stopped when rates went from $375 to $500+.

I still bring a bottle of wine or champagne if I know the lady likes such things.

It's always appreciated when I receive a tip or gift

I love flowers and red wine but of course when I'm travelling every 3 or so days on a tour it's more portable to receive a tip,
and I like it when I'm given the tip as the gentleman leaves as it shows he really had an amazing time and wanted to show his appreciation rather than just adding it into the envelope as a matter of course at the beginning.
It's all good though!!

If it's a girl I see regularly I usually pay her normal rate...if I've been able to learn her birthday she gets a gift card, and I give gift cards at Christmas time to my regulars...

Special occasion dates I usually bring a gift off of her wish list, but I've been rethinking that since I had a box of tea candles thrown back to me because "I don't like raspberry!" after seeing citrus candles on her list...

Thoughtful, always. The transactional nature of our meetings means extravagant gifts make me uneasy. A tip is always appreciated, but not expected unless you've wrecked the hotel room, overstayed like mad, or left a handprint on my bum.

My favorite gifts:

A regular and I decided to bring each other copies of books that changed our lives. They were just cheap paperbacks, but far more personal and valuable than many other gifts.  

When I have travelled, every now and then a client brings something really useful, such as food to graze on throughout my workday (Starbucks has some great little lunch sets). Some of these guys know it's hard to leave the hotel between appointments to get food or order room service in the middle of work hours.  

The best gift is good behavior

Giving a gift is a vulnerable thing to do, so I most definitely appreciate when someone goes out of their way to give me something special, based on conversations or something I tweeted a while back.

Guys sometimes like to be a part of the opera, for example, one dude give a really nice cash gift to invest in my next photo shoot which I was talking about on twitter. (Unfortunately the photographer's tour was cancelled, so I am going to have to pounce at the opportunity next time.)

I tend to have ongoing "relationships" within P4P that actually grow, and we do discover more things together, and I'm not talking about acronyms. It just gets deeper and sweeter, and also more passionate. But there are sometimes a month or two where a man hasn't had the chance to see me, and in between, he will send a little gift card or something in appreciation for a couple sweet nothing emails, or "Twitter Arm Candy". (Keeping up on a public forum.) It's really fun, and I for sure like to tweet little memories back to keep that juice flowing for the next date. (Anonymous, but they know who they are. lol.)

There have been very large material gifts I received back in the day, where the guy would stop booking dates, only to turn into an online manager for about a year about that very expensive gift. One also got buyer's remorse. The expectations were way too over my head, and everything I said and did seemed to hurt one guy's feelings. I finally scheduled a "free" lunch, paid for my own food and drink, and returned the gift with a smile and a hug. Huge weight off my shoulders. But most who give don't even mention it again unless I do.

My favorite gift is one where the person is also not only a giver, but a receiver. Which means he can recognize my appreciation for him, for his business, and his extensions of generosity beyond what is requested. In my real life, I love to tip big, and I love to give. Lots of people enjoy brightening others' days for no reason, and some of those people do it through gift giving.  

Then there are the God Fathers, who love to pimp it out and buy really nice gifts for women, because they can beat their chest. But never say a peep about it afterwards. They just get off on it, and it's an ego boost for them. I think it's great (of course lol).

The only thing that is tricky about it, is sometimes people give really nice tips and gifts, and I really don't know 100% how to thank them enough. Over thanking can be annoying, so finding that sweet spot is important. Because people really should be recognized for it, for sure.

Everyone has their own way to give, and I personally would give a nice gift back, but most of the men I see are married lol. So like - what do I give them, but little surprises within our time together, or a few extra emails - or buying a new lingerie set or dress especially for them?

Funny - I did a little "Wear your Allen Edmonds, and I'll wear my Loubs" thing, and someone saw it and bought a pair to wear to our date. So he mentioned a "surprise" - I assumed that was what it was, so I brought my Loubs. lol! It was really cute. I loved that. lol

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I usually throw in an extra $100 or so as a tip.  Occasionally, I will get a gift.  I usually stick with something like the perfume she lists on her P411 profile or website.  I usually skip the flowers as too impractical and - at least to me - a bit of an overly romantic gesture in P4P.  I will occasionally do something like a bottle of wine or champagne, but only if I know for sure exactly what kind she likes.  All the girls I've seen have always been appreciative of anything extra in terms of tips or gifts - true to the phrase "always appreciated but never expected."  For the most part, I think the tip/gift they really appreciate the most is good hygiene, good behavior, respect, and repeat business.

on the situation. If it is an extended date, then a bottle of wine or champagne (if the lady drinks alcohol) would be appropriate. Safer to ask her her preferences ahead of time.  

If you have seen the provider previously, depending on the lady's interests, a small gift would be appropriate as well. If she reads, a nice book that you think she would enjoy, see her wish list on her website, or maybe a gift card to a store she has mentioned frequenting.

I am really moved when someone brings me a gift. I would say typically gentleman I see on a regular basis are much more likely to give a gift or offer one. They know what I like and my interests. I've had a variety of wonderful gifts, not just physical items either. I think some of my best gifts have been experiences. I got to introduce a gentleman to sushi for the first time at one of the best restaurants in Vegas. It was a blast! And another time I was brought cake and serenaded for my birthday.  

Cash tips are certainly appreciated when touring due to issues with luggage and portability but gifts are certainly more personal and sweet. I have gotten some weird gifts but when I stop and think about it, I realize that person was excited to pick it out and give it to me so I am touched by the gesture.

To my way of thinking, tips are a gratuity in service industries for something above and beyond what the service provider's employer is paying. When I go to a restaurant I nearly always tip the waitress 20%. Usually even more at the Barber Shop.

Unless she works for an agency I don't see how this applies to an independent escort. She's an independent business woman who sets her own rates according to what she perceives as fair market value and the laws of supply and demand. I have no problem if a client wants to give more but I would not want to see it get to the point where we are expected to add a certain percentage to a provider's posted rates

get as gifts I stopped. Can't compete with a new car. lol

as far as tips? fuck that. the French have it right. NO TIPS!

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Oh gosh what man or woman doesn't love an unexpected token of affection!   I think with regular clients as you get to know each other little fun gifts go both ways.  I've been known to give a client fun silly gifts or a really hard to find pricey bottle of wine that I know he will like, and we enjoy it together.  One new client had teased me about having freshly baked cookies based on a picture from my gallery on a call to say hello before our extended date.  So of course I did in fact have warm, fresh out of the oven chocolate chip cookies and some with m+m's baked in, some with nuts.   He had gone so above and beyond with screening with my assistant and I was so appreciative of how sweet he was about it all that I felt the gesture would be a great way to kick off our fun and express my thankfulness for his good nature.

Typically gifts to me are a bump in the donation envelope.  I prefer that over gift cards because it allows me the freedom to do what I'd like with the unexpected extra.  This is by far the most common gift.

The next and less common gifts are to one of the charities I have listed on  my site.   They are truly more important to me than any gifts and I give a great deal of my own time and funds to two of them that are near and dear to my heart.

And lastly and less often are the lovely little things I would not usually do for myself like spa day gift cards, unique jewelry or clothing/ quality bag or an experience together.  One client took me paragliding in Colorado, booyah!.  I do adore quality upscale things that hold their value, but I don't throw my money at "labels" just to have them.  I don't need to own designer things to define myself and I'd rather invest the money than have another “designer X” bag.  I do have several key pieces of amazing jewelry that were given to me by several long time clients that I travel with and see frequently.  I never would have purchased these for myself and I treasure the gifts.  I can tell you every detail about the moment they were given to me as the images are cemented in my memory forever.  The clients and the gifts are that special.  To show my appreciation,  I've been able to give them each unique experiential gifts that were desired and on their bucket list that they hadn't yet done. Going thru those one by one haha.  Gift giving goes both ways  

I always felt the fee for company was all inclusive and rarely tipped. But my style is to repeat and repeat and repeat. That's not cheap, no for me that's expensive.But the past 18 months have changed how I look at my guests. Perhaps it's the guest! I planned a very expensive date at driving a race car at a NASCAR track for the Spring '16, but the lady retired in November 2015. That babe dug speed and a rush.

Currently, my ATF and I have a date planned to celebrate my 21st birthday lol with private time, dinner at the best seafood restaurant in Boston followed by a Barbara Streisand concert. In the past, this is something I'd only reserved for a SO or my wife.RIP. But I didn't think twice about our arrangement.

I guess when I do tip, I tip big ..  lol
P.S. and I did enjoy surprising her.  

 
birthday this week

All of us love a sweet gesture!

Q. How do you want a gift presented to you?  
A. Any way s/he wishes to gift me! I've had them mailed and brought in person.  

Q. Would you rather have the cash, gift card, something generous and thoughtful?  
A. I want whatever s/he wishes to present to me. The fact that this person took an extra moment to think of me in his or her busy day really warms my heart. I'm always grateful for gifts I've received- cash, art, jewelry, fancy shoes, bags, clothing, perfume, power tools, lingerie, books, candles, gift cards, chocolate, tea, plants- I'm always touched.

Q. Lastly, Ladies what is the worst gift you ever received and best gift and or tip?  
A. I've never received a bad gift. I really love gifts that reflect that someone listened during a conversation, or read deeply into my website, blog, or twitter. One of my most treasured gifts is an extremely unique book that is about exactly something I am interested in studying. I was so impressed that my friend even knew such a book existed. I will never forget that friend.

What about you? Do you tip or gift? What inspires you to do so? What makes you decide against it?

Ok, since the thread is started... For then who tip, do you just add to the original envelope, or wait to see how the session goes, and then if you want to tip, bring out another envelope? Just pulling out cash afterward seems kinda awkward.... And Ladies, how do you like it handled?

But I can't help it. I really enjoy shopping and giving something special to the ladies I see.
What they do with it is entirely up to them. That's one reason , when possible I always include the gift receipt .

Some of us have to save our lunch money just to get a couple of dates a year. Some of us are 1%ers. As for me, I tip, and or gift those ladies who make me feel extra special. One lady I tip every time because of how special she made me feel when we met in 2010. Even though the parameters of our sessions have changed since then because of her personal integrity, she still gets tipped each and every time.  

A few years ago something happened that put this all into perspective. Because of the trust we'd built, an atf used to invite me into her home, instead of the proverbial hotel. Of course I absolutely adored her, but my gifts are always the small thoughtful kind, based on listening to what the ladies say. One day we got to talking about tips and gifts. She took me into a part of the house I'd never been, and rolled back a huge closet door. The whole closet was filled with full length mink coats she'd been gifted. She didn't know why, but certain gentlemen, instead of varying the gifts, had gifted her mink coat after mink coat. She said she had no use for them, but that there were so many it inadvertently became a collection. The grandeur of her gifts did not deter me. I continued with my small thoughtful ones until the day she retired.

According to U.S. News/Forbes etc. the best paying hourly gigs are in the medical profession i.e. Anesthesiologist, Obstetricians, Gynecologist, etc. at about $90 per hour. that goes for a median salary of $187,000 per year.  I'll just take the first provider that responded rates as a guideline.  At $600 per hour, that's around 6.5 times the rate of said medical professional.  6.5 X 187,000 = Roughly $1.2 million annual median.  

I'll preface this by saying that if you have it to give then by all means give it.  But for the rest of us who may not, I am one to think that the providers rate - whether it is $300/400/600/1,000 - is tip enough.  I will say this, if the provider is just overwhelmingly awesome, doesn't clock watch and shows genuine interest and perhaps throws in some OTC time then yes I would tip under those circumstances.  

Lingerie? Maybe, after we have met a few times and I feel it is genuine. But at the very least you have to consider that you are giving the provider a gift that someone else will be enjoying.

i have given, more than once, to more than one provider, tips, flowers, gift cards, jewelry, clothing, etc.

the vast majority of the times i have not gotten anything in return, and i mean not so much as an acknowledgement.  one gal just put the flowers aside on the counter and continued our session.

never got a thank you for a tip.  never got a thank you for a gift card.

9 times out of 10 when i buy an article of clothing, the woman "misplaces" it and i never see it on her again.

(may i point out the delightful hannah convington as the wonderful exception to this rule...she always brings back what i bought her the previous time and happily wears it for me).

i am not expecting any true emotion here, but i would like the "girl friend experience"... i know when i gave my real girl friends presents they were very thankful and showed their appreciation.  even a hug and kiss would be nice.

i have stopped giving gifts, tips, etc.  to me now the girls get their rate and that should be enough for them to perform for me.

The price is the price.  In a restaurant you tip a waiter because the bill is paid to the restaurant owner, the waiter/waiteress doesnt make much except for tips.  Same thing for landscapers, contractors, service personnel, etc. you tip the workers, not the owner of the company.  Since I primarily try to see independent ladies, they are the "owners" of their business, the fee for the service is going to them directly.  Ine of the reasons I am seeing them is their price point.  To pay more defeats that purpose.

All that being said, if I see a gal multiple times and she has impressed me to no end, I will bring along a bottle of champagne, or book a 2 hour romp rather than one.  Sometimes a few extra bucks have ended up in the envelope.  This is for the ones I particularly think go above and beyond for me.  As for gifts?  Cash works better I find