yes i had 2 session with my atf that i didn't came.  It's not her fault and it's not chemistry related, because when i saw my atf later date (week later) i came like a bucket.  Both time I had too much things going on in my mind and i guess wasn't focus, whatever the reason is, it's on me, not the provider nor the chemistry.

"special" reasons of course. Reasons like seeing five girls in a day, drinking a full bottle of tequila during the session, the list goes on and on.

I would never assume there is something wrong with you if the guy can't finish. Now if he can't get it up for you, now THAT is a completely different matter.

There are a lot of factors that can contribute...

In my case I went through several years of limited function and impotence due to several physical and medical factors...now that I have dealt with all that I have full erections but some loss of sensitivity and that can sometimes make finishing a touch and go proposition...I make sure the women I'm with are aware of that before beginning a date so they understand...

Many of the same issues that affect a woman'sability to cum can affect a man. Things like stress, being preoccupied, alcohol/drugs, fatigue, dehydration, blood suger issues, blood pressure issues, health in genral, and many other things can affect our ability to temporarily preform even if we still desire the woman we are with. It is a myth we are always on and ready to go. So no a man's falure to get there is not always a reflection on the lady he is with or his opinion on her.

In addition there can be special reasons as you said, yet aren't plain. I have issues that affect me down there that aren't plain. Sometimes I just do not work, and sometimes I do. You see when I fail to get there it usually not on the lady I am with. It is on me. I hate it when the ladies internalize it and blames themselves. It actually makes me feel real bad. It was one of the reasons I almost left this hobby.  

In short just don't over think  it. Guys have off days. If he don't call that is when the "spark" is gone.

I've had several sessions with amazing ladies where no cups were jad.  It's all me due to being a fat chef that's treated his body like an amusement park ride, and as I've gotten older condoms suck more and more.  I'm actually pretty cool with a giving/recieving oral/making out/getting a killer massage session!

Sorry to say, I think he may have checked out mentally.... he may have moved on.

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But my main point would be that there's a lot more to a meeting than just a pop. In a good session with a regular there's cuddlin', snugglin', kissin', chattin', schmoozin', canoodlin' ... and overall RELAXIN', too. It all adds up to make me feel good and happy.  

Now that I think about, I have "missed" a few times but with first-timers that just didn't click or worse. So there was no spark to begin with. The session wasn't lousy because she didn't finish the project but because it was just plain lousy and squeezin' some juice out of me would not have saved it.  

I know I'm a hypocritical liar, but there are times when all I want to do is lay there with her and relax and do nothing but hold her in my arms. (That's partially true!) But I'd just kick myself later if I didn't do a little more, so I do. Pop

Once I was just too worn out from a 100 hour work week plus travel, and my ATF tried her best but no go.  Funny thing was, she was tired that night also so she couldn't come either.  Maybe it was a sympathetic reaction.     Anyway, after a few hours rest we made up for it the next morning--the spark was definitely alive, and still is over 3 years later.

One reason she's my ATF is that she has the same attitude about this as I do... let's have as much fun as we can, and if we come, we come.  If not, we've still had a great time.  Eliminating right up front any frustration from not coming actually seems help us come, as neither of us feel any pressure to "get to the finish line."

If there are no health reasons and he doesn't cum, he should have spent his time elsewhere.  

I assume he didn't walk in the door and say hey, I just want to hang out.

you should be able to ignite it again.

I recommend a new setting, new scirpt, new wardrobe.

Variety is a good way to reignite things

In my case a provider became a regular precisely because she could hit all the right buttons while offering me pretty much all that I ever wanted in a menu.

If the spark is to be gone it would have been due to something different than sexual attraction or her performance. And I wouldn't even bother to schedule to see her in the first place. So the scenario you mentioned NEVER happened to me.

OTH I can imagine it's POSSIBLE with some other dudes if their sessions with their regular provider are of the plain vanilla (meaning "safe") variety. I know that earlier in my hobbying I started out "safe" but eventually got bored and jaded and took more and more so-called "risky pleasures" to get to where I am today.

My opinion is thus, if you're already offering the most GFE++ then it's probably not you if clients couldn't climax. It's probably him and his personal reasons/distraction.

OTH if you're a plain vanilla "boring sex" then it's possible the clients got jaded and bored from the routine

as much mental as physical. If his mind "isn't right" due to work or personal issues, it may be difficult for him to concentrate.

That being said, Mrfisher's spark post above is accurate as well.

First round is a given. Most of the time good for two. Sometimes it doesn't happen but I always have fun trying. Personally, I just enjoy the act of having sex. As a single man the intimacy can be just as enjoyable(that's a lie)as the sex. It does come close.

Almost never in a condom

I'm in my early 50s, and I can count on one hand the number of times I've ejaculated into a condom in my lifetime. There is just no sensation there for me. Oral, on the other hand, I just can't get enough of. If CIM is on the table I'm all in (ba dum bump!), and if it's not, then right up to the moment of truth is good enough with a HJ finish

That being said, one of the best, hottest dates I've ever had was with a woman who tried mightily to get me to cum inside of her. She had a blast trying, but it just wasn't going to happen. In fact, I never did finish that night, but I think it may have had something to do with the amount of booze consumed. We went way over time, and I still see her every chance I get. The sex is just out of this world.

Also, if I know nothing's going to happen, I'm sure to let the lady know rather quickly. It can't be too pleasant down there, sucking on a limp dick. I'd rather she be kissing my lips in that case.

believe me, i've lost more erections than brain cells, and i took lsd all thru college!  (don't worry, i passed with flying colors.  thank you folks, tip the waitresses and good night!)

srsly, tho, back in the day in the bay area when everyone was taking self help seminar, the old saying was "everyone is responsible for their own orgasm."  and it's still true today.

you can only help others achieve bliss.  many times there are reasons, some shallow, some deep, many not at all important, as to why ppl don't orgasm.  don't get up set over it.

the main thing is, did they (and you) have a good time

If a guy can come at all...  he can probably come with a HJ.  If things have progressed to that point...  the time is ending & even if it isn't exhaustion is looming...  I have an understanding with my Favs, to finish things anyway they can.  With new friends, I've been known to ask for a HJ finish... and never been refused.  I wouldn't suggest a gal quit too soon...  suggest she ask "Try something else?"  Maybe a different position or action.
   
I think it is the elephant in the room...  he probably knows if he's close & it's going to happen.  One gal told me point blank "I don't quit" which I am glad but if it's not hitting the right spot, nothing IS going to happen (at least for me).   I can finish, if that sweet spot is hit...  I need to finish...  How looses it's importance.

It could be something as simple and dumb as getting horny from the anticipation of seeing you, and he rubs one out.  Then he can't cum when he sees you.  This has happened to me a a couple times.  Don't be losing sleep over it.

I will always get one out.  The second round may or may not happen, if it doesnt (and not for lack of trying) its on me, not her.  Now if she is doing a disinterested/half hearted try or just can't be bothered to try, its on her and I won't see her again.  The repeat biz goes to those who are eager and willing to try at least!

in my opinion - just as providers have off days, I believe clients do as well even though they booked.  Sometimes it happens.  Give the client the benefit of the doubt.  Personally, it has not happened to me...but I do not take any chances meaning I do not masturbate before I see a provider.  I know of some hobbyists that do masturbate before seeing a provider in order to last longer.

I couldn't finish because I flat out ran out of breath.  The provider was not happy either...as I laid on my back, gasping for breath, she kept lifting my still hard cock and looking at me as if to say Well? WTF?
I apologized profusely, but I was done.