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I started out as a "safe" escort meaning no kissing, DATY, and only CBJ.
I transitioned to GFE, along the way have explored more and more into BDSM.
While discussing my real life sexual preferences last night - my date was some what surprised to discover what I am truly into ( or maybe more like what I am not into!!!!)
He is pretty vanilla but has one "extra" thing he really enjoys - but I am not sure it is anymore of a fetish lets say more than a guy that likes garter belts or corsets etc however when he first asked me last year, I had said no--- I don't think so--- but now I am VERY happy to share this private thing with him.
Is there anything fetish or sexually related that at one time you would have thought no way, but now either look forward to or if you indulge your partner do you see it as an obligation or chore?
If it is something you really do not like, would you rather your partner forsake it or enjoy it discretely elsewhere?
xo
But I now love and adore transsexuals. I don't know if the hobby really influenced me that way, but my curiosity started to stir around the same time that I started P4P.
I weighed untill night fall I wont get cough
I transitioned to GFE, along the way have explored more and more into BDSM.
While discussing my real life sexual preferences last night - my date was some what surprised to discover what I am truly into ( or maybe more like what I am not into!!!!)
He is pretty vanilla but has one "extra" thing he really enjoys - but I am not sure it is anymore of a fetish lets say more than a guy that likes garter belts or corsets etc however when he first asked me last year, I had said no--- I don't think so--- but now I am VERY happy to share this private thing with him.
Is there anything fetish or sexually related that at one time you would have thought no way, but now either look forward to or if you indulge your partner do you see it as an obligation or chore?
If it is something you really do not like, would you rather your partner forsake it or enjoy it discretely elsewhere?
xo
... is anything involving hitting or degrading the lady. Yes, even if she loves that kind of thing. It's just not how I'm wired. I'm ok with light stuff like wrist and/or ankle restraints, tease and denial, and blindfolds. I've even passed up opportunities to give my ATF birthday spankings. She wasn't deprived, though, more than enough other guys and also women glad to spank her lovely bottom.
Oh yes... also nothing bigger than a woman's finger up my arse!
i enjoy spanking my girls, lightly, no marks, no anger, no damage.
but i was taken aback once when a lady i was with said, as we made out on the sofa, she wanted me to choke her.
i didn't, i couldn't, i don't think i ever will.
If you press on the sides of the throat and not much if at all on the windpipe you still get a controlling effect.
but i was taken aback once when a lady i was with said, as we made out on the sofa, she wanted me to choke her.
i didn't, i couldn't, i don't think i ever will.
i'll try it
I don't think I'm playfully frivolous or unpredictable. 
I'm playful, though. Just not that kind of play.
And I'd have to say "no, thanks" on the choking too. No woman has asked me to do that. I can think of other things to do with a lady's neck.
When I first started hobbying, I would have told you that I did not like body art...tattoos. piercings, avant-garde hair styles and colorings, to name a few. This has largely changed...an early ATF was heavily inked, and often changed her hair coloring radically in keeping with her sideline professions as an avant-garde model and porn actress. Rather than being turned off by this, I came around to seeing these things as turn-ons, especially since she was more than willing to discuss her rationale as our friendship grew. My attitude evolved as a result...just a couple of weeks ago, at an M&G in NYC, the lady I met there that I would most likely see on a first time basis also was heavily inked, with a hairstyle that years ago would have automatically eliminated her from consideration. While these things are not key by any means, they now actually factor in as positives. Who would have thought?
As far as piercings go, I am neutral towards nipples and genitals, though I still find most facial ones to be distasteful and distracting. Conversely, I have grown colder over the years to things such as heals, garters, and other clothing worn in bed that the majority of men find to be a huge turn on. IMO, these are not only superfluous, but actually annoyances. Fortunately, these are easily removable, and I've yet to meet a lady who wouldn't shed them upon request.
Over 50% of the time, the gal will say yes, sometimes they are really into it, sometimes they will try it and see, sometimes they say no thanks, but at least now I know.
I can only recall one gal getting so upset when I suggested COF that she got up and walked out. It was no great loss, however. She, by the way, was into some really weird stuff anyways.
I'm talking about things like COF, water sports, sploshing, come in hair, snowballing, etc.
Tease and denial/BDSM.
Admittingly this is not something that I have ever been interested in. But I guess one becomes desensitized to things as their experience grows. I don't seek the wham bam thank you ma'am services that I use to. I am not into nor do I ever want to be pegged or flogged, nor do I want to be degraded. But the idea of a super-hot woman fully controlling the session, teasing me relentlessly, and making me wait until she is ready for me to cum has been on my mind lately.
I was with a civilian lady a long time. She Did NOT Want DATY. 1 thing I thought I would never do with a hobby date, but it is because of the hobby I have been able to explore this art of providing sexual pleasure. I am still learning but with the right provider I love to learn and explore.
I transitioned to GFE, along the way have explored more and more into BDSM.
While discussing my real life sexual preferences last night - my date was some what surprised to discover what I am truly into ( or maybe more like what I am not into!!!!)
He is pretty vanilla but has one "extra" thing he really enjoys - but I am not sure it is anymore of a fetish lets say more than a guy that likes garter belts or corsets etc however when he first asked me last year, I had said no--- I don't think so--- but now I am VERY happy to share this private thing with him.
Is there anything fetish or sexually related that at one time you would have thought no way, but now either look forward to or if you indulge your partner do you see it as an obligation or chore?
If it is something you really do not like, would you rather your partner forsake it or enjoy it discretely elsewhere?
xo
The things I won't do are too numerous to list
At one point in my life I never, ever desired to do Greek because it made me a little squeamish and nervous, frankly. I'm happy to say that I can now enjoy it very much with the right individual. It's amazing how tastes change over time!
FSBB, I'm usually down for whatever. Now, that doesn't always mean a first session, sometimes it's the 2nd, but there's very little in life that turns me off.
I find most of the trappings associated with BDSM too stagey for my tastes. The usual scripts and attire bore me. A person can look far more dominant or submissive in business attire, activewear, evening wear, nude, or nearly anything but the traditional leather and vinyl garb seen in the clubs, in my eyes. So, I never had much interest in the scene.
Yet, I do tend to lead a session and have always felt there was a primitive sensuality in some rough during sex. I had a client I knew well enough that he wouldn't freak out. One day, in intense CG I asked him to slap me (figuring offering to be the slapped rather than slapper first would be less alarming for him). He gave me the, "What are you up to, lady?" smile and gave a weak stage slap (as I suspected would happen). I rode him harder, slapped him (not hard, though) and demanded he really slap me. He did and I think it surprised him more than me. Lol. It was fun and we continued to do that occasionally.
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i too find the external trappings of bdsm too cartoony for my tastes. rubber suits? spikes? gimp masks? what is this, halloween?
i have only ventured very very slightly into bd, and only spanking & hair pulling for sm, but i much prefer a power exchange role play that could be in real life, where one person is actually at the mercy, either economically or socially, to the other (first thing that comes to mind is boss/secretary, or teacher/student). i truly enjoy these role plays, as it gives me a natural reason to be bossy, no pun inteded...to control the action.
and once i reversed it, with nurse patient...the nurse was completely in control, and tho there was no degrading or pain, i as the patient just lay back and took orders from my nurse. yummy!!
I was doing mish on a touring K-girl and she was sort of rhythmically pushing and pulling to get me to move faster. She punctuated that by slapping me on the ass. It just struck me (no pun intended) as funny. I think I would probably enjoy slapping some provider's ass. In a playful way. It's sort of a dominant move. Kind of sets a mood.
Slapping of bums is kinda funny. In the strip club, even with the hottest girls, I have to hold back laughter when they start smacking their own asses a bunch.
allow myself to be pegged, at least for the foreseeable future (next 60 years or so)
I never thought I would enjoy either one of these but I love this stuff!
XOXO,
TL
Yes, that it! I absolutely love consensual non consent!
No, please! No, Please! Stop, no!!! Of course a safe word is used
Nothing like a man taking charge of my pussy and ass! Even better if its 2 guys and another woman
Mmmmmm....
XOXO,
TL
When I first started hobbying I wasn't very comfortable with it. Even though I had my wife's blessing to see sex workers I couldn't bring myself to DFK them. It felt like cheating even though it wasn't really. Now I have moved passed that and really enjoy DFK them.
In my personal sex life between my wife and myself, BDSM is something I really enjoy. I am not in the leather and rubber crap nor the degradation. But I enjoy being both the top and the bottom. Luckily my wife is a switch.
