Thank you for posting the whole article! Such a nice thing to do! Now everyone can read the whole post and get out of what I did not, just like Sexy Carolina and silvertongue1. It was nice to see and read comments on what I missed that night! And to read other peoples opinion if they had not the whole article. You are such a gem! Thanks Panthera! Kelley
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Oftentimes I read about what we can do to increase our happiness.
Here are 6 things that may sabotage success, peace and joy: Kelley
1. Hold a grudge
Forgiveness is the key to freedom. As Marianne Williamson says, "Forgiveness is actually out of self-interest." When we hate, feel anger or resentment towards another, the intended impact, to hurt them, backfires on us. We harbour the anger and resentment within our own minds and bodies. Think, “how can I see this situation differently?”
2. Give up on our dreams
To me this is the saddest one. So often we bury our gifts, follow a "safe" path or simply do not give ourselves permission to pursue what it is that we really, really, really want. This results in regret later in life and dullness in the present moment. I heard once that the definition of hell is when the person you are meets the person you could have been. Wow is all I have to say to that. Our inner voice knows when we are not living our truth and this voice does not go away (although we try to tune it out).
3. Let distractions guide our day
When we live life as I like to say, “from the inbox out” we are often completely unaware of the happiness we could be experiencing from self-directing our lives. We need to allow some disconnect from the agenda that social media and email sets for our day – from our morning alarm clock through to bedtime instagram “liking”. Enough!
4. Settle for superficial friendships
Since moving to New York I really noticed this. When making new friends I realized that a lot of time people do not talk about things that really matter or make themselves vulnerable. Whenever I bring up my early divorce or modest upbringing, people tend to open up with me too, as we all secretly want to make a genuine connection with other people. People sometimes tell me, "Its so nice to talk about this stuff." We don't realize that connecting with others has nothing to do with our exotic vacations or successful career stories -- it is about making a soul connection that only arises from deeper conversations.
5. Compare!
Comparison is selective, exaggerated and unreal. We have no idea what is going on in other people's lives. We may envy their fortune but not know their child is struggling with bullying or that their marriage is falling apart. Instead we should be too busy envying our own good fortune (gratitude, my friends).
6. Hold back on the giving
At the end of it all, it is not about us! The greatest, most real and rewarding sense of happiness comes from helping others. I know a lawyer who teaches guitar on Sundays to children who cannot afford lessons. He says it is one of his greatest sources of happiness. To me, this is the most beautiful thing about the world -- that giving of ourselves creates the most joy. It’s unbeatable.
And don’t forget that little star of forgiveness. We can’t shine fully without it
Any comments. Positive, I hope. Kelley
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Here are 6 things that may sabotage success, peace and joy: Kelley
1. Hold a grudge
Forgiveness is the key to freedom. As Marianne Williamson says, "Forgiveness is actually out of self-interest." When we hate, feel anger or resentment towards another, the intended impact, to hurt them, backfires on us. We harbour the anger and resentment within our own minds and bodies. Think, “how can I see this situation differently?”
2. Give up on our dreams
To me this is the saddest one. So often we bury our gifts, follow a "safe" path or simply do not give ourselves permission to pursue what it is that we really, really, really want. This results in regret later in life and dullness in the present moment. I heard once that the definition of hell is when the person you are meets the person you could have been. Wow is all I have to say to that. Our inner voice knows when we are not living our truth and this voice does not go away (although we try to tune it out).
3. Let distractions guide our day
When we live life as I like to say, “from the inbox out” we are often completely unaware of the happiness we could be experiencing from self-directing our lives. We need to allow some disconnect from the agenda that social media and email sets for our day – from our morning alarm clock through to bedtime instagram “liking”. Enough!
4. Settle for superficial friendships
Since moving to New York I really noticed this. When making new friends I realized that a lot of time people do not talk about things that really matter or make themselves vulnerable. Whenever I bring up my early divorce or modest upbringing, people tend to open up with me too, as we all secretly want to make a genuine connection with other people. People sometimes tell me, "Its so nice to talk about this stuff." We don't realize that connecting with others has nothing to do with our exotic vacations or successful career stories -- it is about making a soul connection that only arises from deeper conversations.
5. Compare!
Comparison is selective, exaggerated and unreal. We have no idea what is going on in other people's lives. We may envy their fortune but not know their child is struggling with bullying or that their marriage is falling apart. Instead we should be too busy envying our own good fortune (gratitude, my friends).
6. Hold back on the giving
At the end of it all, it is not about us! The greatest, most real and rewarding sense of happiness comes from helping others. I know a lawyer who teaches guitar on Sundays to children who cannot afford lessons. He says it is one of his greatest sources of happiness. To me, this is the most beautiful thing about the world -- that giving of ourselves creates the most joy. It’s unbeatable.
And don’t forget that little star of forgiveness. We can’t shine fully without it
Any comments. Positive, I hope. Kelley
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I normally don't read the Huff Post and I think Susie is a total ding bat. Panthera
Nice point, and to add, give expecting nothing in return. Otherwise you will be disappointed.
Also, live for yourself, not for the opinions of others. If you live for others opinions, then who are you really living for?
Thank you for posting the whole article! Such a nice thing to do! Now everyone can read the whole post and get out of what I did not, just like Sexy Carolina and silvertongue1. It was nice to see and read comments on what I missed that night! And to read other peoples opinion if they had not the whole article. You are such a gem! Thanks Panthera! Kelley
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(e) means "end of message" so why are ya looking? No, I will not sign my name twice this time 
Panthera, now, now, lets be a sport. I do love your intelligence and I appreciate being corrected because I do not have all the answers and never will. You are amazing with what you know. Knowledge is Power and Freedom, yet sometimes you have pushed my buttons and I think you get off on that. Nuff said, Kelley
Please remove the "play" button from your nose, and I won't push it. Panthera.
PS: Hope you are feeling better
Gracious Senior..............Panthera
Merry, Merry holidays and all that stuff I do not celebrate due to the "Marketing Themes:
(A Holy "Man" said one time, "Do Not Make a Mockery Of My Father's House.) I respect that and it is a good excuse" To give all year round" and skip the so called "Holly Days..........that seems to make some people very, very depressed..........
I grew up with 2 Scorpio Brothers who loved to torture me.............And yes, they were both genius..........they scored 1200 on the ACT tests or maybe it was the SAT tests. I Scored 750 both times, once sober, and one hung over,,,,,,,,,,lol,. We are both different and it is good we can accept each other for just that. Being Different .Acceptance is the key, You think? Kelley