I haven't noticed second tier ladies going after the top ones either.
Ok so I'm back on TER boards after taking a hiatus and maybe I don't recollect, but there seems to be a Sisterhood amongst providers. I'm all for togetherness and finding ways to agree with one another (especially when talking about something as pleasurable as hobbying). I'm finding some providers on the boards to be a little FAKE on occasion.
I've read down the newbie board and even made a post myself in my city and am noticing that there does exist a sense of comradery amongst providers. Which is totally fine, but at times makes it really difficult to gauge responses from providers about various topics because they are afraid to disagree with one another. Maybe this is due to youth or unfamiliarity, but what's wrong with meaning what you say and sticking with that? If someone says something you don't agree with, then what's wrong with disagreeing in a respectable way? If you find you actually learned something opposite of what your original perception was, then what's wrong with saying "now that you say that, I kinda look at things differently now"?
I mean isn't this a part of evolution and ultimately making better experiences for everyone all around? Nuff with the cosigning already.
Some of you men think way too damn much about all of this. So much you never get to fuckin'.
I actually haven't noticed it. On the otherhand I don't put much weight into female opinion. It's all so tied to social standing that it more likely represents what they think they ought to say rather than what they actually believe. This is where aliases here can really free them from social constraints. But alas they still seldom shake off the lifelong shackles of social expectation.
I have lately taken to calling out guys on the form who only add snark and hostility and add nothing of value. They do seem to be a clique too -- I hate cliques.
hates cliques. You're the nerd that ends up with a wedgie. You don't understand why, but you should just look at some of your posts, like this one: "...I don't put much weight into female opinion." Are you a time traveler from the middle ages?
You have called me out in the past, so I'm trying to cut back at your suggestion by just being snarky, but not hostile. How am I doing
Well said! Snarky but not hostile is ok. You are correct that "not putting much weight into female opinion" is an arsehole attitude.
It of course is easy to say under an alias.
Again, proof of my " two kinds of men" theory.
Those who hate women but love sex. And those that loves women and love sex.
I applaud the women who have a sense of community. It happens very openly in some cities and makes playing with them a real pleasure when they are all on the same side. And sometimes, you can get them all together at once.
You have called me out in the past, so I'm trying to cut back at your suggestion by just being snarky, but not hostile. How am I doing?
two kinds of men. Great way to put it!
It really seems to fit on boards like this.
In certain matters (relationships, sexual marketplace) women have either been conditioned by society or inherently as part of their sexual strategy, to be circumspect in expressing their true feelings.
My advice would be to take what they say in these regards with a grain of salt.
to see why you're not getting laid by civvie women. Its our job to engage them and have a look under the hood to see what's real and what's not, but that takes a little "game" on the part of the man. It sounds like you want a total stranger to walk up to you and express her undying love before you're willing to cut her any slack at all. You make it sound like all women are schemers. That's just narrow-minded and misogynistic.
I don't have a problem with differences of opinion.
You have called me out in the past, so I'm trying to cut back at your suggestion by just being snarky, but not hostile. How am I doing?
you " . . .don't put much weight into female opinion." That's two different things, but nice try attempting to rehabilitate yourself. Lol
on this we agree
I've read down the newbie board and even made a post myself in my city and am noticing that there does exist a sense of comradery amongst providers. Which is totally fine, but at times makes it really difficult to gauge responses from providers about various topics because they are afraid to disagree with one another. Maybe this is due to youth or unfamiliarity, but what's wrong with meaning what you say and sticking with that? If someone says something you don't agree with, then what's wrong with disagreeing in a respectable way? If you find you actually learned something opposite of what your original perception was, then what's wrong with saying "now that you say that, I kinda look at things differently now"?
I mean isn't this a part of evolution and ultimately making better experiences for everyone all around? Nuff with the cosigning already.
You blew any credibility the moment you griped of our responses being "difficult to gauge", yet also claimed being able to know the true intentions and fears behind our posts in the same sentence. And here I thought selective telepathy was restricted to bad TV shows. Lol Of course, self-contradiction is the least of your concerns, Wittgenstein.;
Because he loves cat fights.
Just because they don't agree with you doesn't mean they all agree all the time.
Women are pitted against each other all the time, so your poor little feeling have been hurt because they all disagree with you, you poor sad sad little man.
Women cumming together is a good thing,
now where is that Martha.... Oh Rose...
Hell, they can bring their girl friends along, I'm always up for a party.
I do get annoyed at times by my bros though. They can be such pigs and clueless. But, they are my bros, so I try to cut them some slack.
I've seen many disagreements!
What I HAVE seen that might give you that Sisterhood impression is that providers are very likely to echo each other's ideas ("I do the same thing..." Or, "I feel the same way..."). Perhaps they do this more often then the male clients, and maybe it's a Mars/Venus thing. Also, both sexes use the boards for same-sex bonding, the males tend to bond over flaming someone, and the females more through complimenting each other.
But no, providers are not at all shy about disagreeing with each other or voicing their personal opinions.
I'm a smart man. Sure it's fun the have fun physically, but like if I take a provider outsider the bedroom she's gotta be more than just eye candy. Definitely attractive to know a woman can hold not only a normal conversation, but a conversation about controversial issues in a spirited fashion. I'm trying to consider that she has a mind of her own outside of popular belief. If they all group together,then where's the original thought.
Totally understand that you want visibility into the mind, characteristics and personality of ladies. My advice is look on twitter and read blogs. Especially if you are seeking a date that is longer and outside the room and want insight prior to introducing yourself. In my opinion, TER naturally limits this insight because its a melting-pot of personalities that tend to focus on hobby specific topics. Not much on controversial issues here unless its case specific (i.e. man posts about a disagreement or problem he has with a lady).
Also a has already been said, there are some things we simply all agree on. You are not going to get the level of variety on topics such as pre-booking, response time, etc as you would topics on controversial issues. Which seems to be Sisterhood when in reality its just common.
I don't think enough providers get that. Of course I enjoy the sex, but intimacy comes from how intriguing she is reallymore than anything else. You seem like the type Jordan. Most people I'm learning are poor at common social skills and use their computer screen to vent the sarcasm they cannot use in their everyday life. To say it in the most simplest way they are afraid to have their own point of view.
A woman that offers some intriguing conversation then follows it up with mind blowing sex is what takes the cake. I made a post where I thought a local provider was kinda getting that, but then she regressed back into that "cannot think beyond popular belief" type which turned me off pretty much instantly once I saw her real face.
I like to pick a provider off the boards this is true Jordan
But can you afford a smart woman is the question. No smart woman wants to be patronized. A smart woman will read through your fake compliments in a second.
Your approval doesn't bring in money. If you just stop sitting on these boards worrying about women's relations to one another and book a date already.
A woman that offers some intriguing conversation then follows it up with mind blowing sex is what takes the cake. I made a post where I thought a local provider was kinda getting that, but then she regressed back into that "cannot think beyond popular belief" type which turned me off pretty much instantly once I saw her real face.
I like to pick a provider off the boards this is true Jordan
DMC, I'm not sure how I'm giving the impression that I'm not actively hobbying. I can reply without being sensitive or having been offended. But yes, I am looking around for an ATF.
Here's where I disagree with you. I've been around long enough to know that reviews don't tell the full story. The twitter idea is worth checking into like Jordan suggests, I'm just not really hip to social media and I wanna make sure I'm discreet. It's really got nothing to do with monew, so I'm not sure how that became an issue. But it is my money and my time, certainly if I book a date with even one of the ladies on my board that objecthe and try to insult be there would be no issue with what's going on on the boards because she sees me as possible dividends. But to find an ATF that actually tunes out the crowd and can tune in to me is priceless. But if I were just hopping from one providers room to the next, then it would be very easy to operate just as you suggested.
If you limit yourself to finding ladies where only the "popular belief" allows her to be a part of the community, then that is what you're going to find. You've gotta have a good number of delegate votes here you know? Even if you gain the majority community vote, the delegates matter. Each post on sites like this translate to currency which makes it competitive and me personally - I don't have time for that.
The beauty of twitter is that its global and ladies often contribute to a variety of topics. And they don't feel like they have to walk on eggshells. On sites like twitter you will find ladies who have their own little following and aren't heavily involved with other women.
The beauty of a blog is that the lady can hop on and blog about anything she wants and it shows you what a lady independently has on her mind. Rather than it being a response tool. Its not as convenient for men as the boards, but it provides some great insight to women who blog.
That's one of my main reasons for hanging out in this forum. Whether the opinions of the "sisterhood" are in agreement or not is unimportant to me. The responses from the ladies help me get into their minds a little, which not only helps my relationships with providers, but also helps my relationships with women in civie life.
Oh, and Lopaw, please don't make assumptions. I'm not bros before hos. I'm hos before bros.
I hated that movie!
Feminist fiction just isn't my cup of tea.
There is a "Sisterhood of the travelling Pants II" now so someone likes it.