Hi All,
Being the curious sort there is something I've been wondering about and I finally thought I would ask. I know its none of my business. I'm only asking out of curiosity. But if you do care to share I would appreciate hearing your replies.
I've read reviews and forum posts where guys talk about having the woman lay on the bed with her head hanging off and then shoving their cock balls deep in a woman's throat and making her gag. I actually read that earlier day -- hence my question.
I've only been seeing escorts for a little less than a year and its usually some passionate kissing, mish and I tried anal once. I'm a giver so I'm usually trying to make it a good experience for her.
I'm wondering if I'm more the norm or if most of the guys are seeing you to do things their wives or girlfriends won't do? Are most guys gentle like me or do they tend to be rough or want to do things that are more out there?
One of the reasons that the escort industry thrives is that the ladies ARE willing to do things that average wives/girlfriends won't do. We all have fantasies on our bucket lists, and this world makes it a little easier to actually fulfill those fantasies.
Thank you everyone who shared your thoughts. I've learned a lot in the last year. Love getting to better know the wonderful ladies that are here too!
... and they see providers, then it's at least partly because providers will do things their GF/SO won't do. It could be something like you described. It could be something as simple as making love to the guy, or merely kissing him.
I've only done what you described with a couple of providers. In each case, they suggested it. Both love deep throating and they told me they can go deeper when their head is hanging off the side of the bed. As a lot of reviews say, "who am I to argue?"
My tendency is to be gentle with women. I know some providers who are into BDSM including hitting and degrading them. I've told them I'm not into that kind of stuff, and we find other things to do.
I think many guys are settling for less than they should in their civvie relationships. I've never done anything with a provider that I haven't done in the past with one or more SO's, and I've done EVERYTHING with various providers.
But there's some non-sexual aspects of SO relationships that aren't present in p4p relationships.
There's also the temporal aspect. I've done almost everything sexually with GFs or SOs that I've done with providers, at some time in my life. But there was a huge drop-off on the SO front many years ago.
an SO that is a retired provider. Best of both worlds, and many are open-minded about OUR need for variety from time to time, so you don't get the drama you would get with a strictly civvie girl.
But I'm the sweetheart type (HA! lol), so I don't generally attract people looking for rough play or a porn-type fantasy.
I've had people try to do what you described, and it's scary to me because - with the tummy or balls hanging over my nose and a cock in my mouth - I can't breathe. Sometimes, the guy has his hand on my shoulders for balance... meaning that I can't really move. Very uncomfortable and scary. But some ladies will accommodate such play. Whether or not they really enjoy it... I can't speak for them. I know a few who had a penchant for attracting abusive clients, and they did NOT like it at all... but they needed the money. Maybe there are others who do like it rougher. I can't be a witness.
As far as getting with me what they're not getting at home... well, I'd say about 25-50% are single or divorced. As for the rest, they're likely not getting the skill and enthusiasm a professional can offer. For instance, prolonged edging. Receiving an encouraging and passionate response from a woman. Massage. Cuddling, even. A lot of their partners are no longer willing to engage in ANY type of intimacy whatsoever, or do so with a lukewarm response... or are not willing to give a BJ, or whatever.
I'll engage in a little anal play, dirty talking, role playing. Maybe even light spanking or hair pulling (mostly, I just tolerate that). But that's the extent of it.
This business is alive and well because wives and girlfriends are not willing to do things that
They do not like to do or do not want to do.
There are different types of guys on the Gentle to Rough Scale.
You care about how the girl feels, her comfort, etc. and
on the other side of the scale is a guy who does not care what she is feeling.
I have run in to both in this business.
An experienced provider will know how to handle both - with Ease
you are more the norm than what you described you read in that review.However,I have done that a couple of times not my fav.Some of the guys are no longer intimate with their wives or do not have a significant other and are looking for an intimate experience.So I fill that void during our time together.I am sure there are guys who are looking for more of a PSE encounter than GFE.Being a member here you can find a provider to satisfy your desire for intimacy,quickie(if that is your thing),multi-hour dates,or more PSE.I don't like rough and I don't encounter rough guys but there are guys who have fetishes and providers who are willing to satisfy their desires.
With the first one, it was her idea. She did it with everyone who reviewed her. It was how she set herself apart.
Some providers specialize in some rougher/edgier things. Others are more about the GFE thing. When I am in the mood for Chinese, I go to a chinese restaurant. When I am in the mood for Steak - go to a steak house.
I have seen providers where you wouldn't even think about anything other than a straight GFE (and enjoyed it immensely) - and others where a good face fucking is just a friendly way to say hello - and enjoyed that too....
The really good thing about P4P is the variety out there. You might want to take a walk on the wilder side with another provider.... nothing prevents you from coming back later and doing the GFE thing with someone else. You can always start over!
As far as a norm is concerned - who knows? I don't think this forum reflects anything other than a VERY small minority of opinion whether from providers or clients
I represent myself as a GFE provider and not PSE. Because of that, I tend to have guys that looking extremely passionate, but non rough experience. I'd say maybe 10-15 percent of clients that I see, like rough stuff. And most of us prefer clients just like you
Not every gal can do that... and those that do, probably don't want to be choked / gagged... though it is certainly a risk with that. With that, there's certainly the chance it can go wrong very easily...
a woman for the first time. There are hard and fast rules that are best respected and then there's those time when the provider can
sense what you might like and opens herself up to you. You'll know when it happens as long as you're open to feeling it.
I don't ever remember intentionally coming on a gala face, but this year I have a gal pal that prefers to not CIM and swallow (she will) but loves for me to COHF.
Practice makes perfect ... keep you're eyes on the road and your hands up on the wheel... ride, baby ride. Enjoy the learning curve.
Remember that respecting a woman's boundaries is the best way for her to ease them. But NO means NO and the ladies appreciate the respect... except in role play lol
explore new sexual adventures, that is why I became a provider. I don't get to explore different crazy sexual adventures in my conservative real life or career.
That is why providing is so much fun for me!
Kisses
Frederica