Yes, I too have had a couple of bad dates and forced myself to write the review. Not so much as a revenge type of thing but to save others from having to deal with the same crap I dealt with. I hate conflict and will go out of my way to avoid it but there are some people that seem to thrive on drama and those folks are the ones that make me relive the bad times just long enough to write that bad review as a warning to others.
Fortunately the vast majority of my reviews have been a happy trip down mammary lane. Errr I meant memory lane.
So there I am reading reviews, looking for potential dates, when I come across a review for a girl I seen awhile back. Back then I was a noob and it didnt get posted as she was un-reviewed at the time. I went back to look at the review and realized I would really like to see her again. I continued reading and found another review that mentioned that writing the review sparked some memories of the date and got the reviewer going again. That got me thinking, has anyone else read an old review they posted or for the ladies, one about you that just fires up the old oven, and immediately has you picking up the phone? I know the many of us have repeat dates, but Im asking about looking at an old review and just going "oh that was hot, whats her number again?" Happened to me and shortly after I read a review that mentioned it, so was wondering if others have experienced it also?
I've written some reviews that have me saying, "I actually did that!" and yes, I have repeated with the really good ones. In fact, I had a repeat of one last night and it was even better. So for the most part, yes I do!
I wrote my only "bad" review just recently, which is a damn hard thing to do I've learned. I don't know if I want to read it again as it really screws up my day and there is NO WAY I'd repeat that date. I'm still kicking myself over the first time, which was my worst in the 5 years I've been in the hobby.
Yes, I too have had a couple of bad dates and forced myself to write the review. Not so much as a revenge type of thing but to save others from having to deal with the same crap I dealt with. I hate conflict and will go out of my way to avoid it but there are some people that seem to thrive on drama and those folks are the ones that make me relive the bad times just long enough to write that bad review as a warning to others.
Fortunately the vast majority of my reviews have been a happy trip down mammary lane. Errr I meant memory lane.
I always wait a day or two to write a review and reflect on what happened and why. When a date exceeds my expectations, I love to write glowing reviews. When a date goes poorly, I try to think back on how I behaved before I blame the lady. Often it's just that chemistry doesn't get both people turned on enough to make it pleasurable.
I do like to read past reviews I've submitted, especially if I'm about to see that provider again. It's gets me going for sure!
I'd be foolish if I thought that I could say something about writing a bad review and not posting a link to it. I've received a lot of PMs since posting this and most have been pretty supportive. Everything from hobbyist saying they had similar experiences, to providers who encouraged me to stay positive, and even one provider who told me to not become a "A**hole" because of the experience. Here is the review:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/showReview.asp?Review=1628586
A provider encouraged me to "inform the community" when I sought her out for advice. I had written a draft of the review immediately after the provider left so I didn't forget any of the facts. I emailed the agency manager to let him know that I was going to submit it to TER and I summarized the review to let him know just how bad the date was. I was extremely tempted to hit the delete key when the agency manager emailed his response to me. He said the agency took issues like this from clients very seriously. He also said that the provider had been suspended for a minimum of 4 weeks, her dates had all been "pulled", and she was removed from the agency website. I felt terrible and I sought out the advice of my favorite provider who lives a few states away.
I knew she could be objective, provide a provider's point of view, and she's wicked smart! To my surprise, she emailed me a synopsis of everything as she saw and put her thoughts into 4 main points with supporting facts. She called "Bullshit" on the agency's response calling it a "canned" email letter meant only to appease angry clients. She said the "removal" of the provider's ads and the agency page was nothing more than an attempt to block a negative review. TER usually won't post reviews unless the provider can be linked to an ad or web page.
She also pointed out one particularly disturbing line from the agency email that I turned over to TER for their attention. It was written in such a way that either I get punished, or the provider gets punished, for the negative review ... depending on your interpretation. My trusted advisor and I both thought punishment was clearly directed at me. That's two people that have both gone far, far beyond high school who both agreed that the message was clear. I actually missed it because it was buried on page 2. She spotted it and called my attention to it. Yes, she's smarter than me! It is against TER's rules to publish any excerpts from emails so please don't ask me to do that. I'll let TER deal with the issue and let them decide what to do about it.
Every point that my smart provider made was solid and logical. She wrote me that the community needs to know about this agency and their tactics. I agreed and after a quick edit of the review, I submitted it to TER for approval. TER rejected it because the provider could not be linked to an ad or website that named her. Big Surprise! I was starting to feel really stupid and defeated, but I decided to appeal to TER and I included the emails I had received from the agency as supporting documentation along with a logical appeal in which, I stated that the provider had other reviews published on TER. They listened to reason and approved the review.
Writing a bad review SUCKS! Especially when you know that you as the reviewer/writer is going to get crap for doing it. Everyone has an opinion and for some reason the people on TER feel compelled to share that opinion. I've heard some really asinine theories as to why I really wrote a such a negative review so I'll say why I "actually" did it ... To inform YOU the TER community of something that should never happen again ... but I'm sure it will! Only time will tell if this particular provider will be back at the agency anytime soon. The only thing I know is I won't be a client
I wrote my only "bad" review just recently, which is a damn hard thing to do I've learned. I don't know if I want to read it again as it really screws up my day and there is NO WAY I'd repeat that date. I'm still kicking myself over the first time, which was my worst in the 5 years I've been in the hobby.
Speaking of reviews... Since I am not a VIP member and the reviews that I have done happen to be UTR girls and do not have a TER yet, or have very few ad's out there.. they have been rejected..
I have recently found out that a few of my reviews from another board have actually made it to the juicy details here by a few other people and not myself.. LMAO...
You should report those to TER. It's people just trying to get free VIP by "gaming" the system. When you get down to "brass tacks" those guys are stealing from you, both your reviews and your "free" VIP status that you could have got from TER if you had submitted those reviews here. Make sure you include the link to your reviews to the other site when you contact TER to make it easy for them. Put your message in direct terms ... This is MY review and here is the link to prove it AND this is the link to the review that LITTLEDICK (or whatever his name is)posted on TER as his own. TER is getting tougher on reviews these days and I'd think they would take action.
The community needs to know about this kind of BS if it is ever going to stop. I know it it were my reviews that were being stolen - I'd be naming names and posting about it here, but that's just me. Feel free to PM me if you need any help.
~Drew
Thanks Drew.. I will have to find them again and get a hold of the person who sent them to me.