Respect her personal life. I doubt she would enjoy seeing a client when she...

...goes for a jog.
...checks her mail.
...has family or friends visit her at home.
...takes her kids (if she has any) to the playground.
...opens her apartment door.
...talks to the apartment manager.

Yes, it would be uncomfortable for her. Duh!  

Work lives and personal lives are kept separate for very good reasons. It is even more important in this business. Why do you think we use fake names?

I can't believe some people need this explained to them.

I'd book the appointment thru normal channels.

Act like you had no idea you had encountered one another-she probably impressed you more than you impressed her and most likely won't recognize you unless you make it a big deal !    

(In interest of full disclosure:  I am not a provider !!

I contacted a provider once, I mentioned that we knew each other before we met, she was ok with the situation,  she mentioned not to say anything to mutual friends, which, of course, I never would. Just a bit more info, we did enjoy ourselves and it was never uncomfortable for either one of us. I contacted her later, she was involved seriously with someone and wasn't in the business any longer. Eventually she ends up on FB, a friend of my wife. No one will ever know our secret.

(Pardon the choice of word.)

In any case, it is unnecessary as there are so many other gals to choose from.  It may work out but can also be fraught with danger.  In any case, I would avoid that situation, but then again I'm a cautious type.  If you are adventurous, then go for it

But don't get the boundaries fucked up. Happy O's to you whatever you choose to do.

I never been in this situation. This can go either direction when you think about it. She might be ok or she might not want to see you and feel uncomfortable.. definitely think on this long and hard before contacting her.   If I was in your shoes I wouldn't just from the risk factor alone being in the same apartment complex might just ruin things.

 
XOXO

I have a question for you, though.  If you had not recognized her, is she someone you would have wanted to see?

If not, then just leave it.  Don't mention this to her either in person or via her professional contact methods.

But if you would have wanted to see her anyway, and your real-life acquaintance is giving you pause......

I do NOT recommend talking to her in real life and casually feeling her out about it because you just don't know what her response may be.  It could totally freak her out.  She might assume you're trying for a freebie.  Anything.  

 
Email or PM her professional persona and make a remark that she looks a lot like one of your neighbors, who you always thought was hot.  That way, you're throwing the ball in her court.   If she doesn't respond, you have your answer.  

Oh, and if it were me? Well this has happened.  Multiple times.  Whether it's someone emailing Deb for an appointment, claiming he knows me from our HOA or a guy coming up to me at the block party, telling me he found my ad on TER: I deny, deny, deny!  Nope, that's not me.  No, you've got the wrong gal.  And so on, and so forth.    

Because I do NOT want anyone having any confirmation from me of who I am in both real-life and my provider-life.  

Too many pitfalls for me, once we start down that road.  ;-

i went to M&G and i met a guy there who i met a year earlier on a professional networking event in Boston...i was at the networking event with my sister and I was hitting on him, he was too shy but gave me his business card and i added him to Linkedin...i was excited to see him, but he reacted very weird...he was like oh i wanted to be with you since the minute i saw you blah blah and then he asked me to delete me from linkedin as soon as i get home because he wants to separate hobby from business...it was a bit offensive to me, because our paths already crossed in a real life...things happen you know...he also knows my real name and even has my sister on linkedin as well...and it is not like he is some governor, he is just one man operation IT consultant...i deleted him from LinkenIn but decided not to see him as a client....

i probably won't go to meets and greets any more  

Why not....

My neighbor who became & currently my all time ATF lived 4 houses away from my apt... Granted we never spoke before we met but he said he's seen me in the neighborhood..... It's been 3years & he's been the most loyalist client!!! Very confident for but outcall & incall......

nut job capital of the world. the rules are different here. she'd likely be suspicious of me and i of her. lol...

... do a study on the private life of a provider.  

If I were the guy in your shoes, I'd never ask for her services and never reveal that you know her secret. That would almost certainly make apartment life uncomfortable for you both.

Instead, why not gradually get to know her through something ELSE you two might have in common? Consider everyday matters involving apartment living, the neighborhood, the Town. How about activities such as wine appreciation, cooking out, bicycling, enjoying pets? Aren't ladies frequently in search of home-grown advice on maintaining their cars?  

Do not pursue her sexually. Simply become good neighbors, study her habits, and keep good notes.  

You could write a very interesting post! Or maybe a magazine article. Of course all names would be changed. As author and simply her neighbor, you would be admitting to no activity that might be considered outside the law.

Meantime, if you need to get laid, slip off to somewhere else

Some here have been somewhat successful navigating blurred lines, but they admit when they mention OTC relationships that they have a lot less to lose than most of us. I don't have a SO, so I could care less about that aspect, but to do anything which may draw unecessary attention or expose myself professionally might be unwise.

And that is just from mine/your perspective, now let's look at it from her perspective. She is basically living a double life, and to expose this secret part of her life may not be desirable for her.  

Could this work out great for the both of you? Perhaps, but what if it doesn't? Then you'll not have those precious few moments when you run into each other.

IMHO, you should leave sleeping dogs lie, there are so many providers out there to choose from, live this fantasy life as its meant to be lived, in short bursts, and be happy.

My $.02

I recognized a provider on the street from her ads/website.  I will usually pay her some kind of compliment to allow her the opportunity to chat me up, but will not let on that I know she is a provider.  That's for her to bring up if she thinks I might be customer material.