It's always a delicate subject but you'd think that common sense would play a huge factor here. I had a client yesterday who wanted to come in at 3:00 , after work. I asked him to please come showered. His response: I showered this morning. Does that count?
My mind was blown. Guys, it's nearly summer and here in NC the temp is in the upper 80's nearly 90 and SUPER humid. I had to tell him that it wasn't ok but I offered my shower so he could be nice and refreshed from the sticky summer-ish day. I never got a response.
On a previous date, I had another client who reeked of cheese, but I didn't say anything. When he wanted to book again I asked him if he would mind coming in showered before the date. He was very offended by this.
Honestly, I didn't know I had to ever say anything. Is there a way to be more delicate but assertive about this?
If I try to be discreet about it, the message doesn't seem to get across. If I'm upfront about it, it gets taken as offensive.
I dont think its a good idea to talk bad about clients on a board full of clients.You can lose business that way.Just an fyi
I don't think I'm talking bad about anyone; these are simply facts. I need a way to address this issue more delicately and need an outside opinion. I have to give some details to fully explain the situation so I'm not misconstrued. But, apparently, that'll happen anyway because this is the internet.
Anyone who does not wont to see you because of your original post -You probably do not want to see anyway.
Not a bad loss
That's absolutely absurd lol I actually put it in the body of my website somewhere (I forget) and I am pretty sure I wrote something about my personal love of a fresh package in my blog. You can too! Just do it and you will be much happier. Clean cocks get better hummers...FACT!
QUOTE WINNER!!! ...............
send all those smelly clients to mscurious, since she's so concerned about their feelings?
I agree with OldRanger on just what you'll lose by suggesting everyone be clean coming into the appointment. It's a bit like loaning the deadbeat the $20 so he starts avoiding you since you'll always be asking for it back.
Anyhow, not sure what type of service you're offering - or where you work so it might not really be an option --but why not just integrate a shower into the routine. I suspect some with think that's cheating on time and they're not getting what they paid for but that, like losing the hygiene challenged among us, might not be a real loss and you may get a different segment of the market calling.
Relax, curious one. She didn't name names.
That is seriously one of the dumbest things I have read here in quite some time.
I can just imagine some guy reading her posting and thinking to himself "well if that bitch is going to make me wash my stinking ass before she will see me, fuck that bitch, I am going to see some other skank" roflmfao.
I bet you she is going to be awake all night, worrying about all those stinky clients that aren't going to want to see her after this thread.
She's only made a few posts. But I think every one of them has been dumb. It's almost mathematically impossible for it to continue. You'd think she'd get one right just by sheer chance. But no.
Had a date yesterday and showered before a 1-hour car ride. Got to her room and jumped in the shower. It's called enlightened self-interest. Why would I risk being less than clean and getting less than her best service. Guys who get offended at being asked to "take a quick rinse" are horse's asses you don't want as clients.
There's no way to reach all of them. You can put a note on the Etiquette page of your site asking that they take a quick shower upon arrival. But to be sure you should simply greet them with a hug and warmly say, "Before we get started I need you to jump in the shower." Some guys worry that'll take 5 minutes off their time. So if you want, you can tell them not to worry about that. Or not. Up to you.
Telling the client you want to start things in the shower TOGETHER is a way to turn the hygiene issue into a sensual pleasure. Just get naked and lead him in.
You could require the donation to be left on the bathroom vanity "after showering and freshening up upon arrival". An easy thing to mention on your website.
I'm sure others will chime in with some other options.
I knew a massage girl that had this rule. No exceptions, so how could anyone take offense.
Tell new clients you're a clean freak.
For repeats, let them know showering before they arrive is ok.
Just be prepared with nice towels and men's products.
cheese, Munster or Limburger
I was trying to eat while reading this. I've lost my appetite LOL
I guess I just must have the flexibility and maybe just the good manners to always approach any time with a lady like the intimate date it's going to be. I'm kind of surprised that anyone would have to be told this.
This has been discussed before, so chances are the ones that don't get it just aren't going to. Jumping into the shower, even though I've just showered less than an hour ago is not the least bit of a problem for me... Why would it be for anyone???
I even appreciate the chance to hit the bathroom and empty the bladder before jumping into the action and always make certain to be squeaky clean afterwards... Let's be grown ups here everyone goes and keeping the playground clean is the right thing to do... Not to mention all around just healthier!
Finally, nothing strikes terror in the heart of providers or potential clients alike than reading that a visitor encountered an odor or environment that was well... Less than pleasant.
And GUYs keep this in mind, if nothing else, when you are hoping for a potential future reference, don't you at LEAST want the lady to be able to say "He arrived clean and without a scratchy five O'Clock shadow" ???
OK... Rant over... Go back about your business
why this is even an issue with these guys.
Wash that junk, and she'll be more apt to worship it. Easy peasy.
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i go so far as to rim my nails the night before, and, if it's been a while, trim the hairs down there so any oral fun she gives me is less unpleasant for her.
But sadly no, it is not. I too have added the mandatory shower in my etiquette page, and find a polite way to remind gentlemen of it, when they arrive.
I mean that is really asking a LOT to think a grown man would know to wash his own ass before having sex, what ever were you thinking? lol
Wash that booty too! Please!!
It's just common sense that before you get intimate with a provider you have to take a shower. Showering in the morning and seeing a provider in the afternoon or evening doesn't cut it. I shower right before seeing a provider. With one provider we shower together before we play. Most providers are freshly showered before they see you. You should be the same.
It's apparent you all got the memo.
I wish everyone understood this as well as all of you do.
XOX
Just kidding. I don't understand men who won't shower. I don't care if it's a civie date or a professional date, when going to spend any kind of quality time with a woman, a man must have quality aroma, or nothing good is going to happen.
It doesn't matter is you are still wet from the shower you took ten minutes prior to knocking on her door, if you are seeing a K-Girl you are going to be taking another one before getting down to business.
Asians were bathing loooooooooong before the people of Europe were doing it.
Back to the OP.....I think you should make it clear FRESHLY SHOWERED is a requirement.
In all honesty if I were you start the practice of washing up every guests that enters your door.Think about it,most men wear tight jeans these days.Most men sweat easily (esp if they have a lot of body hair,pibic hair especially bc when it gets hot down there to cool off the body produces sweat). Then let's not forget,some people's definition of washing up may not actually be all that sanitary.
So if I were you,I'd Greet a guest,kindly say ,"Hay as part of my method to stay sanitary,I require all guests to to a quick cleanse/refresher in the restroom prior to activities. You could even be sexy and simply step to the side and get a wash cloth and we him down seductively, he will not even release what it is your doing.
As a noob of the hobby, I thought hygiene was pretty much common sense to both parties....who wants to ride a smelly Fromunder cheese?
Unless they have a stinky, "sweaty" fetish, I say no bueno.
Lol you'll be surprised how many grown as men forget to wash..ten have the nerve to get upset when you ask them to wash
I shower just before I leave for an incall, and I still shower when I arrive. I want her to know that I am fresh, and I want to be fresh.
On an outcall, I shower just prior to her arrival time, and that is very evident to her because of fogged up mirrors when she goes to grab her envelope-freshen up, and I'm usually in just a robe at that point.
I would be too self conscious to have any fun if I were either one of the guys you describe.
I look at it this way, I want that pussy fresh when I go down, it's obvious that she would too.
they don't read TER. We are preaching to the choir here.
Start your sessions off with a shower and you will never have a reason to complain. I am not the type to complain when I can create a solution
tho i always shower immediately before i hop in the car to come see a lady, if she asks me to shower again once i get there, i have no problem doing that.
if a guy doesn't want to make himself presentable to you, no need to see him.
if he takes offense, that's on him, not you.
have you tried saying something like, "please shower before we begin, it's standard procedure for me, thank you."
thus deflecting the inference that it's he who smells bad, and you just ask all your suitors to shower.
if a guy doesn't want to make himself presentable to you, no need to see him.
if he takes offense, that's on him, not you.
have you tried saying something like, "please shower before we begin, it's standard procedure for me, thank you."
thus deflecting the inference that it's he who smells bad, and you just ask all your suitors to shower.
show them the door if they don't want to shower!!! thx ozzie!
Peter makes a great straight guy in the comedy act doesn't he? 
I was thinking the same thing --"Peter, if she does that isn't just defeating the point of the discussion?"
and ask them to freshen up as soon as they arrive. Most guys will take a quick one just to freshen up, some guys don't. For the guys that don't if they don't have an odor then no problem! But if they do have an odor I'm likely to stop and politely insist that thy excuse themselves and take a few moments in the bathroom.
No guy wants to have his experience ruined by a strong odored vagina...why should us women have endure the stench?
I recently saw a provider who I saw a few times last summer. Why I did I don't know lol. HER hygiene didn't seem to be the most fresh. Her hair seemed kind of greasy even though she said she showered while I was on my way. she was wearing sandals and a nice sun dress but bottoms of her feet were dirty, almost black. Usually...at least last summer, a good DATY session is always on the menu but NOT that night! Oh holy hell no! I almost gagged when I even got close.
Enough of that, though. IMHO I feel talking about or mentioning hygiene can be an awkward moment but BOTH parties should be aware of it.
And guys, remember what one of our lovely ladies always says.... "Make sure the boys are squeaky clean
IMHO I feel talking about or mentioning hygiene can be an awkward moment but BOTH parties should be aware of it.
And guys, remember what one of our lovely ladies always says.... "Make sure the boys are squeaky clean"
No gusta stinky cajones 😜
Everything else smells better.
RESPECT. As in respect for others. Anyone who doesn't take care of his or her hygiene before a date, especially when asked to correct it, doesn't have it.
These people are also likely unable to understand a gentle, kind correction. So be perfectly clear about your expectations. If they don't oblige without excuse or complaint, write them off. Do you want to be intimate with someone who has no respect for you as a person?
undressing him (and him you) and then showering together.
This would be a great solution if I hadn't just spent the past hour getting hair, makeup, and lingerie ready for our date. . .
LOL in theory, it's all easy peasy. Practice gets a bit more complicated
Fully dressed as the clock ticks away and tell him you'll be in the skimpy getup by the time he returns from freshening up.
Men are like dogs...they need positive training which requires rewarding them with a treat. Then they'll obey lol
Works every time lol xo
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Typically, I meet with providers in the early to mid evening, which allows me to shower, shave, and take care of basic hygiene in the hour or two before leaving for our rendezvous. This isn't rocket science...
That being said, he should have graciously used the shower you offered before your mid-afternoon sojourn, and brushed his teeth again even if he done so an hour before. I would do so with any lady I'm meeting with if so requested..common courtesy goes a long way in this game of ours...
But mostly it's a a pile of horse shit
I have a section about it on my website and I ask every potential client to please read thru my website before we commit. It's not a lot of heavy reading, just a few bullet points on a FAQ page. Rarely do I get a guy who smells bad. They usually shower right when I get there, or they are getting out of the shower as I arrive. I do outcall only and only one a day so I shower right before getting in the car to drive over. I won't shower early AM, run errands all day and then go see them all sweaty. It has to work both ways.
Fortunately, I haven't had any poor experiences....and as for myself, I always shower before and after a client. Always.