but feeling of belonging to the right person gives you natural high  
it is awesome, feels like a drug

when relationship ends the pain is terrible  

i guess, it depends on a person...i know guys who want fresh pussy every week, i call them serial hobbyists
they are guys who crave emotional connection, cuddling more than anything  

sex at the end of the day is pretty generic...they are only so many holes and positions

passed away eight years ago, and I was suddenly an eligible bachelor, I was deluged with civvie women wanting to tie me down, which was a giant turn-off.  A friend suggested I try this hobby lifestyle to tide me over until I was emotionally ready for another relationship.  Once I got into it, I decided this was not something to merely tide me over, but was an acceptable lifestyle that fit well with the rest of my professional and social life.  The benefits that I value the most are 1) sex is always on my schedule, when I want it, and not at all if I don't, 2) low-maintenance relationships with "regulars" that I can also date on the outside if I want to, but don't have to, 3) variety (within reason - I try not to be too much of a slut), 4) no commitment beyond the hour(s) I have booked, and 5) very little drama.  

Several relationships have sprung up along the way with women that are working girls.  When you have met each other this way initially, the benefits I ticked off above carry over into the RL relationship.  The only real difference is that you are no longer bringing an envelope when you see her and there is no clock when you are together.  The only tricky part is the variety, but I have found RL relationships with providers need to be "open-minded" on both sides, and so when they tour, all of them so far have been okay with me continuing my hobby while they are out of town.  

So to answer your question, I don't feel like I am missing out on anything since I can have as full, or as limited, a relationship I want with providers with whom I have a good connection

and then married to a former provider.

So, take your pick.

I think the hobby does interfere with civie dating, and that's most likely a good thing

And Hobbying allows me to not have a desire or need for a traditional relationship.  

To be perfectly honest, I suck at being a BF or a husband. I don't and haven't ever cheated on a woman, so not that kind of suck at BF or Husband. I simply have no patience for the bullshit, nor do I care to impose my bullshit on others. This life, is just the good parts, and then it's...bye, bye.

All adult humans have an agenda, I appreciate the absolute honesty of provider's agenda. It's so much better and easier to be with someone when it's crystal clear what their motivations are.  

And besides that, I'm not attracted to women whom I could attract.

I was married for 20 years & divorced 2x. Marriage is a full time job...I suppose that makes me lazy because I just don't have time for it. I was a young mother, so once the kids got grown & I turned 40 I decided I was going to fuck off & fuck around. I've always been very independent, I enjoy living alone and doing what I want, when I want to do it.  So this hobby was a good fit for me. I have always seen this as a life style choice vs a profession.

Dating in the real world is time consuming, some people got so much baggage a couple of flat beds could not haul it away. If I do date a gent in the civie world, I usually tell him I'm married ( separated) or hubby works out of the country. It keeps things simple & fun with minimal questions

The hobby has made me feel less pressured to be in a relationship. The whole emotional aspects of a "traditional" relationship cannot be substituted for in any way, but the physical aspects can be a major killer in a relationship, especially if the woman wants sex only once a week, lays in the missionary position, and is not interested in trying something new. That is why you try the milk before you buy a cow or at least try to milk the cow. Plus there is the whole hassle of dating when you are single. It is called a game for a reason, and the game always feels rigged. After my first time with a service provider, I felt both great and like a total sucker. Great that I had an incredible sexual experience with a beautiful woman, and like a sucker for having spent copious amounts of money on dating for just a kiss on the cheek good night, when I could have saved some of the money for escorts. The older I get, the less time I have to waste on possibles, and maybes, and empty promises. Plus the pool of datable women grows shallow.

During the first 20-25 years of my hobbying career, I was married. I think the hobby made sex constantly fresh with my wife. Always trying new things I had learned. Interesting - on the day I got married, my father said to my wife "Give him a long leash."  

After my wife died, the last ten years of my hobbying career has been a nice complement to civilian relationships. I am lucky enough to have a lady friend who is interested in my hobby exploits.

I guess if you hobby in moderation, all is good.

Single.  

I have no real desire to get married. I'm not religious, don't want kids so what's the point? (If the woman I was with wanted marriage, I'd probably do it just to keep her but I doubt it will be me idea). I don't date a lot but I feel like emotional companionship is satisfied by my friends

Or even after a few years, it's your own fault for not trying hard enough to spice things up.

Some men are simply not built for monogamy, I suppose.