I do understand that silence means 'no'. But haven't we all suffered technical issues with e-mail? I like getting a real reply. She could say, "Sorry, I don't think I'm the right person for you. Please resume your search elsewhere." At least I wouldn't be left thinking there are problems with my ISP.
My other complaint had to do with getting a reply where she shows interest but omits answering a specific question. I say 'specific question' not 'stupid question'. Consider this hypothetical example: It's a chilly week in winter and I ask, "Might you wear leather boots?" Her reply says okay to time and place but the 'boots' issue is left hanging. No biggies. Just fodder for the OP.1.Mine is counting the money before the session.
2.Paper still hanging out of her ass !
Gain a hundred pounds/age twenty years.
I honestly don't know which is worse, but either will have me heading immediately for the exits.
misrepresentation of profile stats in their advertisements is the number one turn-off for me.
ad/profile say thin, athletic or slim but in reality she's not. One of these days I'll stop reacting like a deer in the headlights and just leave before the bus hits me.
Never had it happen yet, but nipple piercings are a big turn off. Unadvertised jewelry on the nips or hanging from her face could kill it too.
Being habitually late blows, but I get over it once the session starts and she delivers
I'm not saying that this is you, but most of the men I have seen are surprised when they see my nipples are pierced. The piercings are in my photos and on all of my advertising etc. Fortunately, for all of the men I have seen, this has been a pleasant surprise. I just wonder how often thing are glossed over, even when they are disclosed. Short of having it in bold letters at the beginning of my home page, I'm not sure how much more upfront I can be. Maybe it's only something that you look for if it bothers you?
1) Refusing to introduce yourself and/or make conversation. Then coming out of the bathroom, dropping drawers, and saying, 'Let's see what you can do! Surprise me!!' Or some variant.
2) Any type of funky smell
3) The tongue in the ear (not earlobe, in the actual ear canal). Gives me the chills and NOT in a good way
NOT Newbie-friendly?
Actually, most newbies have behaved exactly opposite to what I've described. They'd never feel comfortable just dropping drawers w/little or no formalities. They needed space, time, and conversation/flirtation in order to feel comfortable with a new person and an unusual situation.
Sex newbies... well, I've seen a virgin, and a few younger (early 20s) guys. YMMV. It really depends on the person. Some young kids are all ego. Some are totally sweet, and welcome guidance. I've really enjoyed my time with the latter type.
So in sum, I guess I'm newbie-friendly. BUT I don't tolerate disrespect, stupidity, cluelessness, or ignorance. And I don't want to be with any man who views me solely as an object, or a pay-as-you-go sex machine.
1. Being overly theatrical during a threesome and embarrassing me.
2. Smelling so heavily of butts or pot that my eyes water
3. She's obviously not really bi
2.Paper still hanging out of her ass !
a kind of insight we don't often see here. Nice!
That has only happened once, about a month ago and I hope it never happens again.
Upsell during a session.
Chewing gum during a session.
Lack of any real attempt at communication before a rendezvous. Very short replies, chilly attitude, extensive use of "texting lingo". I don't want a Penpal but I am expecting the provider to at least write in complete sentences and be somewhat friendly prior to our meeting.
Calling me "babe" or "hun" before we've ever met. Even then, it's just wrong. "Handsome", please and thank you.
Negativity in online presence (Twitter, Instagram, TER boards, etc.)
Your pre-session turnoffs are much the same as mine, even though I'm a provider.
Gum chewing drives me crazy. I'm forever indebted to a high school teacher who had an anecdote related to chewing gum. Basically, she was walking down the street and happened to catch her reflection in a window... she said to herself, 'Who is that girl chewing like a cow??' Before she realized that it was herself.
I can't stand the noise, either.
I don't EVER chew gum, to this day.
Hahah, nice!
I should clarify that in my case, the provider was chewing gum during 'playtime'. I could hear her chomping and clicking away during DATY and would even swear to you she still had it in her mouth during BBBJ.
Prior to or after the actual fun stuff - I don't think I'd mind, I might even say "Hey, got a piece for me!?"
I thought maybe I was the only one that doesn't like those nicknames. That's a turn-off for me right away. Handsome I can handle...
Using all the text lingo is another one.
Probably my biggest, though, is non-communication resulting in a no-show. If a lady has to cancel or change things, that's tine. But to not say anything - a big no-no for me
communication. Nothing is more of a turn-off than one-liners full of texting lingo. Delete.
I also cringe when people call me babe or hun when we haven't met. It's just weird, and reminds me of an old, jaded waitress in a diner somewhere in NYC. With a cigarette hanging out of her mouth.
a significant weight gain.
Counting the money in front of me would be my #2.
Getting to my car with 15 min left in my hour.
This can ruin what had been a great encounter.
I'm with you 100% on the car issue! If things wrap up earlier than expected I'll lay on bed naked (alone if I have to) fir a few more minutes.
D.
When an OP is clearly directed to the hobbyists yet the providers answer... Or viceversa.
Since when the women are trying to be the dudes? And since when the dudes are trying to be the gals.... I'm the only one allowed on this board. LOLZ 😜😜😜😜
Turn offs are subjective just as beauty is. It's fun to discuss topics like this but some people are just a little too crazy about their turn offs. A piercing thrns u off? U know what else is a turn off? Your wives. That's why Ure are with a Titty pierced girl with huge knickers and a butt to be desired. Stop sounding like divas 😜😜😜😜.
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but who's the diva here? everyone is allowed their preferences, and some guys don't like piercings. so the what the what is to you? i'm neutral about piercings, but huge tats are a turn off to me, but i know some guys love them. so more power to tat lovers and the girls who have tats, i'm just not involved in that party, ok? what do you care who likes what, as long as there are guys who like what you've got to offer?
jeez, pot meet kettle as far as the diva remark goes.
That's why people have to do their research and if they know exactly what their turn offs are, just ask the provider or make sure she doesn't have those things that u guys may find a turn off.
I have my own turn offs, but I most admit when I focus on the person instead of things that turn me off. I realize how silly is to let one thing ruin the entire session. Sometimes ignoring the things that turn u off may help u discover that u are in front of a great person worth getting to know 
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and I'm getting darned fed up with it too
For whatever it's worth the recipient of your kidney is doing very well and you really did look cute after it was over and I tucked you in 😊
Not a fan of the providers phone being on and constantly ringing. Worse when she answers it or starts texting.
Also not a fan of provider peeing during a session and leaving bathroom door open. Worse, she doesn't clean herself after peeing. Personal hygiene definitely goes both ways.
Strongly agree about providers not silencing their phones and/or checking them during a session. It really kills the mood.
had a girl do that to me a few months ago. totally turned me off. she kept saying "oh i'm meeting a friend afterwards and just want to know where he is."
it also turned me off that i booked an hour and half but she only wanted to do an hour, to "meet her friend" after.
finally she said "hey my friend's not coming, do you want to do that other half hour?"
i said no thank you and took the difference out of the envelope i laid down and split. never saw the [insert degrading word here] again.
Creating drama by being excessively late for outcall or making me wait for incall.
There's enough drama in meeting of new lady anyway
on the other hand, i saw a lady several times a few years ago, and she was consistently late by 15-20 minutes. but she was incredibly once she got there, a lot of fun, and of course she made up the time at the end of the session.
but it cracked me up; once i realized i could count on her to be late. but she was fantastic (now she's out of the game, but i still see a friend of hers who assures me she's doing well).
Upselling!
My envelope is always correct to her most recent stated rate, the one on her site, not the one on TER. I could care less if she counts it while I shower, in fact that is one of the reasons I shower right away, to give her time to do so.
I typically have less than $40 extra in my wallet, especially if it's a first time with her, none of my credit cards, so the only thing they're getting if I get rolled is my phone, and less than $40.
I've not been rolled yet, knock on wood, but it's good to be vigilant just the same.
So yeah, Upselling is very much a turn off for me. I won't ask for or expect any OT, but I do expect said service for said amount of time at said rate.
Really? Who refuses to wear yoga pants? I have had that request a few times, and it always makes me do my happy dance.
Ah my dear, 'twas only tongue in cheek. If only 'twas my tongue in your cheek (or any of them).
Truth be told, I have only faced yoga-pant-refusals due to practical constraints -- i.e., none available.
Of course one of my favorite things to do is to buy them myself and then enjoy the fitting session 😍😍
I'm just not as confident or in my "sexy place", attitude-wise when wearing yoga pants as I am in one of my favorite cocktail dresses. 
I'll wear what he wants on a repeat date, but not for our first meeting. That's a deal-breaker for some guys, I know.... but that just helps us to both know that we probably wouldn't have clicked anyway.
...and yoga pants, but each in the right setting. I agree that for the first meeting, a dress is more appropriate IMHO.
This is a scientific fact. There is literally no sexier outfi
How I feel? LOL!
Here's the thing: right or wrong, when I pull on my yoga pants I do NOT feel sexy. Nope, I feel like hitting the couch with a big bag of Skinny Pop and binge-watching one of my favorite Bravo TV shows.
But when I slip into a sexy red dress and high heels? Oh, yeah... now I'm feeling HOT and ready to go!
It's all about setting the mood: low lighting, the right music, and of course... the appropriate wardrobe.
Because you see, I really WANT to be in the right sexy mind-frame from the get-go. It makes it all feel more natural and I don't have to force or fake it.
But like I've often said: this is just how I am. It obviously doesn't go for all ladies.
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Isn't it knowing that a guy thinks you look sexy, that feels sexy?
Maybe you just haven't seen enough sexy yoga pants pics? Have you ever been to girlsinyogapants dot com?
Nipple bars I don't like them but a good provider will make me forget them. Lol.
Smoker's breath I experienced one time but a little mouth wash eliminates this.
Late a few minutes for an appointment has happened but never been a problem.
Body odor I have never experienced and don't know what I would do. Tell the provider I guess and leave. I would not review her thinking she would correct the problem if she was going to stay in business. Hope it never happens I might throw up on her. Lol.
Highly reviewed provider's and agency's run a good shop and you don't have to address these issues
Hardly ever happens, but it did recently when a young, highly reviewed gal, who was clearly hung over from the night before, blathered for the last half of a 90 min. appointment.
Not a good omen when she overslept for our 11 am date (scheduled end time: 12:30 pm) and didn't text me her room number until 11:15.
Notwithstanding the late start, she cut off a round 2 BBBJ at exactly 12:30pm (with regrets, of course)
Been there.....horrible.
...or replying curtly to my first e-mail and then never to any of my follow-ups. The courtesy of an explanatory message back to me is always appreciated. I can take 'no' as a reply but I can't take silence.
If I make a curt reply, it's because I WANT to turn the guy off. I've already refused him, but I want to make him feel like he's decided not to see me. And not the other way around.
If he continues to reply to me, eventually I might go silent, like 'Geez, doesn't this guy ever take a hint??'
If I don't reply to specific questions in an email, it's because I consider them inappropriate.
For instance, if a client writes to me, 'Gee, I'd love to do a 2-hour date. If you'd like to stay overnight I can make space in my bed.' If I see him, I'll address the 'hour' part, and not the 'overnight'. I'd feel that was a hint to him that his offer had been refused. Like... 'DUDE. Why did you have to even say that???? I'll just pretend I missed it. Let's move on. We're OK. But don't EVER bring it up again.
And I will never answer them. I'll answer everything around them, but will never answer the questions. It is such a turn-off!! Some recent ones I have been asked: Do you like to kiss? Are you passionate? What turns you on?
WTF??? Don't ask this stupid shite, guys. Bad move. Total turn-off. Good way to never hear from me again. Agh!
silence usually = 'no' and i'm surprised someone has to point that out...
I do understand that silence means 'no'. But haven't we all suffered technical issues with e-mail? I like getting a real reply. She could say, "Sorry, I don't think I'm the right person for you. Please resume your search elsewhere." At least I wouldn't be left thinking there are problems with my ISP.
My other complaint had to do with getting a reply where she shows interest but omits answering a specific question. I say 'specific question' not 'stupid question'. Consider this hypothetical example: It's a chilly week in winter and I ask, "Might you wear leather boots?" Her reply says okay to time and place but the 'boots' issue is left hanging.
No biggies. Just fodder for the OP.
that's happened to me, and it is frustrating.
Good question. My turn offs would be:
1) wet spot on bed
2) not offering tissue/warm wash cloth to clean up ( or not helping to clean up)
3) getting on highway after date and realizing there's still ten minutes left.
D.
1. Poor hygiene.
2. Poor attitude.
2. Poor communication - specifically upsells. There is a right and wrong way.
3. Poor scheduling that leads to a session being cut short or seeing a wait line.
innumeracy
2. Poor attitude.
2. Poor communication - specifically upsells. There is a right and wrong way.
3. Poor scheduling that leads to a session being cut short or seeing a wait line.
i would reiterate that 'smoke smell' and 'upsell' are definite turn offs.
also, not mentioned yet: i hate messy incalls. i want a fantasy that the lady is so excited about meeting me she wants to give a good impression, as if it were a hot date with someone who really wants to make a good impression.
this especially extends to a clean bathroom. once i saw a lady in a hotel, her room was pretty messy, but worse, when i went to the toilet, i lifted the lift to pee and found yellow and red stains on the underside of the lid. ewwwwww....
and, this has happened to me a few times: unannounced pets at the incall. if a girl lets me know via email or web site that she has dogs and/or cats, ok. but once i did a girl on a futon next to a rottweiler in a cage....very bad.
even worse, once a girl brought her sick dying parrot to the hotel incall, just to keep an eye on it. hard to make love with something in the room dying...
and i'm very particular, but i really hate when i request an outfit or type of dress, and the lady does not have it when i get there. if she can't do it, say so in the email. personally i'm paying for more than a couple of holes to fill, i would rather have a fantasy to fill.
LOL at the Rottweiler and dying parrot!!!
Looking like she hasn't bathed in a couple of days
looking sweaty
bad breath
no effort to look nice (not brushing hair, no makeup)
More...
Treating you like she's doing you a favor
talking too much
delaying the deed
no df
If more than ten minutes late and no call, it is off.
I like it when they count the money. Never bothered me. I am not under any delusion she is there for any other reason.
Bad Attitude.
Not the girl in the advertised pics.
Clock Watcher.
Rushing through the session. A recent session with a new favorite mentioned that I rushed her on our last meeting.
Paying her upfront if this is the first meeting. (A definete No No for me)
I thought your turnoff was condoms.
She's just supposed to trust a complete stranger I would question that is she did ... Guys short girls all the time or maybe even give fake money or an empty envelope if you don't want to see her count it place the donation down and go " wash your hands "
I've mentioned this one before, but not super appealing when the lady shares the amazing sexual prowess & exploits of other clients she's seen on that trip.
1. False advertising: though I will admit there that there are certain standardized metrics for beauty, there is something out there for everyone. Confidence in one's actual appearance (of close enough to it once your photos are edited) is very appealing in and of itself.
2. Advertising specific "services": I think we all understand what this community is about, but that's a really good way to get you and/or your gentlemen acquainted with the authorities in your area. Plus, your reviews will most likely speak for themselves.
Especially if she is faking anyway.
1st P: Photos- fake photos, pics that are outdated.
2nd P: Phone- please, put the phone down during the session.