What is the one personal question you would love to know about a certain provider or providers in general?
Usually after a few visits, I am an open book about my life, especially now being single I want to feel like I am getting to know my clients on a better level HOWEVER!!!! a new client coming in that starts asking all sorts of personal questions about my family is going to get me a little concerned.
I think it is very natural to wonder things about the person you are about to exchange bodily fluids with -lol but something like children's names are just way out of line.
As with all aspects of this hobby, it needs a delicate balance- most of us will enjoy sex better if there is some sort of connection other than sex organs!
I always want to know if a provider at least enjoyed herself. I know everyone has their "type", some like more heavier men, others like someone with a nice physique, but I always wonder if she is please by my appearance and enjoyed our particular session. I aim to please.
Ditto. Additionally and honestly maybe one good (genuinely) thing about me. I wouldn't want to pry on her personal life unless I've seen her a few times and that too being cognizant that I don't cross any boundaries.
What your family thinks about your "career." Not what they tell you but what the REALLY think. I don't think that's "going over the line" do you?
She asked a general question. My reply was same. Next time I'll be more specific ok? There may be a slot still open this fall at JDU but I'm not sure in your case what good it'll do.
If you had put that in your post the yes, you would be justified in your "uh" comment back to her. BTW...Does your family know about your lil "hobby" and if so I wonder what they really think!?
Steph xoxo
Dear Ms. Grey:
I am wondering because I know you were recently catching up on episodes of the Gfe Experience. In what ways would you say that you identify with Riley Keough with respect to the aforementioned question? Also I am also wondering how do you answer adeptly and adroitly certain questions which tend to be a bit probative and personal? Thank you Ms. Grey for your cooperation and insight with this matter.
She sent that email herself, because she's a crazy hooker lol.
I would never reveal this life to anyone in my private real life. This is an underground world I wouldn't be comfortable sharing with anyone I know, not even my family
What were the charges?
Usually after a few visits, I am an open book about my life, especially now being single I want to feel like I am getting to know my clients on a better level HOWEVER!!!! a new client coming in that starts asking all sorts of personal questions about my family is going to get me a little concerned.
I think it is very natural to wonder things about the person you are about to exchange bodily fluids with -lol but something like children's names are just way out of line.
As with all aspects of this hobby, it needs a delicate balance- most of us will enjoy sex better if there is some sort of connection other than sex organs!!
What's your point?
You asking providers personal questions??
You asking providers personal questions???
That's not your concern, is it?
I'm only curious in a couple scenarios: are you doing ok? I used to see my atf and could tell after a while something was really bothering her. Turns out it was 5 year anniversary of her oldest getting killed on his motorcycle.
Once she told me what it was she made tea ( something I almost never drink) and told me about him for an hour
The other is school/career aspirations after getting back to IRL.
Since I teach business at the college level as a sub now I could add some insights
And finally, I like to know what truly pleases her sexually
You want to teach hookers? That's kind, but MOST providers really resent people telling them how to run their business. I think the cops call it promoting ptostitution, aidng and abetting, conspiracy, etc. depending on the political aspirations of your local DA. Maybe you should think about it a little.
Go back and read it again.
Didn't say anything about teaching her the provider biz
And it's rich trying to tell me about the law
The thing I wonder/worry about -- do you hate your work?
Not "do you love your work", but do you hate it.
I'm not a particularly caring/giving person. But on the other hand I don't want to go around making people miserable. I have a sort of a live and let live attitude.
Unless the provider is Meryl Streep-quality in her acting ability, I don't think there's any way hated for her job can be hidden. "Meh" can be sugar coated, but hatred? I've been lucky in this regard, but I've met a couple of providers who clearly hated their jobs.
My experience is as yet limited.
and I agree, when it gets to the level of HATING her job, it's almost impossible to hide. I have had the displeasure of spending time with a few women who obviously hated what they were doing for a living, but fortunately in my experience at least, they have been few and far between.
Personally, I would rather jerk off than fuck a woman who is clearly repulsed by what she is doing. Going through with such a session makes me feel dirty and one very small step above a rapist.
Personally, I would rather jerk off than fuck a woman who is clearly repulsed by what she is doing. Going through with such a session makes me feel dirty and one very small step above a rapist.
job does not mean you enjoy it. Don't see to many coal miners coming off shift with big smiles on their face. I would venture to say that very few hookers really enjoy getting fucked.
More to the point it's who is fucking them that most likely leaves a lot to be desired.
Remember our leading MHB H+T? Well even she alluded to the fact that she loved getting fucked, just not by the old fat guys that made up most of her clientele. It's the very same reason I KNOW I would make a lousy hooker. Any woman who would pay me to fuck would be someone I wouldn't fuck "even if she paid me" lol
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usually forthcoming about their jobs. Most love sex, but need to do a bit of acting with the guys that are out of shape, just like civvie girls, except civvie girls will just turn down the fat guys. So even if you get up into your 50's and 60's (or beyond) 4 or 5 hours at the gym each week and watching your diet will keep you trim. Our providers will enjoy the time more with an older guy who is in good physical condition like they are, because a good fuck is a good fuck. So I agree with GaG, most of them love sex when the guy can give them a good workout like a younger guy would.
The only ones I saw that hated it were a few SB's I tried that were desperate for money and resorted to hooking, but despised themselves for it and hated every minute of it. Give me a professional any day.
Remember our leading MHB H+T? Well even she alluded to the fact that she loved getting fucked, just not by the old fat guys that made up most of her clientele. It's the very same reason I KNOW I would make a lousy hooker. Any woman who would pay me to fuck would be someone I wouldn't fuck "even if she paid me" lol
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They obviously fucked me either because they liked it or they liked me because there was no money ever exchanged once we became BF/GF and I am hardly the only guy who's ever had a hooker SO.
after the transition from customer to boyfriend. Still plenty of sex, but no donation. Had one this weekend. We did a fun activity, and afterward, it was HER idea to go to a hotel.
So what is the attraction to having a hooker SO? For me, its about being on my schedule, and not hers. Once you start as a customer, you can leave the donation behind when you become a boyfriend, but hookers are conditioned to the fact that it is the MAN who decides when to meet and for how long. You don't get that with a civvie girl, so for me, that's the best part.
"Conditioned"? Can they do tricks (no pun) like sit and stay?
So what is the attraction to having a hooker SO? For me, its about being on my schedule, and not hers. Once you start as a customer, you can leave the donation behind when you become a boyfriend, but hookers are conditioned to the fact that it is the MAN who decides when to meet and for how long. You don't get that with a civvie girl, so for me, that's the best part.
I'm not so sure they hate their job, they probably just love drama. (I like a little drama sometimes, so that's why I come here lol.)
Personally, I would rather jerk off than fuck a woman who is clearly repulsed by what she is doing. Going through with such a session makes me feel dirty and one very small step above a rapist.
... is if I had clients whom I didn't feel compatible with and don't honor my boundaries.
This is why I write a lot about myself on my website. Since I'm providing a girlfriend experience, I want to make sure the person I'm with is someone I like, who knows how precious it is to spend time with me. Of course, $$ is $$, yet it feels great being at a place in my work where I can be selective and not journey with just anyone.
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I love to find out how /why she chose this business. I've heard some great stories.
I am the sort of person who gets very interested in what people do, why they do it, and any entertaining stories they might have ( I minored in psychology in college). That being said, I will not attempt to pry into your personal life on a first date, but I will be all ears, and if we repeat, I will slowly start to ask more personal questions as we get more comfortable with each other. I love talking with my ATF; she tells me how her Grandma (!) figured out what she was doing and outed her to the rest of the family, about some of the whacko clients she's had (no names are ever mentioned), and her goals in life. I've been seeing her for 3 years, so a high level of trust has been established.
I sometimes ask this question, but not always, and here are some of the answers: "It's OK." I saw her several more times and never repeated the question but it became obvious that she liked her work was much better than mere "OK," and that she was very good at it and really enjoyed it most of the time. Another: "No, I'm only doing it to pay for some courses, and then I'm done." "If my customer is clean, respectful and fun, I quite enjoy it." Finally, from a very well known, esteemed, and perennial 9/10 in several major cities: "If my family were well off do you think I'd be doing this?"
So the question and the reactions are more complex than one might think.
From an early 40's successful provider, in the business 12 years, with a big smile: "I love this job!"
I have one question that I can never ask out of respect for these beautiful women that I adore. Since it's come up in this manner though I can say that I would really, really like to know how frequently providers get STDs. I've heard the general theory that providers take good care of themselves. I've also heard a lot of guys say they've never had a problem. Still...knowing the truth from a provider would tell me if I have to make sure I'm always covered with everyone (no BBBJ) for my own safety.
Yes, I know there are no guarantees and risk comes with the hobby. Its merely a questions I would love to hear truthful answers to from providers. E.g...do you live on antibiotics
Lmao that's awesome no of course not do you?
a year?
In that case, I'd like to know the first name (real name) of all the Sexi Lexies out there. I always wonder if my atfs are named Marie, Krystal, Jennifer, Adrianne, Brandi, Ann, or what? I also have an atf from Thailand. I'm sure I can't pronounce it, but I'd love to know her first name too. It's cool that I'll never know, but I sometimes wonder.
And I'll just be me. Has worked for me as a hobbyist after a dozen years. 