on her dates with you lmfao! Imagine someone taking it the wrong way and she stops her birth control lmfao!
It's an "idea" but it's also a little odd feeling, since it's a symbol of something sacred. But you know - when the conversation is obviously about cheating, it would look more like two married people cheating together, which is more acceptable. LMAO-- Modified on 4/28/2016 10:28:02 AM
So the hubs and i were watching The new show The Girlfriend Experience the other night and i noticed one of the guys take his ring out of his pocket and put it back on....... and i wondered why? why would it matter if they leave it on or not, does it make it feel less like cheating if its NOT on? i was quite intrigued by this and had an interesting conversation with the hubs, as he doesn't wear one due to his fingers swelling, we got tired of cutting ring off and having it fixed, i asked him if he would have kept it on when he cheated or taken it off, and he said he would have kept it on...........so guys what do you do, keep it on or take it off, and why? im not judging just curious.
And I'll never wear another ring as long as I live. Jewelry is just as useless and ridiculous as marriage.
I mean, why bother?
LOL, now tell us how you REALLY feel !! to each their own.
I got out of the habit of wearing the ring (it's a finger hazard in my line of work.)
But when I was having my affair, I would leave the ring on. I mean the whole point of an affair is forbidden sex. The wedding ring is a way to flaunt the illicit motivations.
If she would have sucked the ring finger, that would have made the illusion complete
In the first year I got it caught in something I was working with and almost lost my finger. The ring had to be cut off. After my finger healed my wife bought me another ring, It was a little bigger and loose. Once after washing my hands in a public restroom it came off when I dried my hands and threw the paper towel in the trash. When I discovered it was gone, I went back but the trash had been dealt with. I have never used a ring of any kind since. It didn't seem to matter because our marriage only lasted for another 51 years. lol
WOW......i can only hope ours will last that long.....going on 25 now!!
Good for you!!
They didn't really cost all that much. We were both going to college at the time I lost mine. My wife later in life when she had surgeries for hip and knee replacement, she refused to take off her engagement and wedding rings , so they covered and taped them up.
Had to take it off for my daughter's MRI. I'm not cheating, just outsourcing the BBBJ's I don't get at home. Would not go out if I got it at home. I tell you no lie. The ring will be there in my ashes.
That way I cant lose it or leave it.
because I instinctively knew it would put limitations on me someday. So I just told my wife I would rather spend additional money on hers and get a much bigger diamond than to buy a ring for me. What women isn't going to say okay to that?
I learned about that when I was 19 and had my first affair (that's actually how I lost my virginity)
Guy was 50 years old, and taught me about the cheater's circle. He kept his ring on.
When I first started working as an escort at 31, I was writing a movie about my crazy fucked up fun as hell life... and there was a picture that stuck in my mind. We were banging like wild horses, dragging us away, and I looked down and noticed a wedding ring as things started getting steamy. I was like "This would be a great shot/slow motion scene for a movie, when she looks at the ring."
(By the way, I also learned I don't know how to write a movie lmao)
Nowadays, my question is, to avoid judgment, do I buy myself a ring to wear with the guys I see? Reason I question is, lots of these guys don't have cheap shit on, and it may make the guy look cheap if I buy a fake diamond ring lmfao. So that may actually make the judging eyes even worse. lol!
P.S. The cheater's circle is the tan line from where the ring was. Guys taking off their wedding rings to see an escort isn't such a good idea, as he risks losing it. That would suck.
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Guy was 50 years old, and taught me about the cheater's circle. He kept his ring on.
When I first started working as an escort at 31, I was writing a movie about my crazy fucked up fun as hell life... and there was a picture that stuck in my mind. We were banging like wild horses, dragging us away, and I looked down and noticed a wedding ring as things started getting steamy. I was like "This would be a great shot/slow motion scene for a movie, when she looks at the ring."
(By the way, I also learned I don't know how to write a movie lmao)
Nowadays, my question is, to avoid judgment, do I buy myself a ring to wear with the guys I see? Reason I question is, lots of these guys don't have cheap shit on, and it may make the guy look cheap if I buy a fake diamond ring lmfao. So that may actually make the judging eyes even worse. lol!
P.S. The cheater's circle is the tan line from where the ring was. Guys taking off their wedding rings to see an escort isn't such a good idea, as he risks losing it. That would suck.
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Having a ring may not be a bad idea. There are some fake diamonds that look very realistic, I have seen them at Nordstrom and they are not that expensive. Something smallish will not draw second looks. Most people don't give a flying f but it is not a terrible idea.
Also agree that guys should not take off the ring, eventually they will lose it and try explaining that shit to the W.
on her dates with you lmfao! Imagine someone taking it the wrong way and she stops her birth control lmfao!
It's an "idea" but it's also a little odd feeling, since it's a symbol of something sacred. But you know - when the conversation is obviously about cheating, it would look more like two married people cheating together, which is more acceptable. LMAO
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Thanks for the feedback, I just cancelled the box of cheap looking fake diamond rings I had just ordered. I wonder if they will let me keep the promotional super duper cookie baking sheet that came with?
Yeah, make sure you get that cookie baking sheet. LOL!
I had a mistress for a couple years and used to take it off when I was with her so she wouldn't feel like I was "throwing it in her face" - it also allowed for a little suspension of reality. She never asked me to do it nor mentioned it's absence though. Just one of those unspoken 'rules' we had between each other. For me, it wasn't as if taking it off felt less like cheating, it just seemed like the right thing to do in the presence of the 'other woman'. I did stress out about losing it though...a lot. :/
After the mistress thing ended, I carried on the ring habit with a couple of SBs but I grew tired of their BS and started exploring 'the hobby'. These days, I figure "f*ck it, they (providers) have no illusions about what's happening here" and just leave the ring on.
taking off his ring is stupid if he does so. I'd bet more than one John left it in the room or had it did fall out
of his pocket in the escort's room. Explain that to your SO! It easier to give the escort a twenty to pretend she doesn't see it.
You know how upset they get when they see that ring finger wrapped around her benjamins. The guilt must be unbearable ...
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I do it for risk and loss mitigation.
I don't give a shit about a provider seeing my ring, but I do care about my privacy and mitigating potential losses in the unlikely event a ROB or LE situation should arise. (I have no desire for the cops to "check in" all my shit while booking me.) Because of this, I have a routine I go through to protect a few things prior to heading into a session.
I intentionally leave (lock) everything of value in my car including my car keys and ID's. My ring has diamonds and I wear a Panerai so there's $15K that's not coming along. I also leave my civvie cell, wallet and ID behind. (Can't ass dial or accidently answer my civvie cell from a session if it's not present.) The only thing on me walking into the room is my hobby phone, the loaded envelope and an extra $50-$100. There's not much for me to lose and you're not going to snoop through my shit while I'm in the shower.
Hell, If I'm going to an incall with a new girl (my highest LE risk situation), I will typically park somewhere a few doors down from the hotel (outside of LE's parking lot surveillance) and walk half a block to get there. The law here says they can impound and/or confiscate your vehicle if you're caught soliciting. I just come strolling up the sidewalk from out in public. I can call someone later to get my car and things if the shit hits the fan.
For me, losing the ring is part of an ounce of prevention.
He travelled to a motel for an in call and got busted..
I don't give a shit about a provider seeing my ring, but I do care about my privacy and mitigating potential losses in the unlikely event a ROB or LE situation should arise. (I have no desire for the cops to "check in" all my shit while booking me.) Because of this, I have a routine I go through to protect a few things prior to heading into a session.
I intentionally leave (lock) everything of value in my car including my car keys and ID's. My ring has diamonds and I wear a Panerai so there's $15K that's not coming along. I also leave my civvie cell, wallet and ID behind. (Can't ass dial or accidently answer my civvie cell from a session if it's not present.) The only thing on me walking into the room is my hobby phone, the loaded envelope and an extra $50-$100. There's not much for me to lose and you're not going to snoop through my shit while I'm in the shower.
Hell, If I'm going to an incall with a new girl (my highest LE risk situation), I will typically park somewhere a few doors down from the hotel (outside of LE's parking lot surveillance) and walk half a block to get there. The law here says they can impound and/or confiscate your vehicle if you're caught soliciting. I just come strolling up the sidewalk from out in public. I can call someone later to get my car and things if the shit hits the fan.
For me, losing the ring is part of an ounce of prevention.
I bet providers like it when they see your ring because they know you're less drama and less prone to stalking, lol.
Not necessarily true. My ATF tells me that this married guy she's seen several times does drive-by's to her incall and calls her constantly. She tried to put the kabosh on his activities by saying she's taking a break but he continues to stalk her.
but I bet on average, the married ones are a lot less stalker'y than the lonely ones sitting at home with nothing else to do than Google every aspect of every tiny piece of info they have one you.
I have to get back to work and deal with my SO and kids...
When I was having an affair with the love of my life she and I bought each other rings. But I also wore my wedding ring at that time. I have since taken the wedding ring off (claimed it was too small) and never put it back on. I don't wear her ring either any more but I do keep it in a drawer as a reminder to me of what its like to be truly loved by a real woman
I see one who wears her rings. I didn't wear a ring in my first marriage... finger hazzard on the job. She had rings, I didn't cheat, she did.
Second time around, I have a ring... I had to stop wearing it for medical reasons (hand swelling). It sits in my jewelry drawer.