Do you guys have a preference for the type of session you like--raw, wild,PSE-type sessions, or less intense, more playful GFE sessions?
I usually am more of a cuddly, playful GFE type girl, but I can also put myself in the part of a porn star and have a wild time with lots of dirty talk, sexual aggression, etc. (My 10's tend to occur when I let my hair down and let my inner porn star emerge.)
Would it seem too mechanical or contrived if I asked ahead of time whether a gentleman wanted a porn star session, or a GFE session?
If I knew ahead of time, I would dress differently and set the mood differently.....but on the other hand I would hate for anyone to feel there is a script.
Today I enjoy starting with kissing, etc. then if the magic (V) is working well I like to get into some sexy explicit talk.
Laughter and fun is wonderful too. Most of all I'm interested in an experienced provider who is professional enough to ask what I want then deliver. I prefer a mature provider that loves her profession.
When I was young (under 40) I got off on wild sex.
I know it sounds corny, but I just prefer a provider be herself. Nothing kills my mood quicker than when she puts on an act. I think you have to just read each guy individually and do whatever you're in the mood for. I have a favorite provider who gets wild when she's in a playful mood, but is a great GFE when she or I just want to take care of business without the games.
As long as you make us feel like we're touching you deep, it doesn't matter what facade you use.
I've been really tryin , baby
Tryin to hold back these feelings for so long
And if you feel, like I feel baby
Come on, oh come on,
Let's get it on
Lets get it on
Let's get it on
Let's get it on
We're all sensitive people
With so much love to give, understand me sugar
Since we got to be
Lets say, I love you
There's nothin wrong with me
Lovin you---
And givin yourself to me can never be wrong
If the love is true
Don't you know how sweet and wonderful, life can be
I'm askin you baby, to get it on with me
I aint gonna worry, I aint gonna push
So come on, come on, come on, come on baby
Stop beatin round the bush....
Let's get it on
Let's get it on
Let's get it on
Let's get it on
Compliments to Marvin Gaye!
Cheers!
This is something new...lol... responding to these "how to" posts with lyrics from Gaye, Al Green, and Barry...I mean...who can argue with these guys when it comes to "luv"songs.
Am I missing anybody?
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Of course you should ask! It's flattering to the client and shows you care. Many hobbyists DO have particular things in mind that they want; and for better or worse, some guys can only get off if the provider does one or two "special" things.
Every guy is different. Your sensitivity to those differences is a big plus. My only advice would be to make the request a bit more subtle: there's a lot of range between PSE and GFE. Why not ask the guy, "What do you like? Is there something special that turns you on? What would you like me to wear?"
I'm one of those guys who is always reserved and very respectful when I show up, and the provider almost always reads that as my wanting to be pretty tame. Just asking "what do you like?" doesn't necessarily help if the guy is more reserved and/or shy... One of my fave gals is very blunt when she asks... "So are you feeling cuddly like last time, or is this gonna be one of those dirty talking, let's fuck on the furniture days?"
It depends on the provider.
A recent visit of mine with BeBeDoll was intense due to the reckless abandon she threw into the session (which included role play, hair pulling, and swinging from the chandeliers intensity. Before that, a slow, sensual GFE experience was had with the hottest professor you'll ever meet in Cindy from Denver.
If you are more of a chameleon and can "become" his fantasy, then by all means communicate via email or phone first to find out his deepest fantasy and help him help you make the meeting that much more memorable. All of us have SOMETHING out of the ordinary that does it for us, and finding out what it is can improve the satisfaction level for both parties (the hobbyist gets an experience which he'll remember for a long time, and the provider gets a happy customer that will probably come back for more).
Don't ignore your persoanlity though. If you're the Domme type and HATE playing submissive, make sure you get that across. If you're hating the experience, he will too. It's better to avoid those situations before you ever get into them. (Reminds of one of my all time favorite movie quotes from "WarGames": "Strange game... the only winning move is NOT to play")
If forced to choose though for your "poll", I'll go for the wild side since I don't get to play in that sandbox outside of the hobby.
On my way to her place for a scheduled threesome, she called me on my cell phone: "Hi, Baby! Would you mind picking up a bottle of wine and some cat food on your way over?"
I assume it was good for you and her ... but how was it for the cat? (Sorry, I couldn't resist.)