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I do not CONTROL my Fantasy boyfriend's dick. I am not willing to accept the total responsibility for servicing him and being All things to him.  I gladly welcome him to relieve his pressure on any girl that is willing, ready, and able.

In my real life I have a man and a job as a sometime couples therapist - yeh I know funny huh? This job has taught me sooooo much about men.  
I went to an all girls school,and had only sisters and my dad kept my mum and us in line using his size and his loud voice. I left home at 17 thinking men were idiots. Since doing a psych degree but more importantly since starting this work at 24 I have come to realise that men are much misunderstood by women. We have our friends, our social skills, our ability to deal with emotions, shoes and handbags hahaha but men are brought up without much of this training. I find you in general to be much more emotionally vulnerable than women who are pretty pragmatic on the whole.
What I try to explain to women is that for men sex is a pretty vital ingredient in life. It's how you release stress, show love to women you love - it's as essential as eating and drinking and if you're not getting it at home you'll look elsewhere. Masturbation is like an omelette but sex is full steak and chips with a beer on the side and who wouldn't prefer that?
Coming to see a lady like us gives men the opportunity for the steak and chips, but also men tell me things they've never told anyone else. It's counselling and therapy only naked.
I have so much more time for men since doing this because I've heard all your inner thoughts, feelings, fears and hopes over the years and so many of you are hard working, family loving, loyal good hearted guys who should,be way more appreciated than you are.
I tell women in my counselling job that denying sex is like telling a man you don't love him, or appreciate what he does.  
Even if I've had enough sex in a week to last me a lifetime I go home and act my heart out if necessary to give it to my man because I love him and I want him to know that.

Good question indeed

Well, I'm single at the moment. The day I decide to start a family, will probably be the finale for 'Kenya'.  

Being in this line of work did open my eye a bit more on men. Not in a bad way. A more experienced way. I've learned that men need just as much attention and affection as women. You all like to be thanked for the things you do as well as acknowledge on the smallest gesture.  

While I was in a relationship a few years back. The men wasn't so verbal on their feelings. So, I took this as you all are more comfortable with a women that seem to be comfortable with your wild escapade. As for the wife/GF is just a Virgin Mary whom keep house and home in tack. Bringing all that into play, my lover, or husband will learn that I'm his slut and loving wife.  

And if I'm too tired for sex... I'll just give a BBBJ ;-

Then there are two possibilities: 1) There's something wrong in the relationship, or 2) I'm feeling unwell, physically and/or emotionally. Or possibly 3) He's just bad in bed (or we're incompatible in bed), which luckily, I've never had to contend with.  

I dated a client during one of my busiest times, when I was new and working for agencies. I ran all over NYC all hours of the day/night, and had to deal with some very difficult clients... some of them were REALLY not the pleasantest people. Some were rough, some were drunk/high... so sometimes, yea, I just didn't feel like dealing with another dick at the end of the day (or at whatever ungodly hour I got home and craved sleep). However, that's kind of an extreme circumstance.  

When I stopped wanting to be with my last ex, it was because I'd fallen out of love with him, and my heart wasn't in the relationship. I still liked his company and found him attractive, but the spark had just gone out

Very interesting thread.  I know a number of couples, now seniors, where either there is a mutual slackening of interest, or it's stronger with one than the other, or, most often, disinterest due to menopause or sexual boredom but where mutual affection still lives.  Most common situation seems to be where the woman goes through menopause and loses interest and the man still wants to romp.  Hence one of the reasons why the hobby thrives.  What do y'all think?

and these are mine alone, not projecting here and not grouping.

I love sex, if I could be happy and have it often I would.  Also, it turns me on that guys find me hot, sexy, and skilled enough that they want to spend their hard earned money on me.  So to me sex has value in my life.  I know what it is worth, and I never want to just give it away to someone who doesn't deserve it.

If I am in a relationship and my partner male or female(I date both) is being a dick, it is a turn off and I don't want to fuck.  If my partner wants to argue with me and won't let up, not turned on and I am not into makeup sex so don't want to fuck.  If they are great, we are happy with maybe a few missteps in the day and both want to then hey we are getting laid.  But personally I am not having sex with someone, anyone if I feel they don't deserve me.  I have some kick ass toys if I need to get off, but I don't feel the need to fuck someone who is being a asshole to me ever.  And I do not enjoy makeup sex.  If I am mad, I don't wanna get laid, period.

Again just my take.  I am turned on by being made to feel valued be it that I am paid or it is an emotional valued with a partner.

I doubt that there would be so any of us here..  
I have never understood the thought process that a wife may have in saying that sex in marriage is over.. then she gets angry if the husband see's others? please..  My wife has no idea.. but when we were about 50 (15 years or more ago).. she said no more... don't bother.. so eventually after more than ten years I turned my interests elsewhere and now have no sexual feelings at all for her... she's a roommate.. I pay her bills.. that's a good deal.. If she doesn't like that too bad..