I just got jealous reading a friend of mines reviews for anther girl ............. LOL I have a little crazy side .
has this ever happened to you guys / girls lol
Providers can only read their reviews, and not other reviews, without shelling out for VIP membership. So are you jealous just knowing he reviewed someone else, or did the review details make you jealous?
From a client perspective neither made me jealous. You know from the start that you are sharing this person with the world. Plus when you see different providers it kind of dilutes any feelings you are sharing something special with any of them. I always thought it worked the same way for the woman, bedding several guys prevents her from feeling jealous over any of them. Perhaps what you are jealous of is the lost business opportunity, that funds that could have gone to you have gone to someone else? My experience tells me that that is the only type of provider-side jealousy.
Well I did pay for vip so I can read other girls reviews . I read the reviews of the guys that review me too see how they rated the other girls . It is business but you still can like someone im not like in love with the guy but I did get jealous lol . He was nice , we had a really good time and he does my favorite thing lol so I read a review he had an amazing time with this other girl and im like hmmm now I know how to step it up for him next time haha
From a client perspective neither made me jealous. You know from the start that you are sharing this person with the world. Plus when you see different providers it kind of dilutes any feelings you are sharing something special with any of them. I always thought it worked the same way for the woman, bedding several guys prevents her from feeling jealous over any of them. Perhaps what you are jealous of is the lost business opportunity, that funds that could have gone to you have gone to someone else? My experience tells me that that is the only type of provider-side jealousy.
that you are going to step it up for him the next time. Sounds like a positive outcome based on reading other reviews; good for you!
I totally agree with 68firebird! Sure, you were jealous-more than likely over lost business opportunity. However you took note of what to do to "step it up" the next time you see your friend.
Getting back to the OP, when I see another hobbyist review a girl I had recently seen and it is different than my experience I will take note of it as well. Especially if the menu was more open for him. If a girl I see is gfe I will purposely hold back on one, maybe two things to keep things interesting and change things around on a second date (that's just me though)
Have a great day
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Just like we are variety. They are variety. I guess I'm detached and I don't let this business get to my head. Plus I don't catch feelings for my gentlemen. i guess some people are different.
I read the reviews of other girls from guys I've seen or that I'm going to see: to know what to expect from them, or if I'm even gonna like to hang out with that guy.
Even my ATFs I am currently sharing them with good girls I know will make their time as fun as my time so I'm not complaining. This hobby is a hobby. 
has this ever happened to you guys / girls lol
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When we all got married to the hobby, we took a vow of polyamory. The whole point of polyamory is not to be jealous. Unfortunately, just like all us cheating ass husbands, some people break their hobby vows. It's usually not a good thing.
But I suspect, from reading your other comment, that you really weren't feeling jealousy. I mean were you hop raving mad? Did you shoot off an email asking why he saw that fat ass? Did you send him a text or vm telling him never to contact you again? Did you give him the silent treatment when he sent an email? Did you get his address, and send cryptic letters to his wife? Would you refuse to see him if he only saw her for a year, and then tried to schedule you? The answer is probably no on all accounts. My thought is that, instead of jealousy, you were more likely feeling the competition. Competition is a good thing. That's an underlying positive aspect to reviews. Not only can a gentleman feel a little safer, and know what to expect. Some ladies use them to improve their craft. Don't waste your little crazy side on jealousy. Use it to knock his socks off.
I'd venture to guess you were a bit jealous because of the things they were doing? And maybe those this aren't on ur menu possibly? You're definitely a very beautiful woman Layona. You might wanna expand ur menu so you can do those things they were doing. I'm just guessing here though.
I still have a hard time figuring out these providers menus. Or at the very least, understanding them.
#justsayin
I don't necessarily agree with other responders.
I think your feelings were hurt more than you were jealous. Unless you started developing feelings for him.
He probably made you feel that you were special to him and you responded.
Then you found out that he obviously shared the same things with another provider.
Here's what I think: you are clearly warm and sensitive. From my perspective that's great. Smart guys don't want to know a robot in hobby or civie life.
Stepping it up is a great way to define what your future relationship will be with him.
Good luck to you.
Jealousy is natural. And contrary to the belief that it serves no purpose, the fact that evolutionary biology has delivered it from ages long past, points to its utility in protecting the species.
Love and jealousy are mate guarding. We guard mates to ensure they will bear our DNA and only our DNA. And that our offspring will be protected in youth a grow old enough to reproduce the DNA.
So the question is not whether we will experience jealousy, the question is how to respond to it.
lol--jk of course
has this ever happened to you guys / girls lol
Even I , the polyamorous guy, have on occasion felt a twinge of jealousy when reading other peoples reviews of my ATF. Then I facepalm myself and go have a cigarette.
Jealousy only causes problems and most often causes the most/worse problems to those who are jealous.
Ultimately, you can only do something about you, and so jealousy is futile. It is simply useless.
Years ago, I had a GF who wanted to see if I cared, so she purposely did something to see if I'd get jealous. So this means she purposely did something to hurt me to satisfy her own vanity. I broke up with her.
Jealousy is such an uncomfortable emotion. It’s worse than being envious. Envy is wanting something another has that you haven’t obtained, where jealousy is something already obtained until someone/something else comes along; then you’re afraid of it being taken away. For instance, as in not being someone’s number one in life, not maintaining status or prestige and even power (over the other?). It becomes a problem when you want to retaliate against a person that you blame for causing the jealousy or even justify self-importance (as in that test that you’ve mentioned) to trigger the jealousy. (Let's see him get defensive and possessive, get him to go the extra mile proving how much he loves her, etc.)
Put jealousy in perspective though, then it’s not so bad, everyone is human and experiences it because sometimes it’s just so unexpected when another surprises by doing something or saying something differently. Although, it’s just important to keep jealousy in check; think with the head and not to act on bad behavior causing hard feelings. Best to focus on self improvement or just walk away and move on, as you did. I can agree that the more understanding about this unforgiving emotion, the more it becomes a choice on how to deal with it. (Just my added thoughts.)
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