Personally, and I'm sure there will be some who disagree, I think that what makes a provider "elite" is a combination of the following things:

* A fantastic reputation (both with clients and with other providers)

* Ease of contact (all advertised phone numbers/email addresses/websites work and she gets back to inquiries within a reasonable amount of time)

* A professional looking, easy to navigate website (or at the very least, informative and easy to understand ads)

* Appropriately dressed for every occasion (of course, style is a personal choice... but she should turn heads, not raise eyebrows)

* Straightforward rates (no upselling, last minute changes to specials or discounts, etc.)

* Total discretion (no gossiping about other clients or providers on the clock or off)

* Respect for other people's time (no last minute location changes, never late without notice, no cutting appointments short without reason, reasonable response times to contact from clients and providers)

* A pleasant attitude (personality is one thing, but no provider-- unless it's something the client has asked for specifically-- should come into an appointment obviously upset, exhausted, bored, preoccupied, or irritated)

* Impeccable hygiene (Duh!)

* Great conversational skills (You should be able to hold an intelligent conversation, whether it's for 10 minutes for a whole weekend)  

 
Things like how expensive your wardrobe is, how educated you are, or how much you charge doesn't have anything to do with what makes you an "elite" escort, in my book. Those things might speak to how sophisticated or high maintenance you are, but an unprofessional $1,000/hr. provider with a bad attitude is NOT elite, Louboutins and Agent Provocateur lingerie or not.

Dreamt up by a copywriter.

And/or that this is the image she wishes to project.  

Yes, this is often nothing more than branding & marketing.  

But I have met a few providers who really believe that what they offer (whether this means simply themselves, what's on their menu or how good they are at it, their amenities or the total package) makes them elite. That they truly fit this definition.  

Personally, I find women with that much confidence very, very sexy.

From my observations, however,  the word itself is misused just as frequently as it is used correctly.

You said that you and another person had "different definitions" of what it means.  Being a word-nerd, I cannot resist the compulsion to provide the literal definition for you.  

Elite in the context of a profession or occupation means the best of the best; the most skilled or accomplished at what that person does.  The cream of the crop.  

However, in this realm, the connotation is often that of exclusivity, a certain "high end" image, and/or relative expensiveness.

As to the minimum booking?  Either she needs to update her ads/site as to her new minimum, or she just doesn't want to do a shorter date on that particular day or, for whatever reason, with you.  Whatever the case may be, I personally feel she should have explained it to you.  

It sounds like your definition of "elite" for a provider includes behaviors & manners which are often termed "classy".    
As up-selling is not usually considered to be very classy, I understand your surprise.  

Please don't make up definitions for words on your own! Please!  But rather, be aware of HOW this word is most typically used in the providing world.  

 
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Nooner: A sexual encounter during lunchtime; especially one that is illicit.

to me until after I have seen her.  Then I will decide if that is a proper moniker for her.  Otherwise, its just advertising hype.  I am always suspicious of the oversell, and would be more inclined NOT to see a provider who is hyping herself as "elite."  When someone is using a term like that to describe themselves they might as well be an airline offering "Premium Economy."  Coach is coach, not the same as first class.  I will give the provider who brands herself as "elite" the same credibility, even if she gives me complimentary headphones and a glass of wine.

When I played video games, I was elite because I was number one. That word doesn't belong in this hobby. But some people use it for some sense of entitlement. Bleh boring.

(1) Very high rates;
(2) A diverse group of clients willing to pay the rates; and
(3) Virtually all of the clients reporting the highest evaluations in both appearance and performance.

        Now a lady meeting all requirements may not be your personal idea of “elite,” but, if we look at it objectively, these are the defining criteria. Obviously charging a lot is meaningless unless the market is willing to pay and then validates the charge by post session evaluations.

       And sometimes you can catch an elite lady before she raises her rates (good luck); or the lady lacks the confidence to charge what the market will bear;  or you may catch her on the rare day she is off (bad luck).  But, over the long term, these three factors will coincide and entitle the lady to the elite classification

just after rate hikes.

I mean if it is in writing it must be true, right?

I am discerning and very selective in who I want to see and be with, just as much as he is.  

Passionately,

Frederica

I think elite corresponds to what you can charge and that corresponds to demand.  Demand might be high for popular porn stars, or any escort approaching super-model looks.  

There is one other category of elite, and that is one who is known in upper circles and maintains a price point to indicate to upscale customers that she isn't slumming with the disease ridden hoi polloi.  How she got known in those circles could be again from looks, or fame, or simply a lucky alignment of the stars

That are only interested in the "successful" gentleman.  Read - rich.