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Posted By: DURHAMDREW63
A good GFE provider make me forget I'm paying for it. A great GFE provider makes me not care.
In a nutshell. Definitely +1.

For me GFE has nothing to do with bbjcim and all of the other ridiculous acronyms we tend to use. How many girlfriends have you had that enjoyed a snowball? None? Cool lol.  

When I think girl friend experience it is not a checklist of activities. I have friends who don't enjoy kissing so in turn have never kissed their boyfriend, but still managed to achieve great sex lives, TOGETHER.  

For me it is more of a genuine connection. Making something so taboo seem natural, unrehearsed, and completely our own. I've said this before, I have had a few gents tell me (after having a similar conversation to this one) that they visited with a provider offering GFE and were not impressed, even though the traditional "check box" was upheld. Dare I venture to say there are a few here on this board that feel the same?  

Certain things are important, but at the top of this should be a natural interaction. Experiencing moments that take your breath away. Sensual kisses placed ever so sweetly on moist flesh yearning to be touched...

Taking the time to enjoy each other will beat out a bbj for me any day. Since I am not a man I guess I will never understand the importance of bbj, but I've never had a guest say "man, that cbj sucked" lol I have heard "that was the best bj ever, and I usually only like bbj" on many occasions.  

I have always done a cbj with partners before I was a provider, and it was always natural to me. And I was always amazing at it! Nothing pleases me more than to see the look on a mans face when things are so good they can hardly contain themselves. Definitely not provider talk, I naturally feel this way lol. Knowing that I have that much power over pleasing the man before me turns me on, I guess it is the dominant side of me that likes to have so much control. ;)

GFE: Bringing a man to a point of pure extacy, leaving no doubt in their mind that they will be hard pressed to find another girl who they click with so well, who knows how to please them to that extent. What donation?  

Services offered: bbj

Allison, your non bbj GF ;)


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In recent history I've had GFE kind of "redefined" for me, so I'm curious as to what it means to others. Before I defined it exclusively in terms of sex(kissing, BBJ, etc) but I'm seeing it a bit differently now. Conversation, attitude, humor, making you genuinely forget it's a service...all that are a part of it to me now. How about the rest of you? When you see a provider labeled "GFE" what do you think/expect? Providers- what do you think is expected of you?

and unfortunately a lot of ladies don't get it.  It's the whole experience.  All of the things said above.  Unless the are purposely trying to get someone to not come back and visit.

All kidding aside. She makes me forget it's a service and I can't wait to see her again. I know GFE is not the fake porn-star chatter, but there is something about a provider who matches your rhythm and "feels" like she's coming without telling you "how hard" she just came. I know it's not real, but over-the-top banter just reminds me that it's P4P. A good GFE provider make me forget I'm paying for it. A great GFE provider makes me not care.

Posted By: DURHAMDREW63
A good GFE provider make me forget I'm paying for it. A great GFE provider makes me not care.
In a nutshell. Definitely +1.

For me GFE has nothing to do with bbjcim and all of the other ridiculous acronyms we tend to use. How many girlfriends have you had that enjoyed a snowball? None? Cool lol.  

When I think girl friend experience it is not a checklist of activities. I have friends who don't enjoy kissing so in turn have never kissed their boyfriend, but still managed to achieve great sex lives, TOGETHER.  

For me it is more of a genuine connection. Making something so taboo seem natural, unrehearsed, and completely our own. I've said this before, I have had a few gents tell me (after having a similar conversation to this one) that they visited with a provider offering GFE and were not impressed, even though the traditional "check box" was upheld. Dare I venture to say there are a few here on this board that feel the same?  

Certain things are important, but at the top of this should be a natural interaction. Experiencing moments that take your breath away. Sensual kisses placed ever so sweetly on moist flesh yearning to be touched...

Taking the time to enjoy each other will beat out a bbj for me any day. Since I am not a man I guess I will never understand the importance of bbj, but I've never had a guest say "man, that cbj sucked" lol I have heard "that was the best bj ever, and I usually only like bbj" on many occasions.  

I have always done a cbj with partners before I was a provider, and it was always natural to me. And I was always amazing at it! Nothing pleases me more than to see the look on a mans face when things are so good they can hardly contain themselves. Definitely not provider talk, I naturally feel this way lol. Knowing that I have that much power over pleasing the man before me turns me on, I guess it is the dominant side of me that likes to have so much control. ;)

GFE: Bringing a man to a point of pure extacy, leaving no doubt in their mind that they will be hard pressed to find another girl who they click with so well, who knows how to please them to that extent. What donation?  

Services offered: bbj

Allison, your non bbj GF ;)


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I guess the only way you can understand why guys prefer bbj over cbj is to use a dam or female condom the next time you get daty. I won't see a provider who does cbj because it does not even come close to the feeling of bbj. I've asked "GFE" providers to "leave" when they tell me they don't kiss. I even have that fact in my 411 profile. A provider who advertises herself as "GFE", but then starts to list her rules i.e. No kissing, No bbj, No daty is not GFE in my opinion. She is just a provider who is trying to get paid via misrepresentation IMO

Happened to me once.  Check my reviews.  Was very disappointed.  Site says full GFE.  No FK no BBJ no DATY...........thats about all of it.  Like I said those things dont fully make a GFE but for someone advertising as such it was a big let-down.  Then OTOH met a great lady that didnt advertise as GFE and did all of those things and was a blast to be with........go figure.  I think its been said several times and Ill say it again, when you forget you're being serviced and you leave feeling like a dopey 17 year old I think the lady did her job very well.  :-)

I understand your position and after so many no's i would be turned off too! But usually those things are specified before meeting..

have used "lady condoms" and still enjoyed daty lol. I guess I see what you are saying, but since you can get an std just as fast as you can get one in your vagina, I choose to protect both :) After all, you guys wouldn't want to see a provider who offers bbfs, what's the difference?  

I REALLY want to understand why those "services" make a GFE session, rather than just a girl who offers bbj. & I mean REALLY understand, not just so i can hike up my prices. They are fine as is, even with me offering a gfe type session...but can i even call it that.. So the natural attraction/connection is just a good provider, but the services she provides either makes her gfe or non gfe?

I do not offer bbj, so I Dont advertise GFE, but it seems to read the same whenever I see this topic on a board. I want to feel a connection, I want to feel like she likes it, leave the checklist at home, BUT I want her to do A B C & maybe D. Then there are gentlemen who pick and choose from "the checklist" yet still enjoy the session as GFE.

It is all very confusing. Which is why I don't advertise GFE. Its so vague and means different things to different guys. The only thing usually the same is guys want the bbj, sooooo why not just say "a provider who offers bbj" and call it a day? Because the girlfriend part is only a little bit important anyway right? Or is the whole package important, but the bbj is a must?

NOT advertising GFE has had guys ask me questions like is your session rushed? Do you cuddle? Well you don't advertise GFE so I wasn't sure. ...  

I do not want to start any mess lol I guess I am playing devils advocate?

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My experience in the Carolinas is that GFE includes BBJ, and kissing. There are girls who say they are GFE, but have a list of "don'ts", which is usually brought up after they have the envelope in their bag. Other girls say they are GFE, but want to charge (upsell) for extras such as kissing, etc. GFE (IMO) means the "extras" are included in the price. You are correct that there are many opinions about what GFE means, but most clients in the Carolinas think GFE includes bbj and kissing at a minimum. Girls who upsell or try to act unethically with clients are usually the main subject of client's "back channeling" on TER. Given the expense of the hobby, I appreciate being warned by other hobbyists and sometimes, by providers (without an agenda) about the bad providers out there as reviews only tell part of the story.

Agreed, on your statement. "All kidding aside. She makes me forget it's a service and I can't wait to see her again. I know GFE is not the fake porn-star chatter, but there is something about a provider who matches your rhythm and "feels" like she's coming without telling you "how hard" she just came. I know it's not real, but over-the-top banter just reminds me that it's P4P. A good GFE provider make me forget I'm paying for it. A great GFE provider makes me not care.  

In my eyes you get what you pay for. With my rates, and they are not that bad, thank you in advanced, I look forward to seeing only about 3 people a week. Or at least that is all I am getting right now. So much less stress, you know I am going to show up, be on time . look forward to my date and have hopefully if we click a wonderful time.

I do make exceptions for a meet and greet and the rate is not set in stone, so I feel we can be at ease with each otheruntil we click and connect.Kelley

GFE to me is of course few checks in the box.  BBBJ, FK, CFS etc.  But for me its also the lady acting like she wants to be with you.  To make you the center of her attention.  I love Julias scenario also.  I dont want a box of hammers yammering away at me.  Intelligence.  I brought a provider a rose today and she started telling me how she studied flowers and wants to be a Botanist and started talking about it.  She started to stop and I said "no, keep going Im interested"  And I was.  Wow, what a turn on.  To me a GFE is just like having a girlfriend at the stage where you guys are banging every chance you get hehe.  There has to be that connection even if she's faking it.  I do hope the connection becomes real for her at some point so you both get to experience a great time, but as long as I believe it, the lady has succeeded.  :-)



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What makes a GREAT GFE? All of the things listed before plus something special. What that something special is, I can't say until it happens. She will surprise me with something personal or exotic. I love a lady with a great sense of eroticism and I love to be surprised that she can make me so excited with the little things. Just a regular GFE is check the boxes and lets get the job done.

I dont like the check the boxes and get on with it, but I do like those boxes to be 'checked' so to speak.  Not everyone is a rocket scientist but come on, have some wits about you.

I've actually been with ladies who didn't kiss and did everything covered that were chatty and friendly and more genuinely enjoyable than ladies that did DFK, BBJ, and all the other "GFE services". Now the BEST I've seen did check all those boxes...but as I've said she redefined the term for me...

That you think she is a girlfriend, or in other words acts like she was your girlfriend?  If you forget yourself and that it is a biz, you could almost swear she was into you. lol

I see this lil lady now every chance I get, who just runs to hug me(and I mean tight) as soon as she sees me;)~~~ Some hugs and kissy kissy faces are so fake, but hers is the real deal and keeps me coming back to experience something real in, of all places, fantasy land--LOL

Ya know sometimes its hard to believe when providers say they want a connection and all of that then you go to the Gen. discussion and 90% of the provider answers to a question about back-to-back Johns say basically "Its all about money, business" etc.  Normally I say "yea ok" but Im pulled back to discussions like this and I actually get a bit puffed up and aggravated.  Like WTF?  Which is it?  Its that kind of discussion that makes men not want to treat providers with any sort of respect whatsoever.  What response should we have to a statement thats akin to "Yep its all about money and we forgot about you 5 mins after the door closed"  Not saying you have to have wild fantasies about us for days, but dang not even a lingering thought?  Then you wonder why some guys are cold dicks.  Look no further than Gen Discussion............

Every provider is different. For some it is all about the money, and you can usually tell those providers from those of us who actually enjoy the craft. They usually are the girls guys post about waiting a whole 30 to an hour for, because she likely double booked and will be rushing both sessions out of the door. There's probably a less talk more action, "get comfortable" routine as well.  

Is money important? It plays a big role. Is it the only thing that matters? Not at all. We can only say so much on these boards, and to guys that haven't met us it may seem like "talk," but how many genuine providers have you seen that proved otherwise?  

There are girls that like this industry, girls that are in it for a certain lifestyle, and some that hate it but do it for others. Those of us that enjoy it do find a connection.

Yes I understand that of course.  Just venting a bit.  I just dont like those same ladies coming back wondering why some men are acting like jerkoffs?  I have met several ladies that seem to actually like what they do and like meeting people.  Plan on meeting some more ;-)

Posted By: tastyallison
Every provider is different. For some it is all about the money, and you can usually tell those providers from those of us who actually enjoy the craft. They usually are the girls guys post about waiting a whole 30 to an hour for, because she likely double booked and will be rushing both sessions out of the door. There's probably a less talk more action, "get comfortable" routine as well.  
   
 Is money important? It plays a big role. Is it the only thing that matters? Not at all. We can only say so much on these boards, and to guys that haven't met us it may seem like "talk," but how many genuine providers have you seen that proved otherwise?  
   
 There are girls that like this industry, girls that are in it for a certain lifestyle, and some that hate it but do it for others. Those of us that enjoy it do find a connection.

The brain is our biggest sex organ.  If the mind can't connect in some shape or form, then there will be no GFE.

I am an independent.
I love it.
When finding my "niche" I discovered GFE.
My first client told me, "You are absolutely perfect for GFE. That is what you should be. You will make a lot more money than the average backpage girl."
Which, indeed is true.
I had to figure out, what EXACTLY is GFE... So I could define it, learn it, and hopefully, someday, master it.
Yes, there are a certain amount of check marked boxes that are anticipated; MSOG, FS, CIM, BBBJ, LFK, DFK, no clock watching...
Sorry to the other provider that doth' protest the bbbj, but the overwhelming majority of men I have questioned, PRESUME GFE to include BBBJ- and that any provider not providing, is false-marketing. I figured that out in my research very quickly.  
False marketing is BAD.
Just like PSE are expected to provide Greek. It's just the way it is.

Now past the check marked boxes (which, yes, some BP girls do it all, as well) the whole "GFE Choreography" should be expected as well...

The beauty of GFE is that it is NOT cold, it is not apathetic, it is not in & out... Servicing guys like a puppy-mill....
Most GFE's tend to have longer sessions.... because...
GFE is warm, embracing, sensual, the humor, the connection...
Hopefully any lady who has enough where-with-all to market herself as GFE, is someone who not only can provide the check marked boxed services- but can look, dress, & act the part.
A GFE provider is someone you wouldn't be embarrassed to be seen dining out with, but rather pleasantly surprised that she knows which fork to use with which course (or how to properly work chopsticks while eating sushi!)
A GFE provider should never over imbibe, should always be a lady in public, and a tiger in the bedroom.
She should fondly remind you of that one frisky girlfriend you had all those years ago...

A GFE provider should have the talent, intelligence,  & mental fortitude to be all those things and more towards any gentleman she may encounter, while she is OnTC, and she should never make it seem as though you are actually on the clock...
After all, that is why GFE's get to charge the big bucks... and are worth every penny.
If they weren't, they would have all starved by now, and such a thing would simply not exist.

Granted, some men aren't into all the affection of it... Then again, I am sure they don't seek out GFE.

To each his or her own.

I'm a proud GFE provider. I like it a bit personal!  
I'd like to think each of my clients know exactly who I am, and I them, even if we don't know the details, we know enough.

Sadly, GFE is also a risk.
Emotionally speaking, if a provider is worth her salt... then she makes the fantasy...  reality, if only during session time... and then some guys are prone to ... not know how to handle it.

It happens.

To be GFE a gal really has to know how to hold her cards, how to read others, ....
Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em...

As though GFE REALLY could be summed up in one simple forum post...
Funny guy!

Good post :

Totally wish I could applaud by emoticon...

Thankyou... glad you liked my response well enough to *want* to comment with applause...
But....  
Seriously...  
Come on Mr Smarty Pants, don't tell me I knew something you didn't know?  
GIF's?
God, that makes me so giddy... LMAO

Just messing with ya!  
;

Have you r tried to downloaded and then upload a GIF on an Android? Pure-T nightmare....

To me, GFE is kind of complicated to describe. The Best way I can try to define it for me is spending time w/ a lovely woman who cares more about giving you their attention and affection rather than watching the clock and only caring about getting paid as if it were a full time job. Even though the reality is that you are paying to spend time with a girl who will pretend to be your GF or SO, she makes you forget that it's a service and takes you away from reality. That's one thing I look for in reviews. In regards to what goes down, I look for girls who are passionate lovers. A true GFE is more towards being a passionate lover than a girl who makes you feel like you're living out a porno fantasy. I'm okay with the dirty talk, but it just chips away from the passionate part. In regards to whether she provides CBJ or BBBJ, doesn't matter. Kissing is something I'm big on. It adds more to the experience for me. Locking lips with a beautiful woman as you make love to her is truly intoxicating and passionate. Outside of sex, I like women who are open-minded and can talk about anything. Humor is also a big plus. It helps break the ice for the first couple of minutes when getting acquainted with your provider. A good attitude is a must have. A girl who doesn't have a good attitude doesn't need to be providing. I have had my share of good providers and not so good providers. In the end, it's different for everybody. I don't necessarily look for everything I've mentioned when looking at providers, I use it as a measuring stick. In the end, A woman who is passionate when making love, and easy talk to after wards is gold in my book when referring to GFE.

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To me this brings back memories of an awesome visit and a true GFE!! First of all the chemistry is very important!! I set up the visit with a long time friend to let himself in!! We so loved our visits!! We joked about the next visit and I agreed the next visit not to shave and to start bitching at him as soon as he walked in the door!!! Now THAT my friends is a REAL g/f experience!!!  Oh the fun times I have had they the years!!

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Is it weird that I like a more natural look?  A little un-shaven, no problem, a little bit of sag, sexy.  Real is so sexy to me.  Plastic and paint doesnt do it for me.  

Posted By: Lexilee
To me this brings back memories of an awesome visit and a true GFE!! First of all the chemistry is very important!! I set up the visit with a long time friend to let himself in!! We so loved our visits!! We joked about the next visit and I agreed the next visit not to shave and to start bitching at him as soon as he walked in the door!!! Now THAT my friends is a REAL g/f experience!!!  Oh the fun times I have had they the years!!

-- Modified on 9/26/2014 3:09:28 AM

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