Unless you have actually booked an appointment with her, you owe her nothing until you do so.

The only woman whose time you need to honor is the lady you book with. You can send out a dozen inquiries without incurring any obligation unless of course you get in the habit of doing so without actually booking an appointment "ever" with the other eleven.

What I do quite often when looking for company 'tomorrow" is to send one inquiry, wait a while and if I hear nothing, I start making other inquiries, NEVER actually making an appointment request with a particular day and time, but just a "here are my references, are you available tomorrow or otherwise on short notice?" and then wait to see which women respond. Now once you have committed to a date and time I think it is extremely rude to cancel if you get a "better offer" once you book an appointment, that's is when you have made a commitment you need to honor.

If I realllllly want to see them, I respond right away or as soon as I see it. But doesn't mean they will see me that day. I have a life and I have to plan my day. Lol

Why not put several inquiries out at once and see who gets back to you, or space them a few hours apart to umpteenth hours apart; that is, the duration of time is up to what you feel comfortable by waiting for a reply. But look, it’s an inquiry and not an appointment; otherwise, once you agree on making an appointment, go the extra inquiry and ask the provider if she has a cancellation notice (within reason) in case you can’t make it. (You might do this if you prefer another choice, like the special advertised that did not get back to you at first; thus allowing some time for a possible change of mind.).

The thing here is you’re not leaving anything up in the air by asking these questions once the parameters to the meeting are agreed upon.  Anyway, a smart paying customer leaves his options open. Remember, it’s your money, make the best informed choice on how to spend it.  

Of course, if the special is all that matters, then just put one inquiry out. If it doesn’t pan out, have a plan B to occupy your mind or remain in limbo.  


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...I send a second email inquiring if they got the first one. If it's radio silence after that I write them off permanently and move on to someone else.

Obviously this won't work if you are seeking appointments within a day or two, but I usually have to schedule out about a week in advance.

If you are arranging for an immediate or very soon appointment, then obviously your schedule dictates the time to wait.  But if you are wondering how long to wait, it sort of implies you have some time.  In that case waiting only an hour seems a bit rushed.  She may be with a client.  I like to book in advance, so I'd wait 24-48 hours

I am preparing for, on my way to or in an appoitment my phone is always in Do not disturb. I think would be disrespectful answering or watching my phone when I am with a client.  I put the playlist and let the night go. Sometimes clients ask for extended  time, it could be an a hour a couple of ours or an overnight, but I leave my auto reply when busy or out of town so people know that I am not available and they do not feel ignored. After that I try to answer my emails/ texts within 24 hours.

If it's for something the next day or two, I try to give them about two hours.

If it's for a week or so away I give them at least a full day, sometimes longer.

I feel pretty bad about having overlapping requests so if I'm going to move on I send a last communication saying that I'm sending out another request but I hope I get to see them some other time. No sense in burning britches I figure and it's always helpful to be really clear about what is going on, saves everyone time and sanity

If it is sent between 7 am and 10 p, I typically am able to respond to it within an hour or two. Probably the only time it would take me longer is if I was inundated with emails or if I was traveling (driving, flying a long distance).

Sometimes if I'm at my other day job I can't always check emails every hour - or if I'm already in a multi hour date with someone I wouldn't. If you miss out its bad luck sometimes not because we're ignoring your request.

I usually try and book at least 2-3 weeks in advance so I give them a week to respond. If no response after a week, I'll send a follow up email, just in case my email ended up in spam. In my original email, I'll have my TERID, full name, city I live, phone number and provider info just so I can easily be screened. If they don't get back to me in a day after my followup, then on to the next one

about three years ago for not allowing a provider three or so days  to respond to my request for a meeting. What changed?

other words, if I'm trying for a date next week I will wait about 24-48 hours for a response. If I'm trying to get a date for tomorrow night, then my wait time is much shorter, say 1-2 hours.

I use the shotgun approach-contact all providers I am interested in (usually no more than 3)-and first response gets the date.  After all, I'm sure the ladies have better things to do, like be in the middle of an appointment, than to sit by the phone waiting on me to call.  When all else fails and I really really have to have it, I will take a chance on an agency.

I really appreciate it when someone gives me 24 hrs to respond. Often I answer immediately but sometimes if I am out and about with my family or civvie friends I don't prefer to risk opening my phone to check emails. Sometimes I might excuse myself and check real quick but if I can the date is not for the same day then I prefer to respond later. 24 hrs gives me time to do screening in private. If in the process of screening I find out the client has messaged a ton of ladies for the same appt time then I don't bother with the booking because I know they might cancel on me if someone else answers their request.