Can there be any romance in this hobby?
There's no romance between Hobbyist & Provider. We the "PROVIDERS" are not here to romance the hobbyist into pleasure!!!! We are simple here to satisfy that certain "Hunger" that thehobbyist can't get with their "Significant Other". If it's "Romance" that the Hobbyist wants, then the hobbyist needs to switch sites and actually date someone who is not in this type of profession. And if the provider does romance the Hobbyist, then it's only for several reasons. One of which is obvious...... It's called "MONEY".
There most certainly is a level of romance in the hobby. The romance one finds here IMHO is when there is that certain chemistry, level of comfort and the feeling that the provider is genuinely "into you". The chatter runs freely sometimes with her being giggly, making sexy flirtatious looks or even finishing your sentences. This "feeling" rarely occurs after only a couple of dates.
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She probably got dumped by her "Client"...dude wised up.
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I have some really really hot, sexy romance in this game. It is fucking amazing, and with multiple men.
It's definitely positive, if you can be ready for when they drop you like a dime and run back home to their wives or the next provider.
Money is a sign of mutual respect in my case. It's a boundary. And it's business, no doubt - and I like having wads of cash given to me - no doubt. But it sure makes the romance that much hotter when I get a little extra in that envelope. I feel loved.
Oh! I had a competition the other night. Five guys emailed me, one sent me a $50 amazon gift card. I got "Wish you well!" "I'm cheering for you in spirit!"
"Good luck! This makes me want you even more!"
So I go in, I sing in the competition, and it's rigged. NO ONE CHEERED for me, the audience was told not to... and I was not sucking by a long shot. A very developed singer in the house. My stage presence was on point, and I was singing a very hard to sing ballad. No one cheered for me during the song, and i knew that was going to happen. They cheered for people who couldn't even hold a pitch - really loud - and I sang like a mother fucker on steroids! (I had some tequila lol)
I was not interested in winning. I was disappointed in that strategy, that it kind of tarnished the whole meaning of music and brought falsity to the crowd. It didn't free them in any way, it actually used music to entrap them, and cause them to conform, and hold in their true emotions. That pissed me off.
But when I got up there, I thought about my benefactors, whom I see often. I really do care about them,a dn feel appreciated. I sang for them, and something changed in my presence immediately, and I wanted to win because I knew someone was cheering for me.
Then the next song, I decided Iwas going to strip and go apeshit on a crazy funny song. I started pointing at the men's penises to get crowd reaction, and it worked. I decided - fuck it. Courtney is singing now bitches!
And then I won the whole thing. LOL.
It can be romantic. I took them with me, and I felt inspired by them. It is romantic for me.
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Stop stealing my lines! 
When does the provider tell us we are not being romanced? During mish , ccg, Or bbbj.
I can never tell.
I was looking back over my reviews and I remember man of the ladies even from long ago. Many of the meetings were romantic from my point of view, even among those I only got to see once.
Imo that comes with chemistry and a level of comfortability that isn't generally on the first date. But, one person I know did pull it off rather famously on the first date. Also, you have to be open to it. Most gents are not in the hobby.
There can but you're better off going on a dating site where women aren't looking for your money
LOL I understand what you're trying to say, London, but let's think about "real life" dating for a moment. How many gold diggers are out there on the dating scene? When it comes to romance, men always wind up spending money on women.
If you mean, can YOU have a romantic session- Yes you can if you want. That's on you - just don't project your feelings on to her. She's there because you paid her - if you can get past that - I don't see why you couldn't. Love her for the session! Then leave.
You could always do it as a role play thing. If you would like an idea for that - think of the movie Casablanca... VERY romantic - but she leaves anyway. That may not be what you mean - but many girls are up for something like that if you want it. You are the brave resistance fighter leaving his lover for ... etc. etc. etc. etc.
So - YES, there can be romance!
If you mean, can you find a life partner/significant other - probably not. I have read on this board that it happens; I also hear that people win the lottery - but I don't do my financial planning on that.
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Many dates I've had with providers had romantic elements. They don't call GFE GFE for nothing. But it's understood by both parties that the "romance" is of a temporary nature, not true romance in that the goal is not romantic conquest but to have fun together while we're together.
When I'm with a client (I prefer to call him a friend or lover) I'm in LUVST with him, during the duration of our rendezvous.
The ultimate rendezvous for me, is...Passionate love-making / romance, that evolves into carnal sex, then ends with snuggling.
Otherwise I'd feel like a slut, knowing I was being intimate with more than one man. I'm not judging others, it's just the way I feel about intimacy, and how I physiologically handle being a provider.
When I'm with a client (I prefer to call him a friend or lover) I'm in LUVST with him, during the duration of our rendezvous.
The ultimate rendezvous for me, is...Passionate love-making / romance, that evolves into carnal sex, then ends with snuggling.
For my budgetary limits, I won’t go past an hour. So when I hire an escort, I want all out passionate love making for the majority of the session. I also hope she is really into the carnal-lustful act, has the stamina to do it and immensely enjoys herself when doing it. As far as romance and the tender moments, like cuddling and intimacy to looking into her eyes to tender kissing and caressing are still there (which enhances the session, especially after physical), but all so brief. Hence, I feel it takes longer than an hour for the romance to cultivate. So these are my thoughts, and I have to rely on positive similar types of ladies in reviews in hopes to get it this way. But when I do, the memory stays with me for a very long time.
Anyway, thanks for the feel good thoughts. It seems there are not enough of them on the boards
Anyway, thanks for the feel good thoughts. It seems there are not enough of them on the boards.
I'm just returning to escorting, but if you read my previous reviews from 2008 & 2009, nothing has changed. I'm an independent provider, and have never been a clock-watcher, as my reviews state.
And believe me, there's very few mature women who are as passionate and as sexually charged, as I am. As far as "stamina," my civie lover for the past 6 months, is 18 years old...and fucks like a porn star. 
So, if you ever make it to Vegas, I'd love to enjoy a passionate rendezvous with you...We seem like we have a LOT in common.
Sweet & VERY Naughty Kisses,
Robbin
xoxo
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Actually, Vegas is far away and I don’t plan on going there anytime soon. Also, I’ve never been there; yet, but thank you for the sweet reply and offer. I did read the “General Details” of your reviews, (I’m not V.I.P.) and they are stellar. I then went to your webpage and read your erotic “Natasha” story. You write well and I can see you have other talents. Anyway, as you’re getting back into the biz, all the best to you!
We all interpret it somewhat differently, and there are many different levels, textures, etc.
I, for one, find my hobby activities to be romantic, even if my partner's feelings don't quite match up and they are in a mode of performing professionally.
The not knowing is part of the allure
Powerful connection and chemistry, comfort with one another, mutual attraction - all can happen anywhere.
What is less likely is a long-term "civvie-type" relationship emerging from a romance that was begun in our secret little world. Some try and make it. Some don't.
My best advice is simply to be open, be yourself and let things play out. Avoid becoming cynical and jaded.
Great things can happen anywhere, anytime. Carpe Diem.
I look at this hobby as a series of first dates but you can have sex on the first date
I hope there is a romantic connection because it will heighten the sex, but most times there isn't
Which is probably why I developed sexy experiences for my dates, like the sexy blindfold, cock milking, cock caressing, cock games.
I admit that I don't usually kiss until I get naked, but if you want the fantasy that I read about in reviews where the guy walks in she gives him a DFK unzips his pants and gives him the best bj ever, I'd sign up for that one!
I started doing dinner dates many years ago, to stir up some romance and make it less if a session
I hope there is a romantic connection because it will heighten the sex, but most times there isn't
Which is probably why I developed sexy experiences for my dates, like the sexy blindfold, cock milking, cock caressing, cock games.
I admit that I don't usually kiss until I get naked, but if you want the fantasy that I read about in reviews where the guy walks in she gives him a DFK unzips his pants and gives him the best bj ever, I'd sign up for that one!
I started doing dinner dates many years ago, to stir up some romance and make it less if a session.
When I read your posts my brain reads them like a fortune cookie
Why is that?
Why is that?
Is there romance in real life? With such a high divorce rate, I suspect actual romantic love is a lot less common than people want to believe.
It's too bad, really, that men want to have sex with women friends, and women want to have sexless friendships with men.
Anyhow, to me if you can have sex with a friend, that's all the romance I want
romance here between hobbyist and provider have been discuss many times....it can happen, it can't be happen. i've heard retired provider married her regular client who they develop a romance relation, i also heard thing went bad between a couple who started as provider/client turn romantic.
Anything is possible, if you happen to be involve with one, just be aware of the risk/consequence just like any other relationship.
...it begins when I open the door....the words, the actions, the telephone calls, everytime he visits, that is what he wants a wild and exciting romance which ends when he leaves.... Until the next time.
kisses
Frederica
and you wouldn't have to bend my arm, but you may have to
kick me out ... OUCH! Ciao, bella
kisses
Frederica
Two different things.
Yes , there can be romance between client & provider. But it is not nor should it be an organic thing. It's not a blend of emotional engagement that leads to personal relationships.
Being the romantic type in appreciative of an environment and attitudes that create a romantic atmosphere. Dim lights , soft music, candles, champagne chilling on the table. When hosting in my hotel I welcome a lady into my immaculate room and I'm well groomed and nicely dressed . When I'm the visitor I appreciate the effort to make me " feel " like I'm a favorite lover dropping by for some fun. A fuck buddy if you will. Room preparation and personal appearance efforts plus a warm greeting mean a lot.
I've known a few ladies for a number of years. And I unapologetically care for their health and welfare. In some cases , yes , I might have a level of love. But that is entirely different than being in love.
Fantasy is a big factor in this activity of ours. But just as importantly are the boundaries. It's important to remember that a romantic encounter and a romantic relationship are two very different things
...romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but are also bonded emotionally—bonded both intimately and passionately, but without sustaining commitment.
(The above is an excerpt from a past study about love and is considered one of the more enduring academics. I posted it before and I’m posting it again; See link.
… and one can be committed to someone without feeling love for him or her.
--From Triangular Theory on Love (Wikipedia
I agree with you 100%
--From Triangular Theory on Love (Wikipedia)
I agree and try to bring the same to the date. Yes, session does sound clinical. But if you combine the love for your partner with an elevated state of eroticism .... they're almost always the best dates ...
Except for those instances where lust happens right out of the gate and you have to be separated like two dogs in heat ... how's that for romantic ...
Fortunately, I've experienced great pleasure either way. Not very picky when it comes to style. And sometime its the same woman that can deliver both .. you just never know what's in store for you.
l love women, I love sex.
Lots of love 
i can't do slam bam thank you ma'am, i gotta have some romance, some flirtation, some adoration on both sides.
plus i always bring presents!
In my case, my ATF and I enjoy texting each other in the weeks or months between our dates. A lot of "I love you" and other romantic shit gets exchanged. And I bring her wine and valentine candy and other romantic gifts.