I'm not going to beat you up too bad...
BUT!!!
At least with me...
When I give a gift, I am truly giving that.
Giving means NO STRINGS.
That gift becomes their personal property.
Thay can do with it as they wish.
Perhaps when she wears a gift from you
she has warm, caring thoughts of you.
What more can you hope for.
I enjoy giving gifts to family, friends and providers.
It would be in very poor taste to question the use
of these gifts.
But my favorite gifts to give are the ones I can give without EVER being found out.
And I do that whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Try that sometime.
Just my humble opinion
Just had an experience which brings up a question and I would like some other opinions. There is a lady (ATF) that I have been seeing regularly for several years and over that time I have given her a number of gifts. One recent gift was a VS outfit. She wears these on appts but I asked her not to share with other clients. So, fast forward several months to our last appt when she is pulling out her various working VS outfits, out comes my gift. I know that a gift should not carry any strings but I think she should have honored my request. I am interested in opinions from both guys and gals.
Thanks.
I'm not going to beat you up too bad...
BUT!!!
At least with me...
When I give a gift, I am truly giving that.
Giving means NO STRINGS.
That gift becomes their personal property.
Thay can do with it as they wish.
Perhaps when she wears a gift from you
she has warm, caring thoughts of you.
What more can you hope for.
I enjoy giving gifts to family, friends and providers.
It would be in very poor taste to question the use
of these gifts.
But my favorite gifts to give are the ones I can give without EVER being found out.
And I do that whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Try that sometime.
Just my humble opinion
I think most ladies will request what the gent asks.
Did you ask her??
Shaye
If you wanted a shrine, you should have told her.
I have been out of contact and just looked at the responses. I agree, a gift is a gift and I'm over my disappointment. Solution, don't give anymore gifts or at least any that I'm not willing to see her share. Thanks for the input, and being reasonably diplomatic about it. Regards.
I think the main point is being missed: "It's all about the money, stupid" I feel like there are emotions getting in the way here. My .02
This is only my opinion, but there shouldn't be strings attached to gifts (unless, you know, there are strings attached to the gift ;^D ). If you're going to put conditions on what she can do with it, call it a loan and take it with you when you leave. How do you feel about her use of the other gifts you have given her?
Maybe a different way of looking at it: What if she thinks about you every time she wears that particular outfit?
What if, by some chance, this lady considers you one of her favorites, too, and likes the thought that something you gave her is next to her skin when she's working, regardless of who she's with?
Yoda
She didn't bring it just because she was seeing you?
you like the outfit, you like the way she looks in it, you wanted it to be something special between the two of you.
in that case, it is not a gift for her, it is a gift for you. bring it with you when you visit her and ask her to put it on.
as most of the other respondents have stated, a gift with restrictions and conditions is not a gift.