Emotional and Physical. Emotional is a fine line though. GFE must have the kissing and the touching and I guess the acting. As for CBJ??? It isnt what I think of when I see GFE advertized but it does make me think that the GFE is limited, but then comeon there is a cover involved in all this and how many times does you GF jump up for a cover. But for me when I see CBJ on the menu I usually move on. I am not sure why, but I do. No offence meant. But then BBFS will also have me move on. I know why there
I have been thinking about some of the great and not so great times I have had with providers and thought I would put this up for comparison with others to see how common my preferences are. I'm sure someone will probably flame me for this or tell me it doesn't belong here but I figured I'd try it here anyway.
A couple of things that I consider SOP are to be on time and to be as close to ready as possible upon arrival. I'm talking about me being on time as well as the provider depending on whether it's in-call or out-call. I have always been a stickler for promptness to the point that if I'm the visitor I'm usually early and will find somewhere nearby to wait until time to actually "arrive". Also, if I am the visitor and have just left from work or had to travel very far I will always ask to freshen up. If I'm hosting I will always offer my facilities for her convenience. If she is running late for some reason that's fine so long as she keeps me informed and I will always try to return the favor.
Another thing is that I never book for less than one hour. Usually I try to book for 90 minutes or 2 hours whenever possible so we don't need to rush things that much. Lets relax and enjoy it.
Upon meeting, I have always disliked being told to "Make yourself Comfortable". To me that is already an indication of a "hurry up and lets get this done" attitude. I also don't appreciate it when she just gets naked immediately upon my arrival for the same reason. Let's take it slow and pretend it's a real date for at least the first 15 minutes or so. If this is a first time meeting, and she is nervous, I may go ahead and strip for her as a LE check or if she has another method that she prefers then I'm always willing to work with her but I prefer for her to take her time and slowly reveal what she has brought to the party. I love the anticipation and mystery. I love a good TEASE!
Lingerie is always fun and I love to see a sexy lady show off her latest silk or lace apparel but sometimes I prefer just plain cotton undies and maybe a t-shirt with no bra. It reminds me of the times I shared with some of my favorite non professional ladies and I love the feel of hard nipples under soft cotton. And that brings me to the main course.
GFE all the way. Yes I prefer a sweet GFE over the impersonal escort or the in-your-face PSE. Especially when the PSE is based on today's version of porn star action. I have spent the occasional evenings bored at home and found myself browsing the latest porn videos. For the most part I do NOT like what I see. It seems like the porn industry has decided the "Reality TV" meme is the way to go. As far as I can see it's horribly callous and super degrading to the women. I know a lot of you are saying "Well, YEAH, it's porn." But to me it's gotten a lot worse over the past few years and it really makes me sad that there is so little tenderness and gentleness in the sex. I have found a few really nice videos where the guys seem to be trying "or at least pretending" to be considerate and working to get the lady into the mood. I have seen some that were most definitely not acting. I realize there can be cut scenes where things can happen off camera. Such as maybe squirting a little lube inside of her and then the next scene shows him entering and then the moisture is there. At least it gives the illusion of a real live sex act where both parties are enjoying it.
Don't get me started on European porn. That stuff is the leading cause of spontaneous human combustion. There is no way in hell two people can rub their body parts together that fast and hard with no lube without someone's ass catching on fire. And then there are the deep throat scenes where the guy is forcing himself as deep into her throat as possible and then tries to force his way out the back of her head. Repeatedly!! Those don't do anything for me except piss me off and make me want to slap the idiot up side the head and teach him some manners. I'm definitely Not into gagging or excessive spit. And no forceful spitting on each other. I was always taught that is a sign of contempt and only fit for a grudge fuck. Not really into anal either. The only caveat to these things is if SHE likes them. If she is really into gagging or enjoys having a long tube of flaccid skin hanging off the back of her head that vaguely resembles a condom then that's all on her. I'll go a long way to please a lady but there are some lines I won't cross.
So now I'm down to what I Do like. And that is basically slow and easy lovin. Extended foreplay and plenty of mutual oral and masturbation. Gentle touching is always welcome, as is some sexy talk. Don't try to force me to have a good time and I will return the favor. Please do tell me what you like and want me to do. I not only enjoy hearing those words from you but it also takes a lot of guess work out of the encounter. If I'm doing something wrong tell me. If I'm doing something right then I'll probably be able to tell by your reactions but it doesn't hurt to tell me that as well. Body language is great but spoken commands are a lot more accurate and sometimes it's just fun to say those things. Or hear them.
After reading this post (which was a wonderful depiction of what a true encounter should be btw) I am curious as to what fits the standards for gfe. I always take my time and treat my guests like old friends, so our interaction feels more natural than just a business transaction. This is for your comfort and mine as well. I have said this to a few guys in conversation, but I like to enjoy our time just as much as you guys do. After all, isn't that one of the reasons I choose to be in this business over many others?
This being said, I do not advertise as GFE because I do not offer bbbj, which in CA is a deal breaker if you are looking for "GFE." Is this term too widely used, and means just what it says a GIRL FRIEND EXPERIENCE. Mutual touching, cuddling, etc. Or is there no GFE without bbj?
Thoughts
I won't say there is no GFE without BBBJ but it does make a difference. However, it's not a deal breaker as long as she has a really sexy mind and some of my favorite dates have been all safely covered. It depends on her attitude more than anything else. I'll take a lady with a great sense of eroticism over a hard physical encounter any day.
Is it a difference large enough to advertise GFE without offering it?
That has always been my take on GFE. Sharing moments that don't necessarily FEEL like a service. Sensual and erotic. Playful and open to exploration. Really genuinely enjoying our time together. I am almost certain there are GFE providers that only provide bbbj and no experience.
Emotional and Physical. Emotional is a fine line though. GFE must have the kissing and the touching and I guess the acting. As for CBJ??? It isnt what I think of when I see GFE advertized but it does make me think that the GFE is limited, but then comeon there is a cover involved in all this and how many times does you GF jump up for a cover. But for me when I see CBJ on the menu I usually move on. I am not sure why, but I do. No offence meant. But then BBFS will also have me move on. I know why there
Interesting reading to say the least. Yes in many ways I agree with you.
Being on time is a sign of respect. It cant always happen but there should be a call before being late and a sincere apology upon arrival. Some are always late always always always, both guys and girls and I just dont have the time for them.
As far as dress up goes, I usually let it up to the lady. All will do thier normal on the first date, but after 6 or 7 will let their hair down. And I have seen tshirts, dresses, robes and a few times nude on the bed.
As for as 15 mins of chat goes, on the first date it is needed. After that lets play GFE and go for what ever feels natural. Actually if you do attacked at the door she is giving you a lot more recovery time and I would say Kudos to her.
As far as PSE, which isnt in anyway GFE, sometime I am in the mood for that. Talk dirty to me please, and yet other times I like the slow and soft and senual. Some ladies can do both others specialize. Some will toss both into the same date.
And as far as porn goes, I wont comment on it with the exception that I only watch it for its instructional value.......lo
I always wonder where they find those girls with such tiny hand
Along with tiny mouths come BIG teeth, ow wee!, ouch!, dang it! ,as I try different angles, but those BIG EYES looking up at me, and like the Big Bopper sang--- they make me spend my $, make me man up and keep on pumping, er, I added the last part---forgot his version of what they make him do;P~~~ R.I.P.
I agree with 90% of this. Im also the slow and easy type. Piston-ing a poor provider for 15+ minutes feels terrible to me and Im sure she's trying to hold on and not cry. However on one occasion the provider practically attacked me at the door, which was quite amazing actually. Due to my ahem......restrictions she didnt leap into my arms but Im sure she would have were the circumstances different. Even with a strong, fiery start I still like to have slow to medium speed actual sex. Most of the providers seem to enjoy it, but that could be fake which is fine to me. I would rather fake than dead fish. And I like to kiss.....ALOT. I got these giant 1/2 black guy lips that all of my lady friends seem to love which is great because I love it also. I say 70% of the time I get some decent kissing action, this is because I like new girls so I sometimes will get a non-GFE provider.
Verbal commands are not only more accurate but I love to hear them. "Touch me...........here" That will get me going quickly. I enjoy the lady having a good time. If she is, then I am also.
Thanks for recapping what I want & hope for when meeting with friends.