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GoldieKnox See my TER Reviews 354 reads
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If a guy wastes his time with a date:
- his time is wasted
- he is disappointed (emotional tolls)
- hopefully a make-up offer will be given
- he now has free time
- he could maybe see someone else short notice he already knows or check active ads on 411 or HX
- possibly out travel costs (gas/hotel/flight)
- possibly out deposit  
- saved a lot of money on the date itself potentially

 
If a girl wastes her time on a date:
- she is out a significant amount of money
   A.) cost of getting ready if it was short notice cancel/no show
   B.) cost of her time (which we don't charge for) screening/verifying/booking with you
   C.) possible travel costs (gas, hotel, flight, room, etc)
- loss of potential income  
   A.) the date with you means income counted on (maybe even needed) won't come in
   B.) someone else who is reliable could have been booked instead
   C.) very difficult to fill in short notice  
- she is disappointed (emotional toll - and this could affect her other dates potentially even if she can't shake it off or bounce back from the cancelation/no show/etc)
- avoided a potential asshat
- has time to relax
- some girls can contact a regular or post a short notice special to try to fill the slot (heehee, get it? slot)
- time to masturbate (what? oh, just me I guess heehee) or do other things
- ....too many more but you get the idea

 

So all in all I would consider a providers actual cost of a cancelation/no sow/etc to be greater than when it happens in the reverse. With us there is always an up-front expense wether it's travel, incall costs, costs of supplies for getting ready, drivers, etc etc as well as the loss of potential income. Therefor the detriment to us is typically greater as this is our income not just our hobby

I don't think I can post a review on someone I didn't actually end up seeing, but I want to let the community know about my experience:

Made an appt to see a provider I hadn't seen before, texted back and forth, set up time, no problems. However due to an outdated GPS got completely turned around and stuck on a toll road - COMPLETELY MY FAULT. Bottom line I was going to be late. I asked if I could move appt ahead 30 minutes but she said that wouldn't work. I thought I might make it there only 15 minutes late but no, finally I had to ask if I could reschedule. The next text has her yelling at me about wasting her time and blacklisting me. I thought that was pretty crummy. I had no intention of flaking out. I wanted to try again, so was this response really necessary?? Instead of perhaps being gracious and understanding that S sometimes happens, this is her attitude? I would like to report who is was like for a review, but is this the right place? I know I would want to know this about a provider, if I was considering seeing her.

session(s) had no problems, you are likely to get some slack for an occasional problem like you experienced.  When this happens with a girl you are seeing for the first time, there is no way to repair it.  Its your fault, and you did waste her time from her perspective.  Just let it go and move on to someone else.  There is no way to fix this unless you are willing to send her the money for the session you missed before you book a reschedule.  

She is not selling you sex, she is selling you a block of time, during which you have an understanding of what you are going to be doing.  If you are late, or no show, you still pay for the block of time you reserved, even if you didn't get the activity you were expecting.  Man up and do the honorable thing.  

No one ever "plans" to be late, but if you are, its on you, and you pay for the time, unless in her sole discretion, she offers some kind of make-up compromise.

focalpint420 reads

Sleep on it. You may be more sympathetic to her POV tomorrow. She may have had a rough day. Bashing her here likely won't have the effect you desire and may make you look bad.

plenty of other providers to see in America's Finest City!

Sorry, but I call BS.
Regardless, YOU were late/a no-show. She has a right to be angry. A few threads down there's a similar post from a provider asking what to do after her no call/no show. I hope she did the right thing and made it up to the jilted client.

She could have booked another date during that time frame, and you messed up. At least offer her money for that time, or part of it, along with an apology. Then move on, by either booking her again if she accepts the offer and you still want to see her, or move on to another provider.
Forget about trying to make her look bad because you were the cause of this dilemma. Just my two cents.

ya,
I was looking in my backpack and there they were. I can send them to you so you can Man UP. you have 13 Reviews, you are no rookie. You expect this woman to be a happy camper because your "Faulty GPS" didn't work? If you would have said, hey, I am so sorry, i don't want you to be hurt financially, I going to send you the fee, that's classy, that's respectful. you weren't 15 minutes late, you were a no show. Man Up, reinstall your testies, send her at least half of what you booked, move on. by the way, I'm not saying I'm right, I'm saying that's my opinion.

13 reviews and he's not a rookie?

You have a very low bar.

I feel your pain Sir, I really do.  
I sometimes feel as you do, in desiring to let all know
whom is an inconsiderate Hobbyist, a constant canceller, an unfortunate NSNC, or just
a lonely, however chronic pen-pal instigator via PM or email, with no intention of ever
scheduling with me. {ugh!}  {This act can be verified by most Providers and does
occur frequently.}

As for Providers;
those whom are mean, pushy, and downright uncooperative, in sharing client
referencing, info, or even in returning a text, email, or PM.  {Even though I know
certain persons do not feel it is their "civic duty" to do anything but sit there and
look pretty!   I'd enjoy sharing...

But I just don't in a public forum.    I do however, let my very
few, tightly knit group of galpals know whom is a timewaster, and the like.
I believe we all do.

I have never yelled at anyone, though, that is because I bite my proverbial  
tongue!   I try to maintain my composure, and turn the situation around by offering said perpetrator understanding and kindness.... "Shit happens!"
Then I scream into my pillow!  lol

This generally does not occur with the wonderful older gents, whom I adore, and whom I'm convinced, that punctuality and chivalry is inbred in them!  ;)

However, it's usually from the occasional younger visitors whom, though I cherish most  
of them as much as I do my more seasoned friends, I think that a few believe scheduling an appointment, then being very late, or cancelling last minute, or completely
NSNC, {No Show, No Call} is just "no big deal"!?  WTH?  

Most service persons charge a missed appointment fee;  particularly, Plumbers,
Hairdressers, Doctors, Dentists, and Nail Technicians.
I have now adopted one as well.  

This particularly happens from those whom book on the weekends I'm finding most.
Perhaps it is a lack of being on the weekday time-restraints, of work, as it is the  
lackadaisical weekend?   Who knows?

Whatever the reason, excuse, or complete lack of consideration, tis
a complete "blacklister", point-of-contention for myself.  
I give said persons, one more attempt to make the faux pas corrected.
However, if they do it again, thereafter, I just block them.

It takes time and energy, not to mention expense, to constantly prepare for  
the receiving of a visitor.  

Now, don't for a moment think that I am complaining;  
I absolutely positively love what I do!   I'm rather politely reminding those whom
care to know;
that it is not a "face splash", a quick rinse-down shower, a toothbrush, gargle,
and an out-the-door scenario for most women.  

And furthermore, I know I do not lie around my lair, waiting with bated breath,
every daunting second for a client inquiry.  Nor for an appointment to magically
appear.  

Most of us are normal people, whom have real, harried and full lives.
Some of us, have other careers in addition, {I know I juggle several},  
and family obligations, enrichment classes, or higher education to tend to..
You know, just like you!

I wish I could just entertain guests all day and night; that would be a dream job!

With regards to your issue Sir, of desiring to publically "review" said Provider;  
that by all means is your personal decision.  
I do believe however, you may think about making it "right", by offering her a cancellation inconvenience fee.  

I won't blast persons publically, however, I certainly will put notes in my phone, which details,  
the incidence, and I will greatly pause before  scheduling again, if ever.  
And as I mentioned prior, I will discuss with a few others, the client particulars, if asked for a  
reference of "Mr. What's-His-Name", so they too, will not befall the
dilemma of missed time, income, and inconvenience, which there oft-seems to be
a disproportion of.

Warmest Regards,
Angelina Jones

Angelina thank you for the thoughtful and considerate remarks, as for the rest of the replies it is not surprising this board is not active like the old days, when people weren't so quick to jump down each other's throats and just be asses.

Onlyalurker386 reads

I know my isn't. I've had plenty of sudden cancelations, delays, reschedules and ncns. And none of the providers have ever offered anything to make up for my wasted time. Not to mention all the wasted gas and time for bait & switches, old photos, inaccurate descriptions and fake/bs reviews. It's all part for the course in this business. "Man up and send her the fee" lol,
What utter  nonsense!!

If a guy wastes his time with a date:
- his time is wasted
- he is disappointed (emotional tolls)
- hopefully a make-up offer will be given
- he now has free time
- he could maybe see someone else short notice he already knows or check active ads on 411 or HX
- possibly out travel costs (gas/hotel/flight)
- possibly out deposit  
- saved a lot of money on the date itself potentially

 
If a girl wastes her time on a date:
- she is out a significant amount of money
   A.) cost of getting ready if it was short notice cancel/no show
   B.) cost of her time (which we don't charge for) screening/verifying/booking with you
   C.) possible travel costs (gas, hotel, flight, room, etc)
- loss of potential income  
   A.) the date with you means income counted on (maybe even needed) won't come in
   B.) someone else who is reliable could have been booked instead
   C.) very difficult to fill in short notice  
- she is disappointed (emotional toll - and this could affect her other dates potentially even if she can't shake it off or bounce back from the cancelation/no show/etc)
- avoided a potential asshat
- has time to relax
- some girls can contact a regular or post a short notice special to try to fill the slot (heehee, get it? slot)
- time to masturbate (what? oh, just me I guess heehee) or do other things
- ....too many more but you get the idea

 

So all in all I would consider a providers actual cost of a cancelation/no sow/etc to be greater than when it happens in the reverse. With us there is always an up-front expense wether it's travel, incall costs, costs of supplies for getting ready, drivers, etc etc as well as the loss of potential income. Therefor the detriment to us is typically greater as this is our income not just our hobby

Posted By: GoldieKnox
If a guy wastes his time with a date:  
 - his time is wasted  
 - he is disappointed (emotional tolls)  
 - hopefully a make-up offer will be given  
 - he now has free time  
 - he could maybe see someone else short notice he already knows or check active ads on 411 or HX  
 - possibly out travel costs (gas/hotel/flight)  
 - possibly out deposit  
 - saved a lot of money on the date itself potentially  
   
   
 If a girl wastes her time on a date:  
 - she is out a significant amount of money  
    A.) cost of getting ready if it was short notice cancel/no show  
    B.) cost of her time (which we don't charge for) screening/verifying/booking with you  
    C.) possible travel costs (gas, hotel, flight, room, etc)  
 - loss of potential income  
    A.) the date with you means income counted on (maybe even needed) won't come in  
    B.) someone else who is reliable could have been booked instead  
    C.) very difficult to fill in short notice  
 - she is disappointed (emotional toll - and this could affect her other dates potentially even if she can't shake it off or bounce back from the cancelation/no show/etc)  
 - avoided a potential asshat  
 - has time to relax  
 - some girls can contact a regular or post a short notice special to try to fill the slot (heehee, get it? slot)  
 - time to masturbate (what? oh, just me I guess heehee) or do other things  
 - ....too many more but you get the idea  
   
   
   
 So all in all I would consider a providers actual cost of a cancelation/no sow/etc to be greater than when it happens in the reverse. With us there is always an up-front expense wether it's travel, incall costs, costs of supplies for getting ready, drivers, etc etc as well as the loss of potential income. Therefor the detriment to us is typically greater as this is our income not just our hobby.  
   
   
 
 If I ever have to cancel on you Goldie, I have probably passed away lol.   I "Live for dates with special ladies"
so a big loss if doesn't happen.  But I do a lot of homework - so no mistakes in years.  I'm sure these types of situations are difficult for all, but I haven't been disappointed with a date in years.

We are just hearing one side of a  story...your side.  Maybe it wasnt that big of a deal for you ...maybe it was a big deal for the provider who lost out on money she possibly needed because of your tardiness.

What  if she booked someone right after you and that was the reason she could not move the appt back 30 min.  What if she turned down other appts in your time slot only to have you get lost and need to reschedule?

Its not her fault you are driving  around and depending on outdated GPS.  You were late, probably which most likely cost the provider money and   she got pissed and now you are on here complaining that she was not more " gracious" about it.....

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....if you were a provider and did not know your NEW client and you have gone through hundreds of no shows, hundreds of people sending you a penis picture, hundreds of just wanting to do sexting, hundreds of bad excuses why being late(including my mom just died-excuse, obviously not true excuse!), hundreds of people low balling you, hundreds of people wanting to pimp you out, hundreds of people wanting to offer you to trade stolen goods or drugs I never use, hundreds of people making fun of you or just want to say hello....the list can be endless...

So if you were that provider listening to all these people trying to trick you and you find another one that seems to just want to waste your time AGAIN, you would get MAD too. You would be so mad you would not know what to do. Some people bubble up and tell you how mad they get because it is not easy to keep all that in after a while...

But some providers are able to just simply block you by not saying anything. I choose that approach because I do not want to trigger the other party.  

If you would have kept telling me you will be there and kept postponing your arrival I would have canceled and blocked you. Not that I am an extra angry person but after those thousands of time wasters listed above I just don´t have the energy anymore to make exceptions. I would not know if you are actually late by mistake or playing with me.

I recently had a young guy keep saying he was close to arrive and he ended up being 60min for a 30 min appointment. He wanted a military discount on top of my already low rate. So I said my rate for 90 min is $350 that includes the 60 minutes I had to wait for you.  

Then the same day another young guy said he wanted to see me in 10min but I was not home and asked if we could meet in 1h. He said ok. He also kept saying that he was almost there. I said NO you are 45 min late for 1h appointment. Plus he had a longer time than planned to get there. I did not believe he was anywhere near or had no intention to see me. He said please I took the bus from El Cajon and I was lost when walking. I drove to pick him up at the bus station. I did not charge him extra and I drove him back to the busstation. He should me good intentions and went out of the way to see me.

If someone has good intentions and I am available to wait I will do that for them. But it is sometimes hard to know when people are honest and it can very stressful when S happens to people too often. It is very difficult to plan my schedule and I feel worn out. So I do not have as much patience with BS any longer. I just walk away nicely.

I wrote this to have you understand how it feels like being a provider. We do have good clients and those make everything great we love our lives. Sometimes those no shows cluster together and then our patience are not that great.

My advice to you is to pay her for her time  and try to imagine how you would feel in her shoes.

xo Jessic

If you booked time, and last minute, whether you show up or not, its still your time :) If the offer 50% it is gracious. If not, then it is still your time.

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